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Are you searching for an authentic community and deeper connection in today’s ever-changing world? 

This week on Connection From Here, host Ashley Perry sits down with longtime friend, author, and mom of four, Anna MacArthur. Together, they explore what it means to build intentional, supportive communities, both as parents and people looking for belonging beyond traditional institutions.

Anna shares insights from her debut book, Hope for Moms: It's Tough Out There, But So Are You, weaving together stories of her own evolving journey as a parent, her interracial family, and how learning to say “yes” to help and staying open to vulnerability transformed her family’s relationships and her understanding of community.

Anna McArthur is a mom to four kids, including two recent college grads and twin girls who are high schoolers.  She is a blogger, newspaper guest columnist, and contributor to parenting magazines and websites, including Her View From Home and the Motherly Collective.  Anna’s essays have recently been published by Grown and Flown and Business Insider. A graduate of Clemson University and Columbia Theological Seminary, Anna lives in Georgia with her husband and their teenage girls. 

Topics covered:

• How parenting can shift our understanding of community from proximity to intentional connection.
• The power of accepting help and embracing grace, humility, and vulnerability.
• Creating environments where children can be their authentic selves through continual learning and openness.
• Why building real relationships across differences is key to genuine inclusion.
• The importance of lending privilege and taking action, not just offering support.
• Asking “What is mine to do within 50 yards of me?” to inspire small, meaningful change.

Building communities where everyone can show up as their authentic self doesn’t mean being perfect. It means being open, humble, and willing to learn alongside those you love.

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Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma and self-harm.

One of the most important pillars of a good community is being able to show up as your whole self, being welcomed and accepted as such. But for many of us, it takes time to find this type of community for ourselves, and we go through a lot of heartache in the process. Today’s guest, Reverend Robert Arnáu, is no stranger to this journey and joins us to share his story of surviving conversion therapy and religious trauma to finding true belonging in an affirming spiritual community. Episode 8 of Connection from Here is about healing and authenticity beyond religious trauma. 

Rev. Robert Daniel Arnáu is a queer, neurodivergent spiritual director, coach, and minister based in Massachusetts. Raised in the Bronx by his fierce Puerto Rican abuela and Nuyorican mother, he is a survivor of conversion therapy and now offers trauma-informed spiritual direction and coaching for LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC/Latiné individuals healing from religious trauma. Ordained through the Metropolitan Community Churches, he currently serves as a minister with The Faith Community in Atlanta, GA. His spiritual path is expansive and deeply rooted in liberation, blending non-Christian-nationalist Christianity with secular Buddhism, reiki, tarot, and ecumenical mysticism. At the core of his work is a belief in the sacredness of bodies, stories, and chosen family. Rob is the author of Sabor Zen, a pocket prayer book inspired by Buddhist precepts and infused with cultural soul—a gentle yet grounded invitation into mindful and embodied living. His approach bridges the mystical and the practical, offering clarity, compassion, and a fierce commitment to justice and healing in every space he enters.

Topics covered: 

• The warmth– and the wounds– of being raised in a conservative church as a queer person. 
• Rob recounts his experience surviving conversion therapy, illustrating the deep psychological and spiritual scars it can leave.
• The search for community beyond traditional spaces and how Rob found acceptance and healing within an LGBTQ+ affirming church.
• How our wounds can become sources of wisdom and how reclaiming our narrative can become an inspiration to others on similar journeys.

Your need for connection is real, natural, and important. As Rob’s story powerfully reveals, the path to wholeness is often found in safe, affirming community, where every part of you is welcome. 

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True belonging isn’t just about being surrounded by people and fitting the mold– it’s about being seen and valued for who we truly are, imperfections and all. Today’s guest discovered this enlightenment when she embraced her voice, shared her story, and found community along the way. This week on the podcast, Mary Hoefler joins us for a vulnerable and empowering conversation about belonging, authenticity, and the power of telling your story. Episode 7 of Connection from Here is about how storytelling fosters authentic community and empathy. 

After finding herself on stage during an expanded state of consciousness, Mary Hoefler decided that it was about time to get writing and start talking. She found herself on The Moth stage for the first time in July of 2023 and never looked back. A 2025 Moth Grand Slam winner and a six-time StorySlam winner, Mary has also been showing up at venues all over Chicago to tell her truth. In her stories, she shares with bravery and vulnerability what it is like to feel invisible at her age and her lifelong journey of wanting to be seen and picked. Although storytelling is clearly in her DNA, it doesn’t pay the bills, so Mary spends her days as a psychotherapist, encouraging clients to find their voice, get loud, and share their own stories without any edits…because why edit who we are?!!

Topics covered: 

• The complex dynamics of being raised in an immigrant community, where survival and conformity were values, but true belonging and individuality were harder to find.
• Using storytelling as a tool to reclaim one’s identity and connect with others in an authentic way.
• The difference between “fitting in” and truly finding belonging by showing up as our true, messy selves. 
• Insights into finding and building community as an adult, embracing solitude, and holding space for others’ unique stories.

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We talk often on the podcast about how, long ago, community was built based on geography. Now that this is no longer the case, it’s up to us to get creative about how we find – and sometimes build – the communities we are a part of. Renowned author, humorist, and climate activist Andrew Boyd joins the podcast this week to explore how community, ritual, and a willingness to hold both grief and hope can help us navigate change, loss, and activism in powerful, life-affirming ways. Episode 6 of Connection from Here is about finding belonging through chosen family, rituals, and activism!

Andrew Boyd is an author, humorist, and climate activist. He is currently CEO - the “Chief Existential Officer” - of the Climate Clock, a global campaign he co-founded that melds art, science, technology, and grassroots organizing to get the world to #ActInTime. He also co-created the grief-storytelling ritual the Climate Ribbon, co-founded the progressive netroots powerhouse Other98%, and led the 2000s-era satirical campaign “Billionaires for Bush, which has recently evolved into “Trillionaires for Trump”. Andrew's most recent book is I Want a Better Catastrophe: Navigating the Climate Crisis with Grief, Hope and Gallows Humor (New Society Press, 20203). His other books include Beautiful Trouble: A Toolbox for Revolution; Daily Afflictions and Life’s Little Deconstruction Book

Topics covered: 

• Community is not always a given; oftentimes, we have to invent community for ourselves.
• Ways in which Andrew reinvigorates friendships and builds connection through rituals.
• Unpacking the concept of “chosen family” and how deep bonds and support can be formed outside of biological ties.
• The intersection of art, activism, and community through projects like The Climate Ribbon, which helps communities collectively process grief and commit to action.

Andrew’s story is a beautiful reminder that connection isn’t a given—it’s something we co-create with intention, ritual, and vulnerability. 

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When you open your mind up to what it takes to build a community, you start to find lessons everywhere you look. Take improv classes, for example. Improv isn't just about laughs & quick wit; it's a tool for teaching us about connection. When Michele dipped her toes into improv, she didn't expect it to reveal so much about building a community. That’s why in episode 5 of Connection from Here, we discuss what the fundamentals of improv can teach us about community building!

This week, we’re exploring the unexpected lessons that improv can teach us about community, connection, and personal growth. 

Topics covered: 

• Using the practice of “Yes, And” to validate and continue the conversation with others rather than shutting them down. 
• Cultivating trust and empathy through supporting others. 
• Seeing everyone’s unique contributions as a gift. 
• Embracing play and vulnerability to connect and bond with others. 
• Practicing active listening instead of listening just to respond. 
• Taking time to be consciously present in every moment. 

As you journey through your daily life, consider incorporating the lessons from improv into your interactions. Practice the "Yes, And" approach to conversations and strive to be present and attentive. Embrace vulnerability, support others, and actively listen to the gifts people offer. By doing so, you'll foster deeper connections and enrich your community experience. 

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Content Warning: This episode has brief mentions of religious trauma. 

We’ve made it abundantly clear that finding connection in community is important. However, the unspoken part is that finding the right fit in a community is the most important consideration. Rhiana Wiggins learned this the hard way after her search for belonging brought her into a group that was not authentic to her being. She joins us on the podcast this week to share her story of her search for connection, reflecting on experiences of loneliness, religious exploration, and the importance of finding authenticity in the paths we choose. Episode 4 of Connection from Here is about finding your place: the difference an authentic community can make!

Rhiana Wiggins came to Chaplaincy along a winding road from being an environmental activist, massage therapist, birth doula, whitewater guide, and then decades as an RN, predominantly working as a Hospice and Palliative Care nurse. Her theological degree is a Masters in Buddhist Studies from the Graduate Theological Union in Berkeley, CA, and her CPE training included a community hospital in Oakland, CA, and night ministry in San Francisco, CA. She also volunteered as a Chaplain in the prison system in CA. Rhiana is a lay ordained Zen Buddhist practitioner, as well as initiated in the Wiccan tradition. 

Topics covered: 

• Rhiana’s lack of community growing up led her to find community in places that were inauthentic to her. 
• The spiritual trauma shifted her perspective and led to a broader exploration of faith and spirituality. 
• Our modern transient nature offers opportunities for diverse experiences yet often amplifies feelings of isolation. 
• Community is a basic need, and a lack of it can have profound implications on our mental and physical health. 

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In a world where the word “community” is a term thrown around as frequently as your morning coffee order, how do we define genuine connection? More importantly, where can we find it beyond the conventional spaces of the past? In Episode 3 of Connection from Here we are talking about the essential elements of true community. 

This week, we’re reflecting on the vast changes in how we perceive and establish community and answer the question: what does genuine community look like?

Topics covered: 

• What it means to be in a community and how the perception of community has changed over time.
• While self-care and introspection are vital, true happiness comes from meaningful connections with others.
• There is a difference between interacting with friends and belonging to a community. 
• Difficulties people face when trying to find communities that align with their values and interests in the modern world.

In a time of changing landscapes in both physical and digital worlds, genuine communities are beacons of hope. Creating spaces where you can celebrate your true self and enrich others by contributing positively is needed now more than ever. Whether it's through engaging in new activities, joining interest groups, or simply reaching out, take that step towards finding your community. 

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New York Times- Ruth Whippman 2017 "Happiness is Other People"

Former Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy's Key Elements of Community

New York Times- Carina Chocano 2018 "What Good is Community When Someone Else Makes All the Rules?"

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As more and more people are stepping away from religion, we are introduced to the rising concept of “spiritual, not religious.” In short, this means that the human quest for meaning, purpose, hope, and spirituality doesn’t have to be confined within the boundaries of religious beliefs, opening us up to a world of possibilities. In episode 2 of Connection from Here, we dive deeper into what this means and the role that non-religious chaplains play in today’s changing world. 

Topics covered: 

• The term “spiritual but not religious” reflects a desire to connect with something larger than oneself without the confines of religious structures. 
• What spirituality might look like outside of the traditions of a religious institution. 
• How secular chaplains differ from pastors and what role they play in providing a safe, inclusive space for spiritual exploration. 

As we continue to explore our spiritual journeys, let us celebrate the freedom and inclusivity in seeking meaning beyond traditional boundaries. Embrace the opportunity to connect with others through shared values and a community of care. Let's build connections and communities that honor who we are as individuals and as a collective.

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Links For Further Reading:

More Americans are nonreligious. Who are they and what do they believe? [The Washington Post]

Spirituality Among Americans [Pew Research Center]

What It Means To Be Spiritual But Not Religious [The Atlantic]

Who's giving Americans spiritual care? As congregational attendance shrinks, it's often chaplains [Brandeis Now]

Why Chaplains Are in Demand in an Increasingly Secular America [Vice]

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The loneliness epidemic is more than just a feeling of isolation; it’s a health crisis. 50% of Americans say they experience measurable levels of loneliness on a daily basis. Humans are creatures of community, so why do we feel so alone? Episode 1 of Connection from Here is about creating community after leaving religion: finding new paths to connection. 

This week, we’re exploring this diminishing feeling of connection, digging into the decline of traditional community spaces like religious institutions and how the digital age, while connecting us in some ways, is leaving us feeling more isolated than ever.  We're not just talking about the problem, though. We're starting a journey to find solutions, to rebuild meaningful connections, and to find new ways to ask those big life questions we all have. 

Topics covered: 

The physical and emotional implications of the loneliness epidemic. 

• How although intended to connect us, this digital era is lacking in quality connection.
• Why we’re seeing a decline in religious affiliation. 
• Our own experience taking a step back from religion. 
• The need to build new forms of community and support outside of religious institutions. 

As we face an unprecedented era of disconnection, it's essential to rethink how we build communities that inspire care and belonging. Find us on social media and let us know your experience of finding community outside of religion. 

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Links Mentioned In This Episode:

The True Cost of the Churchgoing Bust by Derek Thompson [The Atlantic]

Spirituality Among Americans [Pew Research Center]

America Has a Loneliness Epidemic. Here Are 6 Steps to Address [NPR]

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Feeling disconnected? In today's world, building a genuine community can feel harder than ever, especially for those of us who have stepped away from religion. Join mother-daughter duo Ashley and Michele Perry, co-founders of HopeBase, as they explore the evolving landscape of connection and community in the Connection from Here podcast. 

Ashley, a former pastor turned secular chaplain and Gen Z thinker Michele, explore secular spirituality, answer the big questions about belonging, interview fascinating guests, and share real stories of how people are (and aren't) finding community in these changing times. 

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