Thirty seconds before the closing number of her dance graduation concert, with talent scouts and agents in the audience, Jacinda Patty was doubled over on a spiral staircase beside the stage. Not nervous. She physically could not breathe. A nervous cough had taken hold and would not stop, and the clock was running. In about 30 seconds she had to be back on the front line, lights up, full smile, bringing it like nothing was wrong.

That moment is where she learned what presence actually is. Not a moment your body cooperates. The choice you make when it absolutely does not.

In this solo episode Jacinda makes the case that presence is not a personality you are born with, and not a lucky few who just have it. It is a choice you make in the moment, over and over, and the confidence follows the choice, not the other way around. She breaks it into three frameworks: presence is a decision not a gift, choose what you can actually control, and shift your focus from yourself to the room. Then she leaves you with a 3-second challenge you can use at the doorway of your very next meeting. If she could walk back out on that front line when she could barely breathe, you can choose presence walking into your next room.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps):

00:00 - The cold open: off stage, doubled over, cannot get air in, 30 seconds to showtime 01:00 - The thesis: presence is not a personality, it is a choice you make in the moment 02:00 - "There is a specific microsecond where you go from I physically can't to I'm walking out there" 02:30 - The setup: 19, dance graduation, talent scouts in the room, career on the line 03:30 - The nervous cough, the staircase, the friend who kept her present 05:00 - "My body was doing one thing and my mind was running in another direction" 06:00 - The decision: the nod, the choice to go on, then steadying herself 07:00 - Framework 1: Presence is a decision, not a gift (ready is a myth, confidence is a result) 09:00 - Framework 2: Choose what you can control (feet, shoulders, marks, eyes up) 11:30 - Framework 3: Shift focus from me to them (panic is self-focus) 13:30 - "The most self-conscious person in the room is the least present" 14:00 - The 3-second challenge: feet, breathe, one line ("I'm here for them") 15:30 - The close: it was never about your body behaving, it is choosing to show up anyway 16:30 - The invitation: the August webinar Join the FREE Webinare: > LINK

CONNECT: Host: Jacinda Patty Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

"Grind culture is a presence killer." That is how Jackie B. Grice opened this conversation, and she would know. Jackie is a wellness strategist and the founder of Soul Sabbatical Retreats, and she also co-owns a transportation management company, an industry that never stops moving.

For years she led from fear. If she slowed down, she would miss a bid, lose an opportunity, lose her people. If she stopped, the bottom would fall out. Then COVID stopped the wheels on the bus completely, and Jackie was forced into the one thing she had spent her whole career avoiding: two days of silence. What she heard in that stillness rebuilt how she leads.

In this episode Jacinda Patty and Jackie pull apart the wellness industry's "do more" myth (the pressure to tick off 10 things a day just to feel like a good person), and get honest about what burnout actually does to your leadership: the rushed hires, the eroded boundaries, the performing of presence instead of having it. Jackie shares a jaw-dropping story about a fear-based hire that went very wrong, then gives her practical 3-step framework for nervous system renewal, grounded in the truth that you do not need to fix the moment, you just need to regulate it. A warm, funny, and genuinely useful conversation about why the future of powerful leadership is quiet.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps):

00:00 - Why grind culture is a presence killer

01:00 - The noisiest myth in wellness: hustle and the "10-lister" trap

03:00 - "Social media pretty": chasing an unattainable bar

05:00 - The breaking point: COVID, and naming her fear-based leadership

06:30 - "The wheels on the bus did not go round and round, they stopped"

08:00 - The intervention: two days of silence in the front yard, and hearing "launch deeper"

11:00 - How burnout showed up: anxiety, rushed hires, attracting the wrong people

15:00 - Performing presence vs having it: people-pleasing and no boundaries

19:00 - Coaching a friend in the same trap: "do not quick-hire"

22:00 - The story: the fear-based hire who turned out to be the head of a drug ring

28:00 - Her 3-step framework for nervous system renewal

31:00 - The sacred no, and the 90-second reset (emotions metabolise in about 90 seconds)

33:00 - "Call it": Jacinda on naming jealousy to circuit-break it

37:00 - The future of leadership: quiet, self-aware, led from the soul

40:00 - The self-care that is actually garbage: chasing trends and the youth obsession

45:00 - Who a soul sabbatical is NOT for: the woman who will not say yes to herself

50:00 - The flagship Soul Sabbatical (Salamander Resort), and where to find Jackie

GUEST:

Jackie B. Grice - Wellness Strategist & Founder of Soul Sabbatical Retreats

Follow Jackie on Instagram: @jackiebgrice

Retreat: The Soul Sabbatical

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

William Miller is 10 years old, and he owns every room he walks into. In this episode Jacinda Patty sits down with a speaker who has commanded stages in New York, Las Vegas and Los Angeles, where he is almost always the only kid in the room. As William puts it: "not because I'm special, but because none of us show up."

It started when he was eight. Street racing in his community had nearly hit his grandmother, so William walked into his local city council, terrified, and spoke about it for the first time in his life. Six months later they put up a traffic light. A camera happened to be there, the clip went viral, and William ended up across 52 news stations. He has been building his voice ever since.

This is a masterclass in embodied authority from an unlikely teacher. William unpacks his daily practice, the push-ups he does right before he walks on stage, and what authenticity really means: "It's your stage. Your crowd. You're not just someone who speaks, you're a speaker." He also reframes the thing adults always get wrong about kids, that they are the future, when the truth is they are the present. A short, sharp reminder that impact has no age limit, and that your voice can change things the moment you decide to use it.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps): 00:00 - Intro: a leader who happens to be 10, and why he doesn't play video games 01:30 - "Level up your character in real life": William's mission vs the screen 03:00 - Being brave the first time: walking into the city council with no experience 04:00 - The result: six months later, a traffic light goes up 04:30 - The line: "the only kid in the room, not because I'm special, but because none of us show up" 07:00 - William's 3 steps to building a character in real life (believe / your people / God) 08:00 - The real backstory: street racing, his grandma, and the decision to act 09:00 - Going viral: 52 news stations, World News, Telemundo 10:00 - Stagecraft: daily practice, and push-ups right before he walks on 12:30 - Authenticity, defined: "it's your stage, your crowd, own it" 18:30 - The reframe: "you're not just the future, you're also the present" 21:30 - Where to book or follow William: www.itswilliammiller.com

Guest:

William Miller Follow William on Instagram: @williammillerspeaker Website: www.itswilliammiller.com

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

Two minutes before a kids' dinosaur show, the fan holding the entire set upright snapped. What saved the day was not a backup plan. It was gaffer tape. In this solo episode, Jacinda Patty takes you from touring theatre across rural Australia to the rooms where you lead now, and makes one quietly radical case: the skill of presence is not never breaking. It is taping the crack back so fast the client never sees it.

From a feathered T-Rex puppet that would not fit through a tennis court gate in Tambo, to a friend's shoe shattering on the way to a Byron Bay wedding, Jacinda shows what composure actually looks like in the body. Not the absence of chaos, but the refusal to panic in front of it. You will leave with her field-tested tool for the moment everything goes wrong: Listen, Pause, Breathe, Think, then Respond. Because the audience is filling the room, networking, arriving ready for the big show. Your job is their experience, not your backstage scramble.

Scene Map (Timestamps):

• 00:00 The cold open: the fan breaks two minutes before showtime, and gaffer tape saves the set
• 01:00 The thesis: every business is held together with gaffer tape, learnt touring dinosaur shows around Australia
• 02:00 The real skill: do not panic, reach for the tape, keep the cracks invisible
• 03:00 Tambo, rural Queensland: 20 kids who had never seen theatre, a show booked on a tennis court
• 04:00 The visceral moment: the Australovenator puppet does not fit through the gate as the kids arrive
• 05:00 The save: restructuring the show on the fly so the children never knew anything changed
• 06:00 The tool, named: Listen, Pause, Breathe, Think, then Respond
• 07:00 Byron Bay: a friend's shoe breaks, and Jacinda runs through town in heels hunting for glue
• 08:00 Karma and the callback: the same shoes break on her, and she walks straight to the DJ for gaffer tape
• 09:00 The takeaway: composure is your gaffer tape, plus the Presence Lab invite (2 July, UTS Startups)

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

In this episode, Jacinda Patty sits down with marketing specialist Lisa Greensill to unpack what it truly means to step out from behind the screen and command a room. If you are a business leader drowning in the noise of AI homogenization or holding yourself back because you don't fit a corporate mold, this conversation is your wake-up call.

Lisa pulls back the curtain on her own physical and mental shift, moving from a self-described "fizzy brain" hiding in part-time freelance writing to stepping onto a massive industry stage at the FAAA Congress. Together, Jacinda and Lisa break down how authority is built from the inside out: by setting intentional energetic boundaries, mastering the choreography of physical pauses, and shifting your framework from a self-focused performance to an audience-first rescue mission.

• The Homogenization Trap: Why AI is making everything sound identical, and why raw humanity is the ultimate leadership competitive advantage.

• Shifting the Focus: The exact moment Lisa stopped trying to look "perfectly polished" and embraced the StoryBrand framework—making the client the hero and herself the guide.

• The "Banana Suit" Realization: How trying to fit a posh, corporate mold holds you back, and why owning your distinct frequency draws your ideal audience to you.

• The 4-Part Confidence Blueprint: A deep dive into journaling your future feelings, choosing who you help, and guarding your physical and mental energy.

• Stagecraft and the Fizzy Brain: Lisa shares the raw reality of standing on a massive stage at the FAAA Congress, dealing with racing thoughts, and using physical pauses to anchor her authority.

• The Choreography of Connection: Jacinda breaks down how words, body movement, and slides must work together as a fluid choreography to permanently change how an audience feels.

Lisa Greensill

• Follow Lisa LinkedIn
• Website: Brandover

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

Stop letting hidden variables dictate your presence. In this episode, Jacinda sits down with event producer and video specialist Dave Power to tear down the wall between back-of-house technology and front-of-house leadership. Dave shares his journey from lugging high school Handycams and burning VHS tapes to producing high-stakes experiences for CEOs and corporate leadership teams.

This isn't a conversation about gadgets; it's an exposé on how venue commissions, silent power dynamics, and production gatekeepers can dilute a leader's message before they even step up to the microphone. Dave reveals how to spot the invisible compromises in a room, why true authority requires total transparency, and the physical resilience needed to navigate live-production curveballs without breaking character. Whether you are planning a corporate roadshow or stepping onto a stage yourself, this episode is a masterclass in taking absolute ownership of your physical environment.

01:16 – The Handycam Heritage: Dave reflects on how capturing early subcultures on VHS laid the foundation for modern spatial storytelling and digital walkthroughs.

10:48 – The Technology Handover: Moving past food service to technical care—helping corporate elites cross the bridge from analogue legacy to digital fluency.

20:45 – The Roof Light Extortion: A breakdown of a high-pressure moment on a corporate stage where hidden venue fees threatened to leave a client literally in the dark.

30:54 – The 48-Hour Fringe Collapse: Jacinda shares a raw, unvarnished story of production betrayal, creative stamina, and what happens when an artist refuses to be fleeced.

41:13 – Owning the Room: Strategic advice for C-suite executives on bypassing rigid in-house AV models to maintain creative control over their corporate identity.

Dave Power

Follow Dave @powercreativeau

Website: https://powercreative.com.au/

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

What happens when you are dropped into the middle of nowhere with two hours of rehearsal, a pat on the back, and a puppet that's supposed to terrify children but ends up moving like a hovercraft? In this episode, we unpack a wild journey to Charleville, Queensland, to reveal a fundamental truth about leadership: "Ready" is a complete myth. True presence isn't built in the comfort of a rehearsal room; it is forged when you have no choice but to survive. Learn how to lower the stakes in your own mind, stop focusing on your internal panic, and channel 100% of your energy into serving the room.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps):

00:03 - The Red Dirt Shock: Flying into remote Queensland with zero preparation time.

02:11 - The Hovercraft T-Rex: Laughing through the chaos of a live performance gone wrong and relying on stagecraft survival instincts.

04:21 - The Illusion of Ready: The neuroscience behind why we use "preparing" as a hidden commitment to delay launching.

05:25 - The "You'll Be Right" Method: How high-stakes leaders use low-stakes energy to regulate their team's nervous system.

06:30 - Stop Shaking, Feed the Puppet: Shifting your focus away from your own nerves and entirely into your message, client, or offer.

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

Stop talking just to be heard. In this episode, former technologist turned professional speaker AJ breaks down why traditional executive presence is broken and why the future of leadership belongs to those who drop the robotic facade and choose to care. Moving past the superficial "look at me" stage dynamics, Jacinda and AJ dissect the physical and mental shifts required to step off the corporate hamster wheel and optimize for true humanism at work. From reading a room full of hungover executives to breaking the literal physical "box" of corporate body language, this conversation is an unfiltered masterclass in owning your story, taking up space, and creating a genuine ripple effect of impact.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps):

01:07 - The Noise in the Notes: Why the greatest speakers spend an extraordinary amount of time listening, not talking.

02:22 - The Melodic Instrument: Breaking down the vocal range and how corporate trends are killing our natural inflections. 04:47 - The Death of the Ego: AJ shares the exact transition from wanting 300 people to look at him, to measuring success by how he supports the room. 13:58 - The 3-Step Presence Framework: Step-by-step tactics to find where your audience is at, serve them, and accept their pace.

18:47 - The Heart-Centered Differentiator: The critical operational difference between empty pandemic empathy and real, actionable care.

25:48 - The Shoulder-Line Trap: The fascinating physical manifestation of corporate compartmentalization—why executives never raise their hands above their shoulders.

36:04 - Slaughtered in the Lion's Den: The brutal reality of trying to humanize a top-tier Melbourne law firm and getting fired before reaching home.

43:24 - Garbage Industry Advice: Why the standard "speak on every stage" rhetoric will stagnate your career growth. 51:12 - The Video Ref Analogy: Why relying on AI and analytics to pre-read your audience creates a barrier to real-time performance adaptability.

Key Takeaways:

The 3-Step Connection: You must diagnose where the room is, determine how to serve them, and remain entirely at peace with their speed of execution Empathy vs. Active Care: Empathy is just understanding where someone is at; care is the physical action of getting into the trenches with them . Break the Box: Rigid corporate environments condition you to limit your physical range . Embodying authority means breaking out of "robot land" .

GUEST:

AJ Kulatunga

LinkedIn: AJ

Website: https://ajkulatunga.com/

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

In a world obsessed with $1 billion valuations, authors Wenee Yap-Derricott and Thomas Derricott bring a grounded, gritty, and uniquely Asia-Pacific perspective to the founder's journey. This isn't a lecture on tech, it's a masterclass in Business Reincarnation. We dive into the "Specialist Trap," the "Pyramid of Priorities," and why your physical and emotional work ethic is Australia's greatest global export. If you're a solo entrepreneur feeling the burn, this episode is your map to finding joy in the suffering, and building a business that actually makes money.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps):

01:25 - The Silicon Valley Mirage: Why chasing $1B valuations is the "wrong dream" for APAC founders.

03:15 - The Spartan Method: How Australia's capital efficiency creates the world's toughest warriors.

11:58 - The Specialist Trap: Why lawyers and experts often become the biggest "flame outs" in business.

13:20 - The Pyramid of Priorities: How to triage today's cashflow vs. tomorrow's legal structures.

21:40 - "Never Say the Worst Thing": The high-stakes relationship advice that saved a marriage and a book deal.

43:55 - AI vs. EI: Why emotional intelligence—not artificial mimicry—is the survival tool for 2030.

GUEST:

Wenee Derricott-Yap & Thomas Derricott

LinkedIn: Wenee / Thomas

Book: Riding the Unicorn: The Startup Guide You'll Want to Read

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/

True presence isn't the absence of nerves; it's the mastery of your internal physics when the external world is literal chaos. Drawing from a high-stakes circus performance at the Canberra Floriade festival—balancing on a colleague's skull amidst screaming children and festival crowds; Jacinda Patty breaks down why leadership is a feat of acrobatics. Whether you are 10 feet in the air or in a high-pressure boardroom, your ability to stay centered depends on three physical pillars: breath, gaze, and the courage to stop micromanaging your balance.

SCENE MAP (Timestamps): 00:00 - The Circus Scene: Performing a "boat" act in the middle of a chaotic flower festival. 00:02 - Physics of Panic: Why driving your weight through your "center line" is your only safety. 00:04 - Leadership Alignment: Why focusing on the "crowd's reaction" causes a fall in business and acrobatics. 00:06 - The Delegation Lesson: How micromanaging your balance makes it impossible for your team to support you. 00:08 - The Head-to-Head Framework: Breathing regulation, avoiding overcorrection, and the power of the gaze. 00:11 - Proprioception: Maintaining situational awareness without losing your line .

CONNECT:

Host: Jacinda Patty

Follow Jacinda: @jacindapatty

Command Your Presence (CYP): https://www.commandyourpresence.com/