This week's episode serves up a heaping helping of advice to the guy who moved to a new city and faked confidence so hard that he got addicted to performing his new fake persona that it made him think he was a narcissist the whole time.

We also chat the very best in alternative investment vehicles found on Facebook marketplace, pet sitting for your co-worker who’s under paying you so you hit them with a vague ransom and then start your own cat sitting empire, and saying soz to Osh.

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This week's feature advice seeker asks:

So, M26 here. Last year I moved to a new city and decided to try being more extroverted since no one here knew the shy guy I used to be. It’s been a little over a year and I faked until I made it alright. I’m now very talk active and look forward to engage in any social activities. I have always considered myself as an introvert who disliked social gatherings, and thought it was impossible to go from intro to extro just like that. I’m still not sure what’s going on inside my mind and that’s why I’m posting here. To ask you to help me understand what might be going on.

The thing is: I’m now kind of addicted to being social. I love to perform this new persona I invented for myself. It feels very pleasant. But as the same time, I get in this fight or flee mode, like adrenaline or idk, and it’s hard to turn that off when I get home. I keep overthinking everything I said over and over, feeling great about when I made everyone laugh, feeling horrible when I realize I said something silly/stupid… I’m afraid I’m getting too obsessed with this: my image, how people see me, what they think of me etc. To the point I’m afraid I might be turning into a narcissist.

I can’t sleep properly because I’m so preoccupied with this stuff. I don’t feel like reading (something I did all the time on my introverted days) or do anything that demands introspection anymore. I’m always anxious to go out and talk to people and give my best performance. Also, I get utterly bored when people are talking about something I’m not involved in some way. It’s not that I need to be the center of attention, nor I need to be talking about myself. I just need to be an active participant of the conversation. Let’s say some people are talking about some memory they share that it’s not something I can talk about so I have to only listen, I get so bored I have to detach myself from the situation and go to the bathroom or smoke a cig.

Am I becoming a narcissist? Can anyone here relate to this? I’m very confused about myself right now, like truly scared I have always been a narcissist and didn’t know. It’s true I always felt like I had a great potential and charisma hidden inside of me, like I was special. A special person. And I was somewhat frustrated that I didn’t get to show people that. This is pretty much a narcissist trait, right?

Should I try to refrain myself from this and try to go back to my old me? I was defininetly more “in peace” generally speaking, although my life was way less interesting. I’m just afraid of keep feeding this little monster addicted to their self image, KWIM? Or maybe this is happening bc I’m going against my true introvert nature?

Thanks in advance for anyone taking the time to share some thoughts..

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This episode was streamed live on Twitch and YouTube on 13.04.23.

00:00 - It begins!

03:39 - The best alternative investment vehicle

05:42 - David has ‘Sword Guy’ energy

10:54 - Master Grief Promo

12:24 - Question: Pet sitting for your cheap co-worker

17:49 - Vague ransoms to get that money

25:05 - Starting our middle-man cat sitting company

28:34 - The Osher side bar

32:54 - Feature Question: Addicted to faking my confident persona

43:45 - David McNeill presents My Life is a Lie - The Performance

48:26 - David does a whoops

54:00 - Outro

55:52 - Mario stops by the pod