In this episode I interviewed two Australian friends to talk about what they as men have experienced and learnt from relationships and dating in the past two decades.

It's an interesting discussion about the struggles and victories that men face when they navigate through the dating world and the importance of self development, self-confidence, risk taking, and having female friends. We also discuss about ways to manage rejection in the dating context and how it may be linked to the rise of e.g. the "incel" movement.

And of course, it wouldn't be a ConfuSex episode without some stories about anonymous sex, using Craigslist for hookups (still surprised by this one), threesomes and more 😁.

Thanks James and Martin! ❤️

After the previous recording on blowjobs it felt important to also create an episode dedicated to cunilingus. But given the huge differences in preferences, I felt like any recording I could put together would not be representative enough and worst case scenario leave some women feeling left out.

So how did I solve this dilemma? Well, by narrowing down the focus. So instead of making a generic episode on all women, I invited my husband into the studio to specifically talk about our own journey towards more pleasure 😅.

Sharing this discussion with you tries to serve two purposes:

We didn't exactly stay on topic and ended up going down memory lane and touched on a broad range of subjects. We spoke about understanding our own sexual needs, communicating those needs to each other, the taste and feel of vulvas, the desire to give pleasure, and of course, some tips and techniques which have worked for us.

This is us taking a risk and being vulnerable, so please, be kind 🙏❤️

"It's not entirely technique that makes you good at blowjobs, it's wanting to do it what makes a good blowjob"

In this episode I had the pleasure of interviewing Anna, a part-time blowjob instructor and a full time supporter of female sexual empowerment.

We talked about ways the person giving the blowjob can claim their control and make a blowjob an empowering experience for the person performing the oral act.

And of course we also discussed technique, tips and tricks for both shy and experimental listeners. Tune into this extremely educational, accurate and intellectually stimulating interview with a true blowjob master.

Thank you so much Anna for sharing your wisdom and experiences with us!

Every now and then, we will do a special episode under the influence of some... herbs... and see where the conversation takes us. Why ? Because why not ?

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This second High Edition is different because it was completely unplanned. We were just chilling in Paris and smoking some, when we decided we should record our conversation. Was it because we thought it was super interesting, or because we were high ? Probably a mix of both.

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The outcome? We discussed 2 main topics : 

00:25 - 1 ) why Tinder is really a shit app, not only for men but for women too and 

28:50 - 2) the triangle theory of relationships which might change the way you see couples forever !

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Confusex Podcast is a project exploring what people from all around the world believe about sex, love and relationships (SLR).

Salam from Iran!

For Episode 8, we had the pleasure of talking with Dr. Parsa on her experiences of women in Iran. Dr. Parsa has spent the last 35 years specializing in civil movements and democratic ideologies in Iran, particularly focusing on the important role that women play in these movements.

We managed to pack extremely important topics into less than an hour’s recording ranging from the position that women hold in Iranian society, the islamic revolution, women’s activism, as well as ideas for creating a more democratic future for the country.

For anyone interested in Iran, the Middle East or the Arab World in general, this episode will be an absorbing dive into the topic with a true subject matter expert! We are extremely thankful to Dr. Parsa for her time and insights.

Hello from Hong Kong and the UK!

In Episode 7 we were grateful to have two psychologists, (Sabine - 32) and (Kristie - 45) joining us to discuss how western society views women when we are young, and how that viewpoint changes as we get older.

We investigated how we are often worshiped and even fetishized as teenagers and young women, and then, within a relatively short time bracket society starts seeing us as old, invisible and even irrelevant. This dilemma becomes even more perverse when you realize that so many amazing things come with ageing, whether it’s becoming more self-aware, confident, wise or sexually empowered.

Tune into this raw, yet hopeful reflection of how three very different women have personally dealt with the stages of ageing. We are so thankful to Sabine and Kristie for joining us!

For this episode it was great to sit down just the two of us and dive into a topic that we both care about: erections. We share some of our personal stories about when it has been challenging to achieve or maintain a boner, and how we and our partners reacted in the situations.

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We also discuss whether all the penis-focus is warranted, the benefits of non-penetrative sex and discuss how context, state of mind and drug usage can all impact the erection.

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The Confusex Podcast is a project exploring what people from all around the world believe about sex, love and relationships (SLR).

Salam (hello in Arabic) ! 

For episode 5, we had the pleasure of talking with Zineb, a young and bright researcher in gender studies, about her experience growing up as a female in Morocco. We discussed the different expectations placed on boys and girls, the role of language in reinforcing sexism and how all that impacts us well into adulthood. 

For anyone interested in Morocco, North Africa or the Arab world in general, this episode will be a fascinating dive into these cultures. We're deeply thankful to Zineb for her time and insights ❤️ #moroccanculture #arabculture #arabwomen #gendernorms #genderexpectations #moroccolove #arablove #sexismeordinaire

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The Confusex Podcast is a project exploring what people from all around the world believe about sex, love and relationships (SLR).

In this episode we get a rare glimpse of how people relate to relationships, love and sex in the urban parts of China (so called “Tier 1” cities). Our interviewee provides an interesting perspective on her home country as she openly talks about topics that are often, well, not openly disscussed within Chinese communities.

The outcome of our discussion? An episode rich in cultural insights which ties SLR topics together with the consequences of sweeping governmental policies, family expectations, technological changes and sexual education - all from a female perspective.

Listen in and grow your knowledge about the world, folks!

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The Confusex Podcast is a project exploring what people from all around the world believe about sex, love and relationships (SLR).

Every now and then, we will do a special episode under the influence of some... herbs... and see where the conversation takes us. Why ? Because why not ?

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In our first ever Weed Edition we lit up our joints, got comfortable and sat down to discuss relationships. We had no script or plan for how the session would go - the purpose was really just to go with the flow, or ahem, the high, and let ourselves enjoy the moment and be vulnerable.

The outcome? A mix of topics ranging from the pitfalls of casual relationships, the fear of expressing feelings, protecting others from getting hurt, manipulating your partner, and we admit, quite a few silences.

Start listening from basically anywhere - the subject matters are broad and given our states of minds, we didn't exactly manage to stay on topic.

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Confusex Podcast is a project exploring what people from all around the world believe about sex, love and relationships (SLR).