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Do you feel God calling you to more, but you're stuck? It's probably not about your abilities. It's about your identity. If the enemy can't steal your salvation, he'll come after your identity, because he doesn't want you walking in who God says you are.

In this episode, Pam names three common lies that keep Christian women from leading, influencing and making the impact God has called them to make, and gives you the scriptures to speak back over each one.

In this episode

Scriptures to speak over the lies

"I'm not qualified": 2 Corinthians 3:5, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Philippians 4:13

"I've messed up too much": Romans 8:1, Isaiah 43:18-19, 1 John 1:9

"Someone else could do it better": Ephesians 2:10, Ephesians 3:20, Romans 12:4-5

Write them on cards and keep them where you can find them. When the lie shows up, speak truth over it.

Quotes to remember

Reflection

Which of these three lies hit closest to home? Write it down, ask yourself, "Who told you that?" and write God's truth right beside it.

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Tuesday, November 10, at 7:00 PM [Central], online. We'll go deeper into identity, map out the scriptures, and get rid of the lies for good so you can walk in who God created you to be.

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Do you replay every decision until you feel completely stuck? You want to get it right and honor God, but somewhere along the way, careful thinking turned into overthinking.

In this episode, Pam shares 5 biblical truths to help you stop overthinking, find God-given clarity, and take your next faithful step with confidence.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Scriptures mentioned:

Your next step: Choose one decision you’ve been circling. Pray about it, set a deadline, and take one faithful step this week.

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Do you sense that God is calling you to something more—or something different—but you just can’t seem to move forward?

Maybe you’re waiting for more clarity. Maybe you’re afraid you’ll get it wrong. Maybe you know what to do, but you keep hesitating. Or perhaps you don’t feel qualified, confident, or like you have enough time to actually do what God is asking you to do.

In this episode of Confident Christian Influence, we’re talking about five things that may be keeping you stuck when it comes to walking in God’s plan for your life.

We’ll talk about:

And underneath all five? There’s a common thread: we want certainty before obedience.

We want to know where it’s going. We want to know we’ll succeed. We want to feel ready and capable. And we’d really like the timing to be convenient.

But following God requires trust.

You don’t have to know the whole plan. You don’t have to feel completely confident. And you don’t have to guarantee the outcome.

You simply need to be willing to take the next faithful step.

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Do you feel pressure to get everything right as a leader? Maybe you’re overwhelmed by responsibility, constantly trying to prove yourself, or worried about disappointing the people around you.

Christian leadership was never meant to be lived from a place of pressure, performance, or people-pleasing.

In this milestone 250th episode of the Confident Christian Influence podcast, we’re talking about how to lead with peace, confidence, and faith—even when you’re carrying significant responsibility, making hard decisions, or leading people who may not agree with you.

Because here’s the truth: You can be doing exactly what God has called you to do and still be doing it from a place He never called you to live.

How to recognize when you’re leading from pressure instead of peace

The difference between carrying responsibility and carrying a weight God never asked you to carry

How to stop believing that everything depends on you

Why your identity in Christ is not determined by your success, performance, or results

How comparison, perfectionism, achievement, and the need for recognition can affect Christian women in leadership

How to overcome people-pleasing and stop allowing other people’s approval to drive your decisions

Why being a loving Christian leader does not mean keeping everyone happy

How to handle difficult conversations, boundaries, accountability, and unpopular leadership decisions

How to pursue excellence without tying your worth to the outcome

How to trust God and lead from a place of peace—even when leadership feels hard

Pressure says: “It all depends on me.”

But it doesn’t. As a Christian leader, you are responsible for obedience, faithfulness, and doing the work God has given you. God is responsible for the outcome.

Performance says: “I have something to prove.”

You don’t. Your worth and identity are already established by God. A win doesn’t make you more valuable, and a disappointing result doesn’t make you less valuable—or less called.

People-pleasing says: “I need their approval.”

You can love people without being led by their approval. Faithful Christian leadership sometimes requires a difficult conversation, a boundary, a no, accountability, or a decision someone else doesn’t like.

And then there’s peace.

Peace says:

“I know who I am. I know Who called me. And I can trust Him with the outcome.”

Friend, you don’t have to lead overwhelmed, anxious, afraid, or constantly trying to prove yourself.

You can pursue excellence. You can lead boldly. You can make hard decisions. You can carry significant responsibility.

And you can do all of it from a place of Christ-centered peace.

Colossians 3:15 — Let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your heart.

John 14:27 — Jesus gives us the gift of peace of mind and heart.

Romans 8:6 — Letting the Spirit control our minds leads to life and peace.

What is driving your leadership right now—pressure, performance, people-pleasing, or peace?

You were never meant to lead alone. The Holy Spirit is at work in you and through you. You have nothing to prove, and you don’t need everyone’s approval.

Know who you are. Know Who called you. Trust Him with the outcome.

And lead from peace.

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Have you ever wondered if you missed your moment?

Maybe you thought you would have figured out your calling by now. Maybe life took a different path than you expected. Or maybe you sense God stirring something new in you, but you find yourself thinking, Am I too old? Is it too late to start something new?

Friend, you are not too late for God to use your life.

In this episode, I’m sharing something very personal—the recent launch of Courage to Rise Project, a nonprofit I helped start at 62 years old. This wasn’t part of some long-term plan. It began with a burden I couldn’t ignore, a need God kept putting in front of me, and a decision to take the next step even though I couldn’t see the whole plan.

We’ll talk about:

Why you need to stop disqualifying yourself because of your age or season of life

How God can use everything you’ve walked through—even the hard parts

Why your calling doesn’t have to be big or visible to matter

The importance of taking the next faithful step instead of waiting for the entire plan

Why you don’t have to wait until fear disappears to move forward

How your obedience may impact people you haven’t even met yet

Maybe you’re not behind. Maybe you haven’t missed your opportunity. Maybe everything God has taught you up until this point has been preparing you for what He wants to do through you now.

Instead of asking, “Is it too late?” begin asking:

“God, what would You have me do with the season I’m in right now?”

You don’t need the whole plan. You don’t have to feel completely ready. You just need to be willing to take the next faithful step.

Scripture: Joshua 1:9; Romans 8:28

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Is your comfort zone keeping you from fully stepping into what God is calling you to do?

It’s easy to stay where life feels safe, familiar, and manageable. But sometimes our desire to stay comfortable becomes the very thing that keeps us from obeying God, growing in our faith, and experiencing what He wants to do in us and through us.

In this episode of Confident Christian Influence, Pam shares her own journey from being terrified to speak in front of a handful of women to speaking to hundreds and even thousands, writing a book, becoming a Christian leadership coach, hosting a podcast, and now stepping outside her comfort zone again to launch a nonprofit.

You'll discover three important truths about stepping outside your comfort zone:

The good stuff often happens outside your comfort zone. When God calls you beyond what you can comfortably accomplish in your own strength, you have the opportunity to depend on His strength and experience Him working through you.

It's not about you—it's about Him. Instead of focusing on whether you're qualified, afraid, or capable, you can shift your focus to God's plan, His purpose, His strength, and His glory.

Your comfort zone expands every time you choose courage and obedience. The things that scare you today may become the very experiences God uses to prepare you for what He asks you to do tomorrow.

You don't have to make one giant leap. Sometimes God is simply asking you to take the next small step of faith and trust Him to meet you there.

Today's step outside your comfort zone can become tomorrow's evidence that God can be trusted.

So ask yourself: Where have I gotten too comfortable? What is my comfort zone costing me? And is fear keeping me from something I know God is asking me to do?

If you've been struggling with fear, stepping outside your comfort zone, trusting God, finding courage, following God's calling, Christian leadership, or taking your next step of faith, this episode will encourage you to stop allowing your limitations to determine your obedience and trust God with what happens when you say yes.

How to step outside your comfort zone and trust God

Why obedience to God sometimes requires getting uncomfortable

How fear can keep you from following God's calling

Why focusing on your limitations keeps you stuck

How to depend on God's strength instead of your own

How small steps of courage expand your comfort zone

What it means to “do it afraid” as a Christian

How God uses uncomfortable situations to grow your faith and leadership

How to recognize when comfort may be keeping you from your next step

If you're ready to be stretched, grow in your faith, and become the leader God is calling you to be, learn more about Called to Lead: Clarity, Confidence, and Christ-Centered Influence at pampegram.com/calledtolead.

Who are you? It's a simple question, but many of us answer it by talking about what we do, what we've accomplished, what we've survived, or what others think about us.

The problem is that when our identity is rooted in anything other than Christ, our confidence becomes fragile. We compare ourselves to others, seek approval, fear failure, and hesitate to walk in God's calling.

In this episode, Pam shares why understanding your identity in Christ changes everything—from the way you lead to the way you influence others and respond to life's challenges. Drawing from Scripture and her own personal journey, she explains why identity always shapes behavior and how God wants us to lead from security instead of striving.

If you've ever struggled with feeling "not enough," this episode will encourage you to replace the lies you've believed with the truth of God's Word.

2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT)

Ephesians 2:10 (NLT)

Romans 8:15–16 (NLT)

The next time a limiting thought enters your mind, stop and ask yourself:

"Who told me that?"

If the answer doesn't align with what God says about you in His Word, reject the lie and replace it with His truth.

Remember:

Lead this week from your identity as a daughter of the King—not from your fears, feelings, or past failures.

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Have you ever found yourself thinking, "I'm doing everything right...so why aren't I seeing the results I hoped for?"

It's a question many leaders ask, but it can also reveal one of the greatest traps in leadership.

Because the quality of your leadership will never outgrow the quality of your character, your greatest investment is your own personal and spiritual growth.

In this episode of the Confident Christian Influence Podcast, Pam shares a powerful story about a gifted leader whose refusal to continue growing ultimately led to the loss of trust, influence, and meaningful relationships. It's a sobering reminder that leadership isn't about arriving—it's about continually becoming the person God is calling us to be.

If we're honest, none of us are doing everything right. We all have blind spots, areas where God is still refining us, and opportunities to grow. The strongest Christian leaders are not the ones who believe they have all the answers. They're the ones who remain humble, teachable, and willing to learn.

You'll discover why personal growth is essential to effective leadership, how striving to force results can quietly replace trusting God, and why honoring God through humility and obedience always leads to greater influence.

If you desire to lead with greater wisdom, confidence, and Christ-centered influence, this episode will encourage you to embrace lifelong growth and trust God with the results.

"None of us are doing everything right. We all have room to grow."

Proverbs 16:18

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Do you feel like God is calling you to something more—but fear, doubt, or hesitation keeps you from taking the next step?

You're not alone.

In this episode of Confident Christian Influence, leadership coach Pam Pegram shares why your obedience isn't just about your future—it's about the people God wants to reach through your life.

If you've been waiting until you feel more confident, more prepared, or more certain before saying "yes" to God, this episode will encourage you to stop looking inward and start looking upward.

You'll discover how one act of obedience can increase your influence, strengthen your faith, and impact generations.

Remember...

Someone is waiting on the other side of your obedience.

Whether you lead in your workplace, your home, your church, your business, or your community, God has uniquely positioned you to influence others. It's time to stop hesitating and start walking in His calling.

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, I'm not really a leader?

Maybe you don't have an important title, manage a large team, or speak from a stage. But here's the truth: leadership isn't about a position—it's about influence. Every single day, your words, choices, attitudes, and actions are shaping the people around you.

In this episode of Confident Christian Influence, we're exploring five everyday ways you're influencing others—often without even realizing it. Whether you're leading your family, serving at church, encouraging a friend, or simply interacting with people throughout your day, God has placed you exactly where you are for a purpose.

You'll discover how your everyday life can become one of your greatest opportunities to point others to Christ.

Why you don't need a title to be a leader

Five practical ways you influence others every day

How your attitude affects the atmosphere around you

Why your words have more power than you realize

How your choices give others permission to grow

Why your response during difficult seasons speaks volumes about your faith

How to intentionally develop Christ-centered influence wherever God has placed you

Remember, someone is always watching—not so you can strive for perfection, but so you can faithfully reflect Jesus. The question isn't whether you're influencing people. The question is: What are you influencing them toward?

If you've ever wondered whether your life is making a difference, this episode will encourage you to see your everyday moments through God's eyes and inspire you to lead with greater purpose, confidence, and Christ-centered influence.

If you're ready to grow in your leadership and discover how to lead with greater clarity, confidence, and Christ-centered influence, I'd love to help.

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