My guest today, on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots free podcast interview is a lady who has spent a lifetime defining her message and what she can bring to the world. You see as a child she was on a path to being the goody goody child. The daughter who did what was expected and chose the path of less resistance, in short other peoples paths. But what happens when you realise that this isn't what you should be doing, but you have absolutely no idea as to what you really should be doing. You have trained yourself to think using other peoples thoughts. Well our guest started to see the light when she received a less than positive grade for a paper she had written at school As she says "I grew up witnessing my two sisters getting yelled at or even having their mouths washed out with soap as punishment for being “fresh” with my parents. Terrified by the threat of these punishments, I vowed to myself that I would never do anything that would make somebody punish me this way. Thus began my entry into goody-goodness, ensuring that — regardless of how I actually felt — my actions would bring nothing but approval from my parents, sisters, and teachers. It didn’t even occur to me that my own opinions matter until a college professor handed me my first C grade for a paper (as you could imagine, I was a great student — at least when it came to following directions). He said, “I don’t want you to write how you think I want it. I want you to tell me your own ideas.” "Own ideas, own ideas, I dont have any ideas" she cried! And so she set off on a journey of discovery to find her talents, her skills and the things that she wanted to do with her life and now appears to be where she wants to be. Making a life that is her own, and inspiring ladies across the world to embrace their natural self, to rock their next photoshoot, host successful webinars and other kinds of live streams, feel confident giving speeches and presentations, and cmmunicating effectively in 1-on-1 sessions. So how did this lady who had no idea of what she wanted to do, find the thing and then deveop it into a business that is flourishing? And can she see clearly that the clues where waiting for her all along, or does she look around and think "wow this is a surprise?" Welll lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joning up dots with the one and only Linda Ugelow