By Natasha Berta
The podcast currently has 76 episodes available.
I started something from scratch and I have been through all the spirals of learning lately!
Today I want to share my lessons and insights with love and compassion if you relate to any of them :)
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Why I’m Never Busy
“How are you?”
“I’m so busy”
This is the most common line I hear in conversation especially with business people and mums. It’s definitely a thing I used to say a lot and now I try not to say it at all.
If I feel like I am about to say “I’m busy” I take a moment to reconsider and to take responsibility. Instead I say: “I’m fully engaged with my life” or “I have a lot on” or something like that.
If you like to say you’re busy please go ahead. I don’t judge you. I just know that when I was saying “I’m busy” it was a number of things. It was a badge of martyrdom. It was an abdication of my responsibility. It was a cop out and it was an excuse.
It felt good to say I was busy. It was me, as a mother, putting myself last. I was making excuses for why I couldn’t put my self care and wellbeing first in my life and the problem with that is: no-one else in the world is going to put me first. They might be playing the same mothering game as me and failing to put themselves first, but they certainly aren’t going to put me first. I needed to do that.
For me, the ability to change my relationship with busy-ness took a number of years and some tough challenges. My health declined and I simply couldn’t be busy. Plus, being busy was making me sick. I was anemic with HMB and I needed to learn a new way of being. Stress and overwork were making my condition worse and after a bout in hospital I finally committed to a new direction.
I had to learn to see the mindsets and beliefs that were keeping me stuck. I had to remind myself again and again that I am the boss and I get to make the rules. I had to release a lot of my employee mindset hangovers and step into a new paradigm aside from capitalism’s demands to do, do, do for more, more, more. I had to decide what I personally want from my life and business and redefine my goals.
I had to ask a lot of questions. Do I really want a 6 or 7 figure business? What do I want my days to look like? What are my priorities? What are my interests and who decides how much I should do? Should I let my imagination decide what other people think I should do or should I honour my body, intuition and health indicators.
I realised that I couldn’t blame my partner, his family, my family or society. I had to get good at saying no and taking the time to discern where my energy was best spent. In reality that looks like a lot of mistakes, a lot of over-doing it migraines and a lot of days in bed. It has taken dozens of reiterations of my calendar and it’s something I’m still working on every week and every day.
Ultimately I see that I need to continue to take responsibility. It’s my responsibility to take care of my wellbeing. I and only I am responsible for the hours I work and how I work. It’s entirely up to me to structure my days and commitments so that I can have the life I want.
It’s super satisfying and it’s also very uncomfortable but when I think about being an employee I’m just not sure how I would go. I feel like I’ve learned a lot of lessons and I’m in a completely different field to a lot of people, particularly people who don’t have a business.
I’ve had to learn to emotionally regulate myself when I’m in stressful situations instead of disassociating. I’m still learning that one. I am still learning how much time I need in nature and how much I need quiet. From my perspective it’s all a big experiment and I’m still playing the game.
We all have a choice. We all chose to be where we currently are whether we realise or not. I choose how I relate to my life circumstances and I find that very satisfying. I practice being satisfied. Satisfied with what I have. I take time to notice all that I have. I feel very lucky and grateful. And I’m never busy.
Are you creative?
I pose this question to you for reflection.
I have my own opinion about it.
If you are alive you are creative.
If you are in business you are creative.
The old paradigm of our society tells us that creative people make art and then that art gets sold or hung in a gallery. It tells us that only some people have the “right stuff" to be an artist and that if our creative output doesn’t look like what we see in a gallery, that we aren’t creative and we should be an accountant or something.
That is all a big fat lie.
Every cup of tea, every meal, every doodle while we’re on the phone and especially your business is a creative act.
Creativity is to create something. To create something is to bring something into the world that wasn’t there before.
So yes: you are creative. The small ways like meals and tea and the large ways, like a business or your art.
The resources I mentioned:
Australian Bush Flower Essence: Turkey Bush
Aesha Kennedy - Creativi-Tea
The Artists's Way - Julia Cameron
Big Magic - Elizabeth Gilbert
More from me: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/
It's bedtime story time with Aunty Yo.
I just finished some intensive business and life planning. This was inspired after bingeing on Cal Newport's podcast for 3 days including a 7 hour car ride.
It feels great to do my planning and then I got to thinking about how Cal Newport has really helped me in my life.
And then I started thinking about all the mentors and teachers I've had lately and how they have supported and inspired me lately.
So here's a rambly podcast about how I got my life from overwhelmed and semi-psychotic to basically a Zen master haha.
People I mention:
Melanie White
Danielle Gardner
George Kao
Cal Newport
More from me: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/
There is so much confusion about landing pages and what homepage is so in this episode I am trying to simplify it. I’m not sure if I succeeded. What do you think?
In summary:
More from me and a video explanation of this: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/home-page-landing-page-sales-page-wtffffff/
If you are trying to get all of your ducks in a row then being a summit presenter might be a good thing for your business. The great things about being a summit presenter include:
You can participate at a level that suits your business stage
You can grow your email list
You can get in front of a heap of new people
You can make money
You can promote your big offer
and more.
Have you even been a summit speaker? What was your experience?
More from me: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/
Whhoooooaaaaaa this chat is really only for the brave hearted.
Business woman: You are already part of the solution!
We took the red pill...
I've never had so many goosebumps during an interview as I did during this chat with Louise O'Reilly - a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman who focuses on cultural inclusion, diversity and anti-racism work for entrepreneurs.
We covered a lot of things in the spirit of: how can you deliver inclusive marketing in your business?
This interview comes from my heart to yours with all my love and compassion.
More from Louise:
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/LouiseOReilly.TheShieldAndTheConch
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@louise_oreilly
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/
Website - www.LouiseOReilly.com.au
About Louise:
The oppressive status quo is something Louise refuses to swallow. This mumma-bear won’t stop until she’s changed the world for her babies. With her unique self-expression, heart-centred rebelliousness, and clarity of her vision of the inclusive world we could be enjoying. It’s no wonder Louise is an inclusion & diversity coach, mentor and course creator for heart-centered & socially-conscious entrepreneurs. Louise is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman who focuses on cultural inclusion, diversity and anti-racism work for entrepreneurs. Offering the Inclusion Creators Collective membership. It’s filled with courses, live trainings, group coaching and more. Louise also offers limited 1:1 coaching services and her dream is the co-creation of a more inclusive world through social innovation. Where everyone feels free and safe to be themselves. Her drive is her children. Her cheer-squad is her husband and her inspiration is her inner-calling. Louise’s coaching is gentle, inclusive, and compassionate. LouiseOReilly.com.au is where you’ll find her blogs, free trainings, videos, podcasts, and services. Outside of business, Louise was freelance writing for Amnesty International Australia, radio hosting on Noongar Radio, and a Miss NAIDOC Perth finalist.
More from me: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/
Even stuff that is meant to be kind to me can be turned into self flagellation and torture!
Here's a wee peek into the crazy that is me in biz - yes - I am organised and consistent - and yes - I still fall off the wagon!
Courses I mentioned in this podcast: George's Biz Plan and Joyful Productivity HERE
More from me: https://connectedmarketing.com.au/
The podcast currently has 76 episodes available.