You’re not alone — and this episode is for you.
We’re walking through these submissions with curiosity, compassion, and practical tools to help these couples — and you — feel more connected, more confident, and more turned on by your sex life again.
💬 What we’re going deep on:
- When your sex life is fine but also kind of meh
- Why you might not know what you want and how to figure it out
- How to handle performance anxiety (without hurting anyone’s feelings)
- What to do if you’ve never had an orgasm (you’re not broken!)
- When your partner wants sex every day and you’d rather do anything else
- How to stop making sex feel like just another to-do
🔥 Resources mentioned in this episode:
💖 Deeper Membership - https://vmtherapy.com/deeper
Our affordable, all-access monthly membership packed with expert-led courses, playful date night ideas, live coaching calls, and Vanessa AI — your on-demand sex therapist bestie.
💋 Ultimate Foreplay Guides - https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay
Whether you’re craving more excitement or just want a refresher on what actually feels good — these guides make foreplay easier, hotter, and way more fun for both of you.
🌸 Finishing School - https://vmtherapy.com/finishing-school?ref=podcast&utm_term=podcast
Never had an orgasm? Not sure where to start? This course helps you overcome the emotional and physical blocks that might be getting in the way of pleasure.
💦 How to Have Your First Orgasm (Free Guide) - https://free.vmtherapy.com/best-orgasm
A gentle, shame-free introduction to learning what feels good — and how to actually enjoy it.
🧠 Sex Drive Types Guide (Free) - https://free.vmtherapy.com/sex-drive-type
Are you responsive or spontaneous? This guide will help you understand your own desire type — and why it’s been causing friction in your relationship (spoiler: it’s not your fault).
🛠️ Performance Issues? We’ve got you.
If you or your partner are struggling with performance anxiety or feeling pressure to “last longer,” check out these resources:
- How to Talk to Your Male Partner About Performance Issues - https://vmtherapy.com/youtube-video/how-to-talk-to-your-male-partner-about-his-performance-issues/
- Ep. 149: Partner Performance Problems? Here's What To Do And What NOT To Do - https://vmtherapy.com/episode149
- Ep. 47: What Penis Performance Problems Really Mean - https://vmtherapy.com/episode47
- What to Do If You Have Performance Anxiety About Your Orgasm - https://vmtherapy.com/vanessa-marin-sex-therapy/what-to-do-if-you-have-performance-anxiety-about-your-orgasm/
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