Connected with Emily Beatrix

Eva Bloom is a sexual educator who thrives in Toronto, Canada.She hosts workshops and is an online creator .In this episode we talked about what we like about being queer, why casual sex has benefits (I even shared how to not attach to a date or a sex partner from a nervous system lense that I think you’ll find helpful), and if phone sex counts as sex (spoiler, yes, yes it does.)We talked about bi earasure as well as #femmeproblemsI also said, “OH NICE” when Eva (who identifies as gay, bi and queer) said she’s not dating cis dudes and then had to be like, UH I MEAN, NO, SORRY, I SHOULDN’T SAY THAT?!!We talked about fav queer novels, astro (‘cause miss bloom is a Scorpio #obviously) and queer shows we’ve been loving and all that good stuff at the end during rapid fire questions.We both felt extremely fulfilled after chatting and we hope this convo inspires you to have casual sex, sext a pal and or be a little bit more yourself.

The enneagram expert who took instagram by storm with her relatable bingo/ graphics and character description joins us to talk about the popular personality type system.

In this episode, I invite you to make a cup of tea as I check in with my year and the making of Connected.

I talk about the creative process (and why I think connected is over - at least for now), how my break up and its grief initiated me into feeling the grief of losing my family in a brutal domestic violence situation, how grieving my family fully allowed me to admit to myself that I was gay and not bi, the steps of getting through betrayal in the way I lived it and finding forgiveness, falling in love with a woman and coming out publicly, changing what I thought would bring me happiness in life through reconditioning, and I end with a pep talk to give you motivation if you're going through a tough time. 

Thank you SO MUCH for listening. I appreciate you so much and I am honored I've been there with you as you drove, cooked or just hung out. You mean so much to me. Let's continue connecting... to reach me visit this page - https://emilybeatrix.com/contact xx

Alexandra Covucci joins us.  She is a leadership coach who helps people who are really good at what they do work wise, be really good at who they are to have more impact, income and intimacy in their lives. I really like how Alex notices and observes people. Personally, she’s seen some things in me I thought only I knew about - like how I get a kick out myself and have a ton of inside jokes with my own brain. I really wanted to have Alex on the show because she wrote this post that moved me in the summer around how not all advice is made equal and why we should filter in information based on who we are when it comes to the feedback that’s offered to us. No two people are the same and I thought this was a really important piece to bring up in the self-help/ personal developmental community because so much of the teachings are generic and one-size fits all forgoing nuances. Alexandra shares with us that she had just reached her highest business income month ever ealier this year and someone in her inner circle told her that it was time to keep pressing the gas. Knowing herself, she actually said, “no, I’m actually probably going to go take a nap.” I really liked this conversation because knowing ourselves, our past, and our patterns deeply, is a crucial part of how we can make decisions that actually work for us. Kind of like, "there is no better expert in you than you."  We also talk about practicing receiving more money, more love, more attention and how Alex has done it recently. We discuss things like being brave and saying your truth even if your truth is a threat to your current circumstances. Alex ended a 7 year relationship 20 days before a wedding ceremony last year. My favorite part of it all is when we talk about coming out of the closet (and not just in your sexual orientation but in any way you may be hiding), being gay, Alex’s first kiss with a girl when she was in high school, and fitting in and belonging in the self-help community that’s pretty heteronormative currently.

This week I have trauma resolution coach Assana Rae, who’s an excellent and insightful speaker about topics that matter to her like social justice. Honestly, I just really enjoy listening to her. She's got those aquarius sun teacher vibes.  She’s on to talk with me about breath work and her new program called Rooted - which centers on nurturing right relationship to soul, body, earth, linage and sex. My favorite part of it all is around resolving our collective trauma around colonialism. I really enjoyed talking with Assana about how the Catholic Church literally banned and made grieving illegal. I’ve recently re-discovered breath work through Assana Rae and I’ve had some really big moments of healing this summer through adopting a practice - like all my allergies are gone after going on a journey back to my childhood during a session. I knew I had to have her on to talk about the nervous system and brain science behind breath work and the different kinds she practices and teaches. This is a must listen to if you want to stop intellectualizing your emotions and get back to feeling them and letting them move through you. One of my favorite things that I have reclaimed through breath work is that it’s so safe to feel. I think however that my favorite part of the entire episode is at the very end when we are doing rapid fire questions and I ask Assana about what the biggest piece of wisdom she carries is… she shares with us this nugget that goes like: you won’t know your yes until you know your no. It really touched me because as I am at the tail end of navigating my coming out journey and integrating my sexuality as a gay woman, I’ve often felt so strange for having dated so many men in the past 10 years until I arrived at: okay, no, I’m just gay. I often wish I would of had a more clear cut sexuality from the get-go. I envy women who’ve always identified as lesbian or gay and I envied women who always identified as bi or as straight. I was so confused for so long about what my yes was because I hadn’t completely identified my no. Now I that I know… life is just so sweet. I hope you love this episode as much as I did. :) You can find Assana Rae on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/erotic.earth.embodiment/ She also has the best Spotify account I follow here - https://open.spotify.com/user/raehalder

I have my most beloved person in the world with me on the podcast today - my mom Julie. We talk about: not vaccinating me as a child, her divorce and escaping domestic violence (and how that affected her sense of self and her decisions), my benzo addiction, forgiveness and repair in our relationship, bravery, the LOVE we share, who she is and her work as a medium. She also does a live clearing for me on the show and offers a special on her energy clearings for listeners that you can opt into here: https://www.juliecorbeilconsulting.com/energymedicine I highly recommend an energy reading and clearing if you are dealing with any chronic health issues or big relational stuff that feels so stuck no matter how hard you try to free yourself.

Health coach and fellow medical medium healing protocol enthusiast Lauren Henry joins me to talk about what a day in the life of chronic illness recovery looks like.  We talk about not drinking alcohol in social situations, what it's like to heal in the public eye, our love for burritos, and how the medical medium protocols have absolutely given us a chance to heal after long standing health issues that left us crippled post-grad students trying every new health fad with no real success.

Miranda Sophia and I have a lot in common. Not only in our life experiences, and because we are from the same place in the world, but around our approach to our work. She is one of the rare women I’ve met in the healing community who can hold both intellect (and science) and wicked magic like I do. It’s been so cool to get to know her and I feel really privileged to have been able to pick her brain so much for us on the podcast. We sat down and recorded a THREE hour conversation. THREE HOURS of free valuable amazing content guys! She joins us this week to talk about narcissist abuse recovery and her work with women. She talks about how narcissistic abuse recovery initiates us into our sovereignty and power as women in post-traumatic growth. We talk about the earth, water and fire initiations of recovery and what they each entail. To give you a little taste, earth initiation is all about reclaiming safety and stability for your nervous system, water initiation is about creating capacity (widening our river banks) to be resilient/ be able to hold two truths at once, and fire is about reclaiming choice and being in relationship in healthy sovereign ways. We also answer listener questions like does a narcissist know what they are doing, and talk about the energy and consciousness of systems that are failing us like the patriarchy. It may be an episode that you need to talk notes on, or pause and then come back to multiple times. You’ll hear Miranda inviting you to have consent with yourself and take the show in little bites too. Here are some resources we mentioned throughout the show: You may want to check out the book psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie On youtube some free and awesome resources would be: Melanie Tonia Evans Inner Integration Surviving Narcissism & Ross Rosenberg Here is a great article that details the kind of tactics narcs can use to manipulate you: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/

In this episode, I talk about how I was insecure after sharing that episode last week about why my relationship with Mel ended. 

I shared some pretty big truths about myself and about her, and I still worry about hurting people's feelings when I am storytelling. 

Sometimes things are true, but they are not neccesary to share. And that's what I "teach" in this episode. How to know if a truth is neccesary to share.

I don't believe in sharing truths just to expose people, hurt them or get revenge. 

I believe in sharing truths so that we can build bridges that we can all stand on and say "me too" on. 

I believe in sharing our own shame and flaws and our own character growth so that we can disolve collective shame and also inspire through our stories. 

Once you press play, you'll hear me unpack how I get through the uncomfortablitity of telling stories (that involve other people too) by using two huge questions. 

1) Is this the truest of all truths? 

and 

2) Is this truth neccesary to share to help myself, or another person? What's the point of sharing this truth - and is that point good enough, and does it justify being vulnerable about an experience I've lived? 

I'll be sharing the point of sharing the relationship's end and why I justified it as neccesary to share. 

My goal in talking about my sexuality, and the fact that in my life I have been in both same-sex relationships and opposing sex relationships, is to normalize being queer. 

I felt like I HAD to be straight or I HAD to be lesbian. 

What if my sexuality is on the spectrum (Yeah, it's still 93 % women, 7 % men... #EmilyScience) and I love who I love and I'm attracted to whom I'm attracted to?! 

FREEDOM. 

In this episode, I talk about how the podcast stretches me to accept my imperfections (because sometimes I'll say a word wrong or I won't be perfectly attuned to people and I'll look stupid for a hot sec. Or I'll have different opinions later on than I have now.)    I talk about why ending a relationship when you realize you can't give each other what the other needs as soon as you realize this saves you a ton of pain, but can be confusing like, am I doing the right thing here? Sometimes it's easier to leave when someone has betrayed the other and you KNOW it's not meant to be.    I talk about what gifts Mel brought me, the best sex of my life, and also how I was definitely jealous of her and didn't feel we had common ground to walk on sometimes (like around chronic illness) which would drain me and make me feel alone in our relationship.    I talk about what it felt like to be in same-sex relationship publicly for the first time - there was nothing super different about it as I thought there would be, except people constantly asking you and your S.O if you are siblings which never happens in heterosexual relationships *eye roll*.    And finally, I talk about being single and NOT necessarily ready to mingle and what kind of mood I'm in lately. I am writing a freaking book!!