Coming Out Late

In this episode, Robin talks with Kari DeWitt, an LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach as well as a Spiritual Mentor. This is not Robin & Kari’s first rodeo or podcast episode together - Robin interviewed Kari back in Episode 5 of the “Coming Out Late” podcast in November of 2021, as her first-ever podcast guest. Back then, they chatted with one another about all-things LGBTQ+, sharing bits ‘n pieces of their own coming out late stories, as well as talking about the enormous growth each were experiencing in their own private Facebook groups, Kari’s “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”, and Robin’s “Coming Out Late” group. A year later, they pick up where they left off, continuing to address LGBTQ topics, but this time perhaps, in more broader terms as they zoom-out from their microscopic views of simply coming out late, and explore the deeper realms of what their queer awakening may really mean.

In this episode you will hear Robin and Kari discuss . . .

• How has Kari’s coming out late journey changed in the year that passed since Kari was last on the “Coming Out Late” podcast?
• What has Kari learned about herself and about her sexuality in the last year?
• Has the “landscape” of coming out changed at all, in the last year?
• What has ‘spirituality’ have to do with my gayness, my coming out?.
• This is bigger than our sexuality; our awareness and declaration of our queerness is a stepping stone to something greater for each of us.
• What is the difference between ‘woke’, and ‘being awake’?
• Awakening to our true ‘beingness’ also gives space for other doors to open and for you to get curious in your life.
• We each have a purpose here. We came into this life as this particular human to have this particular experience, to learn a specific lesson.
• What is the kryptonite for ‘shame’ and ‘guilt’? Helping women get closer to their authentic self, which is soul - that which is greater than ourselves.
• Getting quiet with yourself long enough to be able to have a relationship with this inner being.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, KARI DEWITT:

To learn more about Kari DeWitt and her LGBTQ+ Mindset & Empowerment Coach, AND Spiritual Mentor offerings, go to: https://www.karidewitt.com

TO LISTEN TO EPISODE #5, MY NOVEMBER 2021 CONVERSATION w/KARI DEWITT, GO TO:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coming-out-late/id1589128068?i=1000540356354

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Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Spea

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In this episode, Robin interviews late bloomer and emotional wellness coach, Dee Burrell. Robin and Dee’s chemistry and easy-conversation style make it easy to ponder the possibilities that our thoughts are not who we are - that they’re just thoughts. Likewise, the two discuss and disclose what it was like to realize you are gay at the age of 5 but living in the south being raised a staunch southern baptist. After four children, eight years of clawing her way out of the closet and fourteen years of a hetero-normative marriage, it is obvious to Robin’s listeners that Dee IS finally living her best life.

In this episode you will hear Robin and Dee talk about . . .

• What does it mean when Dee says, “...we are not our thoughts?”
• What external factors impact and affect our inner knowing?
• How adult questioning, when we’re young, can be SO off-putting and presumptuous. For Dee, *something* didn’t fit their line of questioning.
• Dee recalls thinking, “...I’d grow out of it, I’d marry a man, I’d have kids…you know, I’d do all the things that were expected of me…”
• Choosing the men we are to marry: “...you’ll do just fine; you’re smart, you’re attractive…we’ll have adorable babies…you know, like, this is what I’m supposed to do…”  We convince ourselves that THIS is where we’re supposed to be.
• Our lives, and our marriages, they were definitely NOT what they appeared to be; people looking from the outside in, idolized what they thought we had.
• Typically, NONE of the ‘things’ that we are terrified will happen, ever happen at all. They are all just thoughts in our minds, stories we tell ourselves that don’t even exist.
• Using personal development tools to get through familial betrayal.
• Allowing ourselves to feel ALL the feelings. Do not resist the hard feelings. What we resist, persists.
• Our power is latent in us all; we just need develop the courage to tap into it.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THANK YOU TO OUR SPECIAL GUEST, DEE BURRELL:

To learn more about Dee Burrell and her emotional wellness offerings, go to: https://www.sapphiccoaching.com

THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Take advantage of the special Presale Offer to join the year-long, 2023 Vision Board Workshop by registering before January 1st in order to snag the $249 presale deal. Starting January 1st, registration into this one-of-a-kind Workshop goes up to $299 per person, for the year-long Workshop. To find out how you can Register and pay NOW, please email Robin at: [email protected].

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.There have been some revisions to the 2023 Retreat Schedule. We are “retreating” in Florida in March, and setting up our Retreat in the Phoenix Arizona area in April. To be put on the wai

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In this episode, Robin debuts a new segment of her podcast called, “Consider the Possibility”. In “Consider the Possibility”, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.

In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .

• What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?
• How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
• Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?
• Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?
• What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?
• What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?
• By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.
• How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

THE 2023 COMING OUT LATE RETREAT.Get on the waiting list for the March 2023 Coming Out Late Retreat to be held in the Phoenix or Scottsdale, Arizona area by emailing ARIZONA to Robin at: [email protected].

THE 2023 VISION BOARD WORKSHOP:Get on the waiting list for the January, 4-week Vision Board Workshop. Cost includes instruction and guidance, assessments, four, weekly 90-minute Workshop sessions and three additional quarterly, hour-long accountability meetings throughout the year. To be added to the Waitlist and for more information about the workshop, please email Robin at: [email protected].

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

Three out of the four Coming Out Late Support Groups are suspended until further notice while Robin recovers from the influenza virus. The one support group that is open to anyone in need of weekly support is “Bisexually Speaking”. You must use the link below each and every week, in order to register and receive the sign-in information. There is a $5 per person, per meeting WEEKLY “Cover Charge” to participate.

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

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In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Greg Sowell, host of his own podcast called, “Why Am I?” Greg’s premise behind his “Why Am I?” podcast, is that he likes talking to interesting people and tries to trace a path to where they were to where they find themselves today. Nonetheless, Robin makes an excellent guest on his show, because clearly her path to where she was to where she finds herself today is quite an unlikely path indeed.

In this episode, you will hear Greg interview Robin and learn . . .

• How and why Robin became a solopreneur, and what that means. (Hint: an unexpected and abrupt - and illegal - ending to her marital alimony suddenly had Robin scrambling to support herself.)
• Why Robin thinks we are all going through a metamorphosis throughout our lives, explaining why it’s important we embrace change and impermanence, because nothing stays the same - change is inevitable.
• Robin says, “...I always knew there was something more for me to do, to accomplish…always wanting to know my purpose in life…”
• How Robin followed the breadcrumbs along a 10-year journey.
• Recuperating from her nearly three-year divorce and how two and a half years after her divorce, she was faced with a very difficult financial and legal decision.
• How Robin freed herself from being beholden to her ex-husband, wanting to be fully self-sufficient and independent - depending only on herself.
• Theories on why there are droves of people coming out late in the last 4-7 years; and how many come out near their 30th, 40th, 50th, 60th, 70th+ birthdays.
• Coming to terms with being gay and how we choose to express ourselves (as gay people), publicly, AND, reconciling that expression of our gayness.
• Fear paralyzes us. When you’re feeling the fear, ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” Feel the fear and do it anyway.
• What roles do ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at [email protected], to request your copy of the Recording.

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10p

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In this episode, Robin is interviewed by Abigail, a relatively new, self-proclaimed pansexual, and Host of her own podcast all about relationships called, “The Manic Pixie Weirdo”. The week before this episode aired with Robin, Abigail did a solo episode on her podcast called, “My Relationship with Coming Out”, and therefore wanted to interview Robin to learn more about her own relationship with coming out, and what Robin’s process was like.

In this episode, you will hear Abigail interview Robin and learn about . . .

• My “Aha!” moment, at 54 years young!
• My ten-year span of ‘awakening’ after a lifetime of heteronormativity.
• There’s no puttin’ the genie back in the bottle once she pops out!
• There are two camps of women: those who ‘knew’ but for external societal reasons had to stuff it down; and those of us who stuffed it so far down, (due to implicit societal reasons), that it took decades to ‘know’.
• How inexplicable, confusing infatuations back then, make complete sense now.
• Do we need ‘labels’? Do we want labels?
• Married women liking women: oh my gosh, this IS a ‘thing’!
• How do you know for sure you’re gay, having never been intimate with a woman?
• Is it ‘normal’ to feel resentments about NOT coming out sooner?
• In what ways have I, and do ‘we’, personally grow, since coming out?
• I’ve come out late in life, so, what else don’t I know about myself?
• Everything in my life happens FOR me, not TO me!
• Hetero-dating versus same-sex dating - who makes the first move? How do you flirt?
• Indoctrinating yourself into the gay culture; ask for guidance if you need it.
• When in doubt, just use “ya’ll” for everyone’s pronouns.
• Coming out later: is self-care selfish?
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  

Links to resources:

THE FIRST “COMING OUT LATE” RETREAT OF 2023:

Come join Robin and your coming out late peers at the very first retreat of 2023 in March, in Phoenix Arizona. To be added to the Phoenix Retreat waiting list, email Robin your name to: [email protected].

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: A Conversation with Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More”, and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne & Lena Schwen.You can purchase the RECORDING from this Speaker Summit by sending $27 to either Venmo: @comingoutlater or PayPal: @NovareInternational, THEN emailing Robin at [email protected], to request your copy of the Recording.

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/

WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COM

Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join

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In this episode, Robin takes us back into an inside look, (“Part Two”), into several really poignant conversations that took place in one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group this particular week, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.

In this Part Two episode, you will hear and learn about . . .

• We pick up the conversation with the idea that ‘feeling uncomfortable’ and ‘feeling uncertain’ are simply aspects of life that we must accept. That we must get comfortable with being UNcomfortable; that we must learn how to be comfortable while also feeling uncertainty.
• We talk about how “we don’t HAVE to make this moment, or this situation tolerable for everyone else just so that I can tolerate it.”
• We collectively agreed that we WISHED someone would have said to us, as young girls, that it’s ok to disappoint people - that they’ll be ok. We shared what the magnitude of that conversation would have had on our young lives, and beyond, had we been told that it’s ok to disappoint others.
• How much growth and ‘riches’ exist in the sitting-in the unknown, and sitting in the discomfort.
• We learned how to manipulate and control as a result of feeling out of control growing up; those tactics and auto-responses come with us into our adult relationships.
• Learning to feel safe and trustworthy within ourselves.
• As children, we learned coping mechanisms to conform and ‘not disappoint’ in order to keep the peace. As adults, we need to shed these coping mechanisms that no longer serve us when we learn to trust ourselves.
• THIS is it! A declaration - no longer a question!
• Staying (in my marriage or hetero-relationship would have been easier. Easier for who? What IS “easier”?
• Don’t look back(wards). Appreciate the experiences that made us into who we are today. We are the sum of ALL of our experiences!
• Our lives unfold precisely how they are meant to unfold.
• Our lives, our stories do NOT have to look like everyone else’s.
• What does “gay” look like today? How do you represent? If you’re very femme, how do you let others know you’re gay?
• Some Bonus conversation about Episode #55, and if/how we should come out to elderly parents and grandparents.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: How to Handle the Holidays Before, During or After Coming Out!!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: [email protected] for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you

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In this episode, Robin shares with us an inside look into one of her four weekly support groups she facilitates for women coming out late in life. With permission from all the women in this small group, on this particular day, they collectively agreed that the conversation that transpired was just too good NOT to share with her podcast listeners.

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• We initially opened the conversation by pondering the following comment/question: “Do you find that it’s much more intense dating women than men?”
• Discussing that first question then morphed into us discussing THIS question: “Have you found it hard to not get caught up in the ‘new relationship energy’ feelings? What are some tools you would suggest to help with those intense ‘new relationship energy’ feelings?”
• Feel the feelings. Feel ALL the feelings. BUT…do NOT let new relationship-energy cloud your judgment!
• What is New Relationship Energy? (NRE)? And is it something to avoid, fear or dive-into?
• How do recovering people pleasers handle the intoxicating feelings from new relationship energy? Are there tools to deal with new relationship energy?
• How do you transition, within a relationship, from ‘new relationship energy’, to something more sustainable? From obsession to success & sustainable?
• The importance of our female friendships and their ability to tell us with loving kindness the difficult things we need to hear about ourselves.
• Setting realistic expectations for yourself, AND within a relationship.
• The value in maintaining personal autonomy within your relationship.
• While sounding cliché, the critical nature of communication in ALL of our (close) relationships.
• Trusting our feelings and our intuition.
• Tools for our personal growth.
• Having everything, but still feeling, “...is this it?”
• If somebody would have just said this to me when I was a little girl . . .
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass  

Links to resources:

SPEAKER SUMMIT #4: Handling the Ho-Ho-Ho-mophobia During the Holidays!Join us virtually in Zoom on Wednesday, November 16, from 7pm to 9pm EST when we invite Hulu’s star couple from “Mormon No More” and creators of their “Peace Out” podcast, Sal Osborne and Lena Schwen. Who better to talk to us about how to handle the holidays than this family of seven children, and two ex-husbands, than a couple of former Mormons. $27 pp. Register using the Calendly link below. Recordings are available for purchase for $27, by emailing Robin at: [email protected] for the Live, virtual event here:https://calendly.com/comingoutlatecommunity/speaker-summit-4

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

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In this episode, Robin is being interviewed by Annie McKinnon, creator and Host of “Talking All Things LGBTQ”. With a full year under her belt, since starting her own podcast and coming out to the world in the first few episodes, this is an interesting inside look at Robin’s recount of her story a year later, as well as her reflecting on the many lessons she has learned along the way. One thing she knows for sure, is that loving a woman has been a beautiful journey and “easier” for her, than loving and being involved with a man, but? It is not always easy either!

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• Sleep-walking through life, then married with children for 28+ years - but the Universe was whispering a different message to me.
• Compulsory-Heteronormativity and deep social conditioning.
• Fearing the unknown; we fear what we do not understand.
• What is homophobia? Is it innate? Is it real? Is it suppressed? Learned?
• Stuffing down and numbing the feelings.
• Unconventional research to figure this sh*t out! And meeting the women who gave me absolute affirmation, confirmation and validation.
• The “Aha!” moment; and how did that feel - in the moment?
• The painful Messy Middle, dealing with my divorce and telling my children.
• That moment when I knew my life, (moving forward), was never going to be the same.
• Coming clean to my loved ones - regardless of their potential reactions.
• Through self-assessment and self-reflection, you will learn your attachment styles, love languages, and self-love.
• Learn by doing: educating ourselves with every interaction and every relationship we have, and asking yourself: are you well-aligned with this person in all aspects of being human?
• Book:, “Attachment Theory: by Joan
• Our awakening to our sexuality is our super power!
• Unlearning old values and beliefs. Is that MY belief or someone else’s ‘voice’?
• Q: “When can I put all this (difficult stuff) behind me?” A: “When you take the time to put it in front of you.”
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93024For information on how to join any one of the four Support Groups, simply email Robin at: [email protected]

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In this episode, Robin discusses the in’s and out’s of relational compatibility, emotional EQ, timing, chemistry and of course, ‘curiosity’ with friend, colleague and Lesbian Curiosity Coach herself, Samantah Fox.

In this episode you will hear and learn about . . .

• Figuring out chemistry: even with video-chatting, and audio-texting constantly, ‘chemistry’ may be evident for some, and not for others; everyone processes at their own pace and in their own way.
• The importance of understanding each other’s ‘intentions’ for meeting, AND, being open and honest about your wants, needs, intentions and expectations. The importance of gaining CLARITY!
• The importance of understanding your own “triggers” and what makes you put your guard-up and what you can do to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.
• The importance of REALLY recognizing when you and another person are misaligned. It is SO common, (and SO unhealthy) for us to, (all along the course of getting to know someone), hope and dream for ‘her’ and for ‘things’ to be a certain way, when they really aren’t.
• The necessity of self-assessment and self-awareness in order to figure out what you want and need in a relationship; AND, be open to the possibility that those things you think you need and want may change and evolve.
• How much it matters that two people are, (as much as possible), in very similar points in their lives as they try to enter into a relationship with one another, (i.,e., just divorcing, the messy middle, new to dating, been out for several years, in an open marriage, not out to anyone yet, etc.).
• No matter where you are in the “Coming Out Late” journey, the necessity of learning who you are; being rigorously honest with yourself and others.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass 

Links to resources:

THE LESBIAN CURIOSITY COACH - SAMANTHA FOX

website-https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/lesbiancuriositycoach/

YouTube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

ALL of our now FOUR support groups have gone to a $5 per person, per meeting “Cover Charge”. ALL groups are now accessible via a unique Buy Me A Coffee link that is special to each of the four support groups, AND, once you’ve paid, will take you to the Zoom link needed to enter the support group. Here are those special Buy Me A Coffee links to join each of those support groups:

Women Helping Women, every Tuesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93122

Bisexually Speaking, every Wednesday at 12:30pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

Women Loving Women, every Wednesday evening at 7:00pm EST

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93137

Fifty Plus & Fabulous, every OTHER Thursday from 7pm EST to 10pm EST

(Next dates: 10/20/22, 11/3/22, 11/17/22)

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In this episode, Robin continues to break the mold in the world of LGBTQ podcasting by introducing us to one of her listeners, Michelle, hailing all the way from Australia. Robin was so struck by a note she received from Michelle, that she knew she had to share it with her listener’s, with MIchelle’s consent of course. Robin also knew that the impact of Michelle’s words and all the sentiment behind them would be better spoken by Michelle herself. So, Michelle agreed to read her own letter to Robin, aloud, for the Coming Out Late audience.

Whether covered directly, or implied, this episode touches upon topics which get us thinking about . . .

• The universal nature of coming out late, no matter where in the world we live.
• The effect of women in non-traditional, but male-dominated occupations.
• Is it a woman’s responsibility to help make a man feel ‘whole’ if he feels emasculated or threatened by a woman?
• Being with men, cutting off bits of myself and making myself smaller in order that they would feel like men.
• Many of the late in life stories include complex arrangements and rearrangements of marriage and children and Incredibly courageous and challenging journeys. This guest doesn’t have children, and is not married.
• There is more to “identity” than just our sexuality.
• A life lived out of other people's expectations is a life dominated by fear and resentment.
• Being honest with other women, from the very start.
• Am I an “L”? A “B”? Or maybe a “P”? Do we need labels? How do I flirt with a woman?
• Do I now need to dress differently and wear beanies?
• Which life-lived is my real reality? Everything feels completely flipped upside-down, or sideways, or completely averse.
• Sexual identity versus cultural conditioning; internalized homophobia, people pleasing and the female anatomy.
• It seemed that the rainbow world offered many possibilities for stepping out of one cage and into another.
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