Divorce is difficult enough, but it’s particularly tough when you feel like you’re losing your kids. How can you maintain the connection with your children when your time with them is limited? How do you make memories whether or not you live in the same household?

Tommy Maloney is the cofounder of Blending the Family, a platform dedicated to helping divorced parents navigate dating and remarriage. He is also the author of 25 Tips for Divorced Dads and the host of the Blending the Family Podcast. A well-known speaker and parenting coach, Tommy is on a mission to provide resources for divorced dads and help them realize it’s okay to ask for help.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Tommy joins Katherine to share the experience of his own divorce and offer advice around cherishing the time you have with your kids. He explains why men have a difficult time asking for help and why it’s crucial to review your parenting agreement with a professional before you sign. Listen in to understand Danny’s mission around showcasing positive examples of fatherhood and learn how to stay connected with your kids, even if you don’t live with them anymore.

Topics Covered

Tommy’s take on the lack of resources for divorced dads

How Tommy’s divorce informs his current coaching work

Why asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness

Why men have a hard time admitting they’re struggling

Reviewing your parenting agreement with a professional

Tommy’s regrets re: taking time with his son for granted

Staying connected with your kids after you move out

The themes of Tommy’s book My Dad’s Advice at 5:04AM

The value in showcasing positive examples of fatherhood

How to respond if your ex-spouse criticizes your parenting

Connect with Tommy Maloney

Blending the Family: http://blendingthefamily.com/

Blending the Family Podcast: http://blendingthefamily.libsyn.com/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected]

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

25 Tips for Divorced Dads: How to Create Special Memories and Grow Your Bonds with Your Children by Tommy Maloney: https://www.amazon.com/Tips-Divorced-Dads-Tommy-Maloney/dp/0983238103

Why Not You, Why Not Me? by Tommy Maloney: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Not-You-Me-writtings-ebook/dp/B01JMVGNIK/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1563565712

Tommy’s TEDx Talk: My Dad’s Advice at 5:04AM: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azG2K47iz4Q

Simon Sinek: https://simonsinek.com/