Back by popular demand, Joe Newman is here for his third visit to The Parenting Reframe Podcast. Joe Newman was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and has made it his life’s mission to help parents figure out how to “raise lions,” kids who want to do it themselves. His book, Raising Lions, is one of my favorites and a resource I recommend constantly. In this episode, we discuss the biggest issues we are seeing while working with families today. This includes longer discussion about tantrums, and why we don’t completely agree on what to do when your child is having a tantrum. 

Here’s what we talk about with Joe: 

• Why play deprivation is a problem today and why kids need more time to play independently.
• Kids need to experience struggle in social situations to create change and learn how to better manage their experience on their own. 
• Providing all the answers for kids takes away an “I do it” moment and creates kids who identify as incapable and want things done for them. 
• The nature of attachment between parent and child changes over time and the parent has to allow it to happen in an open and supportive way. 
• How to reframe the negative perception of tantrums and child’s behavior.
• Why Joe and I disagree about whether or not to hold your child during a tantrum.
• Using a break as a self regulation tool to help kids get through a difficult moment and become more resilient. 
• Allowing kids to experience deprivation and challenges on their own without judgment creates more independent, resilient, and happy individuals. 
• Kids act as scientists to figure out their way around a situation so it’s incredibly important to hold your boundaries. 
• Practicing holding boundaries at home will make doing it in public easier and reduce your feelings of anxiety in the situation. 

Resources:

Joe Newman’s website to set up a consultation or discovery call: https://www.raisinglions.com/

Joe Newman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinglions/

Joe Newman on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinglions1

Raising Lions by Joe Newman: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Lions-Joe-Newman/dp/1453639683/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1686055923&sr=1-1

Raising Lions with Joe Newman podcast episode:  https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/raising-lions-with-joe-newman

A Raising Lions Q+A with Joe Newman podcast episode: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/a-raising-lions-qa-with-joe-newman

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