In this episode I cover the Appendix - Parenting Styles: The Relevance of Culture, Class, and Race in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

Love is both a feeling and a needCollectivistic cultures tend to minimize or even disfavor self-interest and self-actualization, which leads to repressed feelings, e.g., of resentment and depression

When parents spank children, they inflict pain and induce fear in them, i.e., fear of parental "authority," which sends a really confused and contradictory message to them about their own individuality and choice--and it perversely mixes notions of love with violence. Basically, violating the rights of children doesn't help them flourish.

Lenient parenting methods are just as lopsided as punitive parenting methods. They don't teach children respectful ways to express feelings and get needs met, while meeting the needs of others. It's important for parents to express their feelings in relation to their unmet needs, and be advocates for getting their needs met as much as children do.

Many thanks to Alfie Kohn for putting such a book of useful information about parenting into the world. May the memes of unconditional parenting spread far and wide, so that adults learn that there are life-enriching, win/win ways to get needs met in families, and children therefore grow up healthy and happy. :)

Youth Voices on Peacemaking and Conflict Resolutionhttp://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL84.htm

Marshall Rosenberg 6-09 When Authority Destroys Creativity from NVC Training Coursehttp://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Training-Course/dp/1591794439

bumper music "Joyful Wonder" by Otthttp://www.ottsonic.net/

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http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/stolen_concept,_fallacy_of.html

promoting intrinsic motivation: trust children, and they will learn...http://summum-bonum.org/

no matter who you vote for, politics (government) always wins

http://www.meetup.com/LeewaySudburySchool/

http://completeliberty.com/viii__objective_law.html

Taking on the California DMVhttp://www.youtube.com/hotforliberty#p/u/32/41ZY5LSDEZA

Parenting with Naomi Aldort - S.A.L.V.E. Formulahttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFlPe14SuAY

Five Principles of Libertopia1. All actions should be peaceful and voluntary2. Honor the self3. Rule yourself4. Live and let live
5. Community of Spontaneous Order

by Larry Ludlow...http://www.freedomsphoenix.com/Magazine/098621-2011-10-29-libertopia-2011-four-days-in-the-freest-place-on-earth.htm

bumper music "California" by Semisonichttp://www.semisonic.com/

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In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/empathy

An assortment of helpful nonviolent communication resources I've compiled (2MB download of PDFs)http://dl.dropbox.com/u/7585370/NVCcompilation.zip

Our culture has a tough time with the idea of self-centeredness, similar to the notion of selfishness; Ayn Rand helped clarify:http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/selfishness.htmlhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/contradictions.html

You are your highest value, first and foremost, which enables you to see others as their own highest value--thus, neither sacrificing oneself to others, nor others to oneselfA world of selfless people is not one in which people are getting their needs met

A profound way to explore your inner-self, especially your child-self--The Art Of Self-Discoveryhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38

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bumper music "A New World" by Antinomiecouldn't find link; closest site - http://www.myspace.com/nemystic

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Agora I/O - the online liberty unconference...http://agora.io/laozi/schedule/http://agora.io/laozi/archives/Libertopia - an annual festival of peace, freedom, music, community and ideas that will change the World...a 3-day celebration of our individuality and diversity in sunny San Diego...http://libertopia.org/In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Ten: The Child's Perspective in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Happiness is our highest moral purpose, so it's vital to know what it objectively requireshttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/happiness.htmlOut-of-context happiness (e.g., ignoring the ills of statism) is just as disconnected from one's true self as the unhappiest depressionPunitive parenting and punitive governmental actions tragically go hand in handThe commonly misunderstood ethical terms...http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/self-interest.htmlhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/altruism.htmlhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/trader_principle.htmlAt a bare minimum, parents need to convey to their kids the extreme importance and sanctity of their persons and property, i.e., the nature of respecting individual rights in societyhttp://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/individual_rights.htmlIn a free society, everyone can be productive; "competition" is merely people bringing various values to the marketplacebumper music "Let There Be Light" by Astral Projectionhttp://www.myspace.com/astralprojectionaviliorto comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697

In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/Taking responsibility is greatly diminished in those who administer punishments, since they commonly blame the disobedient person who's being punished as "bringing it on themselves" or "choosing" to be punishedWhenever what we want comes across as a demand (rather than a request), we tend to pay a price psychologically and socially in terms of getting our needs metAs humans, we all have the same needs: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventoryAnd feelings are universal as well:http://www.cnvc.org/Training/feelings-inventoryThe all-too-commom process of parents telling children what to do and when to do it, such as eating and sleeping, greatly hinders the process of children learning to take responsibility for their own basic functions as growing human beings; and, it doesn't meet their needs for respect and autonomy (among other needs)Check out the facets of whole-life unschooling...http://www.unschooling.info/ ; http://www.unschooling.org/ ; http://www.holtgws.com/whatisunschoolin.htmlDayna Martin: What is Radical Unschooling?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiHyzS26N0YIan Freeman's thorough overview of the NH CD liberty activism http://freekeene.com/2011/09/03/ians-blog-from-jail-3/bumper music "Sunrise" by trance[]controlhttp://www.trancecontrol.com/to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697

In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Nine: Choices For Children in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

Even if you're not a parent who is frustrated about how to deal with kids so that your own needs are met, it's key to get in touch with your child-self, so that you can focus on life-enriching, respectful interactions that are essentially win/win with children

Using operant and classical conditioning on children (and adults) basically prevents them from becoming mature human beings, beings that are self-actualized, self-confident, self-respecting, independent and happy; "pop behaviorism" disconnects us from our feelings and needs, treating us as nonconceptual creatures to be punished or bribed instead of reasoned with

Children are volitional, conceptual beings, in contrast to other primates (and all other organisms)Homo Sapiens: The Rational Animalhttp://www.logicallearning.net/libhomosapiens.htmlThe Crucial Faculty Of Choicehttp://www.logicallearning.net/libfreewill.html

Statism is a recapitulation of the coercive family environment, in which kids' need for respect isn't met (among many other needs)

Domination language and domination structures thwart our need for autonomy and foster widespread coercion and hypocrisy

As humans, we all have the same needs: http://www.cnvc.org/Training/needs-inventory

The Secret Of Childhood by Maria Montessorihttp://www.amazon.com/Secret-Childhood-Maria-Montessori/dp/0345305833http://www.questia.com/PM.qst?a=o&d=8977399

bumper music "Chasing The Sun" by Ryan Farishhttp://www.ryanfarish.com/

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In this episode I cover the second half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/The process of administering rewards and punishments doesn't treat individuals as equals; authoritarian power imbalances are inherentSound property rights enable jurisdiction, whereas "public property" enables constant injustices by the coercive (and communistic) monopoly of statist police and courts About Ian Freeman's unjust incarceration and the nature of the system of injustice...http://freekeene.com/2011/08/11/what-can-you-do-when-you-dont-approve-of-police-actions/The practice of self-acceptance is a key component of self-esteem, of embracing one's fundamental worthiness, being fit to existThe Six Pillars of Self-Esteemhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=35Unschooling: What is Deschooling?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9meP3a64MzY"Authority," given its unreasonable nature, will never respect reason and choice in individualsInfo about unschooling and John Holt's books...http://www.holtgws.com/bumper music "Nothing Left To Give" by Sarah McLachlanhttp://www.sarahmclachlan.com/to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697

In this episode I cover the first half of Chapter Eight: Love Without Strings Attached in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/

Some of Ayn Rand's views on love...http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html

Life is what you make of it; your sense of life essentially colors your experiences yet doesn't alter objective reality; no one's needs ought to be sacrificed in the process of living happily

Nonviolent communication is truly a language of life, essential for adults and children--for familieshttp://cnvc.orghttp://nvcworld.com

Instead of offer criticism, strive to complain effectively...http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/12/73-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-1/http://healthymindfitbody.com/2011/06/20/74-complaining-effectively-with-psychologist-guy-winch-part-2/

Helpful and comprehensive psychotherapeutic workbook to compassionately connect you with your own child-self, among other subconscious facets: The Art Of Self-Discoveryhttp://www.nathanielbranden.com/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=21_23&products_id=38

Peace Talks Radio interview with Jorge Rubio, an NVC trainer (40mins)http://www.goodradioshows.org/peaceTalksL05.htm

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Nonviolent communication thread...Open NVC Sessions...http://completeliberty.com/forum/topic/13

bumper music "Do you do you love me" by Ninahttp://www.ninagoddess.com/

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In this episode I cover Chapter Seven: Principles Of Unconditional Parenting in the book Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards And Punishments To Love And Reason by Alfie Kohnhttp://www.unconditionalparenting.com/up/bringing parents and children together...http://takingchildrenseriously.comParental rationalizations for coercing children are quite similar to governmental rationalizations for coercing "citizens"we are fallible beings, so making mistakes is a natural part of lifehttp://www.logicallearning.net/libertyourownima.html"Children construct a theory about their own motives based in part on our assumptions about their motives, and then they act accordingly: 'You think I'm just plain bad and need to be controlled all the time? Fine. Watch me act as though you're right.'" Kohn p.211"We can help kids to develop good values by treating them as though they were already motivated by those values. They thereby come to believe what's best about themselves and live up to our trust in them." Kohn p.213It's clear that parents need to learn the process of nonviolent communication, so they can foster win/win, life-enriching interactions with children, in which no one's needs are sacrificedhttp://nvcworld.comhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parentingsome post-porcfest 2011 details...NSP - Jul 2, 2011 - Co-host: JT & Guests: Sovereign Curtis and Calvinhttp://www.marcstevens.net/nsp-commercial-free/474-nsp20110702.htmlbumper music "Voyager" by Antinomie (couldn't find link)

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Inc.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Jobshttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Wozniakhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pirates_of_Silicon_ValleySecrets From Apple's Genius Bar: Full Loyalty, No Negativityhttp://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702304563104576364071955678908.htmlhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apple_Storehttp://blogs.computerworld.com/18157/samsung_blatantly_copies_iphone_ipad_apple_sues?uaVideo: Jobs Pitches New ‘Mothership’ to Approving Cupertino City Council | Epicenter | Wired.comhttp://www.wired.com/epicenter/2011/06/cupertino-jobs-ufo-building/http://dvice.com/archives/2011/06/a-first-look-at.phpThe question that must be asked of those in "city governments" (or any is "government") is: what would you do in a free market, in the absence of your coercive organization?And how can liberty activists help them answer that important question?The pervasive distrust in humans to make beneficial and helpful choices for themselves and others is directly reflected in conditional parenting tactics and the various rewards and punishments of operant conditioning in families, in schools, and in all governmental systemsTake Action! - Fight Aging!http://www.fightaging.org/take-action/https://www.opencures.org/For The New Intellectual by Ayn Randhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/For_the_New_Intellectualhttp://tfasinternational.org/ila/AynRand-ForTheNewIntellectual.pdfbumper music "Revolution" by The Beatleshttp://www.beatles.com/  http://www.myspace.com/thebeatlesto comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697