Good communication is really hard. 
  We'll be the first to admit that in the heat of the moment it can be really tough to validate your partner's experience, use clear and empathic language, and also ask for your needs to be met.
  
 We make a living teaching couples how to have good communication and we STILL struggle with this.
  
 So in this episode, we're roleplaying some of our listener-submitted arguments, and breaking down their communication breakdowns.
  
 Links & Resources:
 Video: 5 Communication Tips For Couples
 Guide: Golden Rules Of Communication
 Masterclass: Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life
  
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Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

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Health

Health & Fitness

Xander’s back in the hot seat answering all your burning questions about male behavior!
Why do guys mansplain? Why do they struggle to find things that are right in front of their faces? Why are men always initiating when we’re right in the middle of something like doing the dishes? Why can’t they ever be vulnerable? And what’s with the obsession over the volume of their cum??
Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.

Links & Resources:
Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” Xander Explains Male Behavior

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Episode 159: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2

When the spark dies off in a relationship, it’s really easy to blame it on libido.
But is libido actually the problem?
In this episode, we reveal the truth about sex drive and ask a big question, “does libido even matter?”
Links & Resources:
Ultimate Foreplay Guides
Next Level Intercourse
Art of Initiation
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Episode 158: Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…

Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
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Episode 157: Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)

What do you do when it’s been a while…
When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
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Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)

We’re back again with another edition of Am I The Asshole. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.

We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.

If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the asshole when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.

Links & Resources:
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Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours

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