In this final episode of the series I wanted to do something different to celebrate all the Confidence Conversations that I've had with guests. 

So I asked my guests to send me a question on their topic that I could give answer, a perspective or an opinion on.

According the AI generated show notes this is what's covered….

"The conversation covers themes such as confidence during midlife, the importance of taking action with vision boards, stepping out of comfort zones, the intrinsic link between courage and confidence, the power of reframing, understanding the inner critic, and achieving a flow state in presentations. Each segment provides insights and practical advice for listeners seeking to enhance their confidence and personal growth."

Couldn’t have put it better myself.

I'll be taking a break for a while now before series 4, but remember all the previous episodes are still available to listen to.

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"The inner critic is well-intentioned but misguided."

I loved having Jacqui Jagger on the podcast - we go back a few years!  In this conversation we explore the complexities of confidence and the inner critic. 

We explore the different layers of confidence, the importance of self-belief, and how judgment affects our perception of ourselves.

The main part of our conversation we explored the role of the inner critic, strategies for managing it, and the significance of self-compassion in building confidence.

We end with Jacqui's with practical tips for engaging with the inner critic and developing a more confident self-talk.

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About Jacqui

Jacqui Jagger is a straight-talking leadership coach on a mission to help ambitious leaders step up without selling out. She works with leaders who want to grow their impact, confidence and career – without burning out or playing office politics. 

Whether it’s landing a promotion, making a strong start in a new role, or rebuilding self-belief after a tough chapter, Jacqui brings practical tools, powerful questions and no-fluff support. She’s the co-host of the Career & Leadership Real Talk podcast and the creator of

The Leadership Vault – a free resource hub for leaders who want to lead with more clarity, confidence and impact.

Links

Podcast | Career& Leadership Real TalkLevel With You (linkfor the leadership vault resources) 

Social links

Jacqui Jagger | LinkedIn

Jacqui Jagger(@practicalleadershipcoach) | TikTok

"Unlocking Confidence with the tools and techniques of NLP."

In this episode of the Confidence Conversations podcast, I was so happy to chat to Vanda Varga and to explore the concepts of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and how they can help to build confidence.

Vanda, a master practitioner of NLP. A Tour Guide to Your Mind explains how NLP serves as a user guide to the brain, helping individuals understand their unique perceptions and experiences.

We delve into the true meaning of confidence and the intricate relationship between confidence and NLPincluding tools and techniques that can help with self-talk and reframing negative thoughts and experiences.

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Vanda Varga – A Tour Guide to Your Mind®

As a Trainer and Master Practitioner of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), Vanda helps you explore, uncover and remap your map of the world (the way you think, feel, behave, communicate and experience the world) so you can navigate in your thoughts and feelings with clarity, confidence and ease.

With her background in Neuro-Rehabilitation, Vanda has spent 20+ years exploring the human mind, how it works and how we can change it intentionally, using the power of neuroplasticity - your brain's ability to rewire itself. 

She is a firm believer of life-long learning; She believes that everyone, regardless of their age, race, gender or condition, has the ability to change and grow, gain or regain their confidence, self-esteem, self-belief and have a brighter, more positive outlook on life.

In her 1:1 work, Vanda uses a combination of NLP, hypnotherapy, mindfulness, coaching and many other tools to help you learn how to take charge of Your own mind,enhance your personal growth, mental fitness and emotional well-being and ultimately your life. 

You are welcome to book a complimentary 30 minutes MindMOT with her for Your own Personal Growth ( https://vandavarga.co.uk/book/ ) or check out her Certified NLP Practitioner Courses to become a Tour Guide to the Mind® here:  https://vandavarga.co.uk/certified-nlp-practitioner-training-course/

"Being curious about neurodiversity will make theworld a better place."

I loved this conversation with Tamzin from The Neurodiversity Academy.  In this episode we discuss neurodiversity and confidence, exploring topics such as terminology, the fear of getting it wrong, and the importance of having conversations about neurodiversity.

Tamzin shares her personal experiences with dyslexia, ADHD, and dyspraxia, highlighting the impact these conditions can have on confidence along with the challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals in a neurotypical world.

We explore the concept of neuro-curiosity and how it can lead to a better understanding of ourselves and others. We also touch on the trendiness of neurodiversity and the need for caution when it comes to self-diagnosis and niche coaching.

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About Tamzin:

Tamzin Hall is a leading neurodiversity consultant, trainer, and coach. She is a proud dyslexic and a #1 best-selling author.

With decades of experience in leadership, learning and development, a Level 7 qualification in Coaching and Mentoring, and PCC certification, Tamzin specialises in neurodiversity. She helps leaders understand and support their neurodivergent staff and assists businesses in creating inclusive practices that empower neurodivergent employees, ensuring they feel valued and accepted.

Her guidance enables organisations to develop the next generation of leaders, ensuring teams are agile, resilient, and capable of overcoming any challenge. 

Connect with Tamzin:

Linkedin:   https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamzin-hall/

Website:  https://www.theneurodiversityacademy.com/

"Confidence is a state of flow."

I asked Ricky on the podcast because I wanted to explore the differences between male and female confidence.

We did talk about that, as well as covering off so much more, from our shared retail experience, through to the choices we make and reframing negatives experiences.

Ricky shares two tips for building confidence: saying yes and learning how to do it later, and using anchoring techniques like the Circle of Awesomeness to get into a confident state.

About Ricky:

Ricky Locke is an Expert Speaker on Confidence, Resilience & Personal Development, a Confidence Coach.

And an Award-Winning Magician and host of the UNLOCKED podcast and "Inspiring others to UNLOCK the best version of themselves!"

Connect with Ricky:

https://www.rickylocke.co.uk/

https://www.instagram.com/rickylockemagic/

https://confidentclub.com/

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Circle of Awesomeness - https://www.nlpworld.co.uk/nlp-glossary/c/circle-of-excellence/

"Courage is the thing that we have to embrace and lean into."

This episode could have lasted for a whole day!  I was excited when Melissa Hague agreed to come on the podcast to talk about Courage. 

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About this Episode..

We discuss the link between courage and confidence, the everyday acts of courage, and the importance of vulnerability. Melissa shares her journey of discovering the work of Brené Brown and becoming a Dare to Lead facilitator.

We explore topics such as self-compassion, the power of stories, living into personal values, and the role of trust in courage. Melissa shares three key steps to practicing courage: embracing vulnerability, starting small, and being kind to yourself.

There's so much packed into this 40mins - give it a listen!

About Melissa

Melissa is an accomplished learning and development professional, with over 20 years’ experience across a number of industries in the public and private sector. She is passionate about the use of client-centred coaching both with individuals and teams to help them realise their potential and reach their goals. She is committed to the use of coaching conversations to help create cultures of empowerment and self-reliance.

Melissa is also a huge fan of the work of Dr Brené Brown and

Supporting them to face risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure with courage and clarity, live into their values, create and deepen connections in relationships and learn and grow from the failures, setbacks and disappointments that are inevitable when we are brave with our lives. 

Web – www.melissahague.com

LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/melissa-hague

This is the YouTube link for the Brené Brown TED Talk on Vulnerability The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown | TEDxHouston

"Comparisonitis can erode confidence."

Comparison is a big confidence demon and in this episode, I invited the lovely Claire Henley from Cachet Associates to chat about it.

Claire shares her diverse career journey and how she has dealt with comparison in various aspects of her life.

We explore the importance of feeling the fear and taking action, as well as the negative effects of comparison on confidence.

Claire gave me 3 really great tips for managing comparisonitis - give the episode a listen to find out what they are!

About Claire

Claire describes herself as a portfolio careerist which means that she has held so many different roles since leaving college and qualifying as an accountant, that they don’t fit into one neat box!

Currently operating under Cachet Associates, Claire offers a variety of services to business, including commercial mediation, team development and business strategy workshops using the Lego® SeriousPlay® method and she’ll even pop her management accountancy “hat” on for the right contract!

Claire has recently relocated to Chichester with her husband, Ralph and their dog Teddy. She has two grown up sons, one of whom might just be flying you to your summer holiday destination (if you’re going Ryanair) and the other who is about to start the final year of his Psychology degree at Uni in London.

Claire is a trustee of a small international development charity called GAGA UK and a newly signed up investor in the Chichester Bike Project!

Connect with Claire:

 https://cachetassociates.co.uk/

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 https://www.linkedin.com/in/claire-henley-05525524/

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"Stepping outside of the comfort zone requires self awareness and the ability to make informed decisions."

After meeting Nikie for coffee one day and having a chat about whether age, experience or knowledge impacted our comfort zones and ultimately our confidence, I asked Nikie to come on the podcast to chat about it.

We covered a lot of ground in this conversation, exploring challenges faced by new managers and the importance of self-awareness in leadership.

We talked about how the understanding your own comfort zone from both positive and negative perspectives can help you to make informed decisions about stepping outside of it.

We visualised an island in the ocean that represented our comfort zone and talked about sharks and dolphins as a way of understanding your comfort zone - you have to listen just for that bit - it's brilliant.

We concluded with thinking about the barriers that people might face in relation to stepping out of the comfort zone.

About Nikie

You might not think early roles in radio, interior design and DIY sound like the most convincing career choices for someone who has since spent almost three decades as a Learning and Development professional, but all three of these roles gave me some great opportunities to learn about people,  hone my training, and facilitation skills, and craft my own path in a career I love. 

Having gained many professional qualifications and experience in public and private sector L&D roles, I founded Curious Lighthouse Learning Consultancy Ltd in early 2016, where I specialises in increasing competence and confidence in Line Managers and Trainers to enhance their performance, whether they are at the very start of their journey or experienced professionals.

​I'm passionate about using creative learning methods which, as well as increasing engagement in the sessions, ensures better retention of information and quicker transfer of skills back into the workplace. (And yes, I do use LEGO® in many of the my sessions!!)

Connect with Nikie

https://www.curiouslighthouse.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/curiouslighthouse/

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"Saying no and taking time to make decisions can be empowering and prevent feelings of self-doubt."

In this episode, I chat to Carolyn Sweeney, owner of Creations hairdressers and founder of Kin Connect.  We discuss self-doubt and its impact on confidence.

We discuss the challenges of running a business and the importance of staying in your own lane. As well as exploring the link between knowledge and confidence, the power

Carolyn opens up about her own self-doubt as a dyslexic person and how she has learned to overcome it, viewing it as a superpower.

Carolyn emphasises the need to surround yourself with supportive and nurturing people and to be willing to let go of relationships that are not beneficial.

About Carolyn & Creations

Creations Hair Salon in Chichester have created beautiful hair for over 26 years. With expert hairdressing and super service at the heart of everything we do.

At Creations in Chichester, we have a team of expertly trained stylists. So if you are looking for regular inspiration on your cut and style, or advice on your hair colour, from Balayage to highlights, or a subtle semi permanent colour,

Our team are trained to a high standard to ensure you have the best experience possible.

Over 27 years ago, I had a vision to create a business where my team could achieve their goals and to create a culture where everyone could be an individual, create beautiful hair, and give the best service possible.

We have seen so many changes in the years, but our philosophy has always remained the same.

Connect with Carolyn:

https://www.instagram.com/creationshairuk

https://www.facebook.com/creationshairandbeauty

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"Boundaries are about you, they're not about other people."

I was delighted to welcome Emma Jenkings back to the podcast so join us as we discuss the topic of boundaries in relation to confidence.

We explore what boundaries are, the importance of setting them in both personal and professional relationships, and how boundaries can contribute to overall well-being.  It's important to stress that boundaries are individual and will vary from person to person.

We discuss the reasons why setting boundaries can be a struggle and the potential impact this can have on our confidence.

We conclude by talking about how clearly communicating your boundaries to others can help manage expectations. In turn this can positively impact confidence by empowering you to protect your needs and values.

Of course, as always, I ask Emma for her Top Tips for setting boundaries.

It's a great Confidence Conversation - give it a listen and let me know what you think.

About Emma

Emma Jenkings is an experienced workplace mediator,

Since her business, Mosaic Mediation, was set up to in

Connect with Emma:

https://www.mosaicmediation.co.uk/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-jenkings/

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