Type of loss: Early-term losses, Ectopic Pregnancy, Chemical Pregnancy, Blighted Ovum
More about this story: In this episode of Confessions of a Grieving Mother, Julie talks with Heather to share a story that spans infertility, pregnancy loss, medical trauma, and the complicated, enduring hope that lives alongside grief.
Heather and her husband Brian were first diagnosed with unexplained infertility at age 30, beginning a journey where grief arrived long before any lossโgrief over the inability to conceive freely, over the uncertainty of waiting, and over watching others experience pregnancies that felt out of reach. After multiple rounds of treatment, they finally conceived, only to experience an ectopic pregnancy and the devastating loss of their baby, Thistle, in a medical emergency that turned joy into trauma in an instant.
What followed was a long and complicated path through IVF, embryo transfers, and repeated heartbreak. Heather shares the story of their embryos, their โdouble rainbowโ boys born after loss, and the fragile hope that came with each attempt to grow their family. Along the way, she experienced multiple miscarriagesโincluding the losses of Rowan, Hazel, Willow, and Sageโeach one carrying its own weight of grief, questions, and longing.
Through it all, Heather speaks honestly about the emotional toll of repeated loss, the strain on her body and spirit, and the moments where she questioned whether she would ever be able to bring a baby safely into her arms again.