Conversations With Candice

"The reason why you struggle to trust yourself is because the first person the world told you to trust, you cannot. When you turn to them to acknowledge the pain they've caused and they repeatedly tell you 'no,' it plants a seed that grows into the distrust of your own reality."

Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Five of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships, and today we are tackling the heavy, disorienting reality of parental gaslighting and the long road back to trusting your own intuition.

📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two extended deep dives, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma ('The Distortion of My Inner World'): A 33-year-old listener reflects on going 'no contact' with her mother, only for her mother to completely deny their long-standing toxic dynamic. The listener asks: 'How do you seriously go about trusting yourself and your choices if, deep down, you don't trust yourself?'
• Candice unpacks why parental gaslighting isolates you, the necessity of finding "witnesses" outside of your payroll (therapists/coaches), and why abusers manipulate your self-trust simply to maintain control.
• Housekeeping & OOTP: Late night studio recordings, looming book deadlines, Issey Miyake muumuu dresses, and the beauty of reconnecting with an estranged first cousin.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"Sometimes 'better' just means whiter, and we have to be willing to analyse that and challenge it. And when it comes to adult boundaries under your parents' roof: sometimes the only way to truly uphold a boundary is to go and build your own."

Welcome to Chapter Three, Episode Four of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice leads with a raw, unfiltered monologue on race, class, and education, before diving into an essential dilemma on upholding adult boundaries while living under your parents' roof.

📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER:

Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access our exclusive Part Two deep-dive on demolishing a 20-year marriage, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Monologue (When 'Better' Means Whiter): Inspired by Nikole Hannah-Jones' New York Times essay on public vs. selective schooling, Candice reflects on the tension between community and individual parenting, private school trade-offs, and the emotional fallout of navigating predominantly white spaces as Black parents.
• Dilemma (Parental Boundaries Under One Roof at 38): A 38-year-old Black Caribbean woman has spent 3–4 years trying to establish boundaries with her parents while living in their home, but feels constantly disregarded. Candice explains why the emotional cost of staying is running in the negative and urges her to move out, while Bode steps in with an insightful reality check on immigrant family conditioning and managing expectations.
• Housekeeping & Community Updates: Missing Montblanc pens, cultivating a safe space in the Substack chat, and why Chapter Three's parental themes require deeper nuance.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"Content is now. To be content is to be in the still waters of now, not continuously running your head mad with what has been, and not putting tension on what could be."

Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Three of Conversations with Candice! Today Candice opens up about navigating her luteal phase on HRT, looming book deadlines, and why we must stop robbing ourselves of joy.

📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT REMINDER: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch full 1-hour video episodes, access exclusive deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma (FOMO, Self-Worth & Being Present): A listener with a great job, an amazing partner, and great friends struggles with severe FOMO, constantly nitpicking moments (even while watching London skyline fireworks or holidaying in Brazil) and worrying that others are having a better time. Candice and Bode unpack why FOMO is actually "deprivation in action", the discipline of "catch it, bin it, kill it" for negative self-talk, and why low self-worth makes us feel unworthy of good experiences.
• The "Almost Woman" Mindset: Candice shares a deeply personal reflection on her upcoming essay 'The Plight of the Almost Woman', exploring how chasing the "next big milestone" blinds us from recognizing that we have already arrived.
• Housekeeping & OOTP: White asymmetric cape shirt, Dior headscarf, Swarovski ear piercings, HRT luteal phase realities, and book deadline updates.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"You don't want tea, my love. You want your ego stroked. You want a guy in your ear telling you he misses you and loves you and made a mistake, but there ain't no tea here. The kettle is broken."

Welcome back to Chapter Three, Episode Two of Conversations with Candice! We are continuing our season on Parental Relationships and boundaries, but today we start with a little foreplay for our audio listeners before diving into some deep family dynamics.

📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions on maternal estrangement, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 ('Confused Gal' & The Circling Ex): An ex from 8 years ago randomly messages after building a life with someone else and having a child, claiming he 'loves' her and wants to meet. Candice and Bode break down why he doesn't want tea—he wants an ego stroke—and the spiritual/karma realities of messing with a family man.
• Dilemma 2 (Do You Owe It To Your Kids To Find An Absent Father?): A listener who has never met her father asks if she owes it to her children to track him down. Candice and Bode discuss 'stranger danger', who the search is really for, 'relentless hope', and the painful dynamic of watching an absent parent become a great grandparent.
• Housekeeping & OOTP: Off-white Issey Miyake stole, Gucci designer headscarf, Fenty Beauty blue mascara, and Mordella ear stack.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"There is a thin line between hope and stupidity. The hope you once held for your absent father, you are now repackaging and giving to men who will never love you the way you love them."

Welcome to Chapter Three of Conversations with Candice! After a well-deserved summer break, Candice is back in your ears to launch an explosive, deeply personal new chapter focused entirely on Parental Relationships—exploring parental estrangement, neglect, abuse, and how our childhood foundations shape our adult lives.

📢 CHAPTER THREE FORMAT UPDATE: Free audio episodes across all podcast feeds (Spotify, Apple, Acast) are now 30 minutes long! If you want to watch the full 1-hour video episodes, access deep-dive discussions, join live Q&As, and participate in private community chats, subscribe to the paid paywall on Substack today!

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Parental Estrangement & Repackaged Hope): A 35-year-old listener reflects on her semi-estranged relationship with her father and why she continually accepts toxic behaviour from her ex-boyfriend and friends. Candice unpacks the fine line between "hope" and "stupidity", childhood window-waiting trauma, and facing the hard truth that some people simply do not love you back.
• Dilemma 2 (Fear of Online Backlash & Sharing Your Truth): How do you share your wisdom on the internet when you're terrified of community backlash? Candice explains why "bravery is just fear that's said its prayers", how your truth can save lives, and practical ways to modify your content (like turning off comments) to build confidence.
• Housekeeping & OOTP: Rest after "hot girl summer", Issey Miyake uniforms, Chloé glasses, and Bleach London's "Proper Copper" hair dye.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

Join the inner circle on Substack to catch full 1-hour video episodes in Chapter 3, exclusive articles, and private chat groups:

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"You have to decide what you're worth. Just because someone doesn't agree with what you believe you're worth doesn't mean it changes the worth. What about your life needs an edit?"

Welcome to the Chapter Two Finale of Conversations with Candice! We are closing the doors on our season on Love & Relationships with one of the most explosive, crucial episodes yet.

📢 FINAL ANNOUNCEMENT: VIDEO IS MOVING TO SUBSTACK FOR CHAPTER 3! This is your final warning: starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes will live exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack. (Plus, an announcement on Chapter Three's theme: Parental Relationships, Estrangement & Family Dynamics!)

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Financial Abuse, 19-Year Age Gap & Deception): A listener trapped in a 6-year marriage to a man 19 years her senior—who lied about secret children on their wedding day, bled her savings dry, and refuses to support her—asks if she is overreacting by wanting a divorce. Candice delivers her "doctorate in life lessons" response, while Bode steps in with vital legal counsel on Indefinite Leave to Remain (ILR), spousal visas, and exiting safely.
• Dilemma 2 (Femicide, Heartbreak & Staying Hopeful): How do we stay hopeful about love in light of heartbreak, abuse, and femicide statistics? Candice reflects on personal tragedy, the power of choice, and why we cannot over-index on negativity or give up on good love.
• Knowing Your Worth & Setting Your Price: Candice's powerful opening monologue on setting your own value in business and personal relationships.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"Before you invite someone into your house, you have to get your foundation solid. You can't perform confidence out in the world if you're talking down to yourself inside."

Welcome to Chapter Two, Episode Nine of Conversations with Candice! We have arrived at the penultimate episode of our season on Love & Relationships, and we are diving deep into two of the most emotionally charged dilemmas of the entire chapter.

📢 FINAL WARNING FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Self-Worth & 'Am I Deserving of Love?'): A 33-year-old listener who escaped a toxic situationship that left her in £20k debt asks if there is any hope left for her. Candice breaks down the danger of negative self-talk, body image perceptions, her book Manifesto, and why you must build self-respect and self-belief before letting anyone into your life.
• Dilemma 2 (Too Picky vs. Settling & The 'Zaza Zoo'): Is keeping high standards being 'too stush,' or is settling a recipe for disaster? Candice defends the need for the 'zaza zoo' spark, while Bode steps in with a major reality check on 'potential,' status badges (money, cars, titles), and why the most important thing is finding someone you actually like when 'life lifes' in the trenches.
• Dating as Data Collection: Bode's perspective on hacking your way to love and why status badges can be removed at any moment.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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• Executive Produced by: Candice Brathwaite Aboderin and Bode Aboderin

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"What actually hurts us as humans is expectation. You create your own lust—it takes two to sprinkle a little stardust on the routine."

Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Eight of Conversations with Candice! We are just two episodes away from closing out our chapter on Love & Relationships, and today’s episode delivers some of our most passionate, unfiltered debates yet.

CHAPTER THREE HOUSEKEEPING REMINDER: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paid paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and closed group chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Starting a PhD & The Silent Husband): A listener starting her PhD after 10 years of putting her family first feels crushed by her husband's lack of enthusiasm. Candice and Bode unpack the "invisible labour" that holds up a home, male competition, "negging", and why unmet expectations open the gates for pain.
• Dilemma 2 ("I've Fallen Out of Lust" After 16 Years): Married with three kids, feeling like roommates, and losing the spicy spark. Candice questions why men let themselves go, prompting Bode to passionately push back on male mental health, financial stress, and patriarchal expectations.
• Creating Your Own Lust: How predictability kills desire and why you have to work with the "Polestar 4" in your yard!

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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• Produced by: Undeniable Productions
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"Don't you dare give another 20 years. If you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and put yourself in a good financial position once, you can make shit pop again. Never forget that."

Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Seven of Conversations with Candice! Summer holidays are in full swing, stress levels are high, but we are back in the studio answering your most pressing questions about love, compromise, betrayal, and self-worth.

📢 MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT FOR CHAPTER THREE: Starting in Chapter Three, full-length video episodes are moving exclusively behind a paywall on Substack! Free audio will always remain 30 minutes on all podcast networks (Spotify, Apple, Acast), but the full 1-hour video experience, deep dives, exclusive monthly live sessions, and private community chat will live solely on Substack.

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Relocating vs. Staying Put): One partner wants to move abroad while the other wants to stay in the UK. Candice and Bode break down Bode’s "Act of OR vs. Act of AND" philosophy, how couples can take turns pursuing dreams, and knowing whether a relationship is worth sacrificing for.
• Dilemma 2 (Discovering 20+ Years of Infidelity): A listener discovers her husband has never been faithful and feels financially terrified to start over in her 40s. Candice and Bode talk about reclaiming financial independence ("get vexed money"), breaking free from fear, and the physical/emotional risks of staying with an unfaithful partner.
• Dilemma 3 (Emotional Affairs & Minimizing Pain): How do you navigate betrayal when he says "it wasn't physical" and minimizes your pain? Candice addresses the trap of self-betrayal, why women stay in pigsties just to be "chosen," and why serving an ultimatum means being ready to walk away.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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"Living with a man is not a prerequisite for a good, healthy relationship. Do not let loneliness win in a quiet moment and fill that precious space in your bed with any old flimsy dickhead."

Welcome back to Chapter Two, Episode Six of Conversations with Candice! We are past the halfway mark of our season on Love & Relationships, and today we are tackling three massive, deeply nuanced listener dilemmas that range from dating burnout abroad to bedrooms running dry.

Candice and co-producer Uncle Bode take on the Dilemma Inbox to answer the real, unfiltered questions you’re too afraid to ask out loud. How do you stop settling out of fear, how do you protect your mind from social media rage, and how do you reignite intimacy when life gets in the way?

Inside the Dilemma Inbox today:

• Dilemma 1 (Voice Note from Sylvia in Indonesia): Single for 4 years, living abroad, and terrified of "dying alone." Candice and Bode break down why cohabitation isn't mandatory for commitment, the value of writing down your "dream imperfect man," and the critical distinction between materialistic and moral standards.
• Dilemma 2 (Deconstructing "DL" Rumors & Algorithm Bias): A wild story about a Northwest London ex prompts a vital discussion on homophobia, algorithm bias, how social media ruins self-governance, and why you must stop reading the comment section.
• Dilemma 3 (Fixing a Dry Bedroom): Still in love and flirting, but the sex life is non-existent? Candice and Bode unpack how external stress, financial pressure, male mid-life epiphanies, perimenopause, and drops in testosterone affect libido—plus why straight couples need to drop the shame around sex toys.
• Bode’s Golden Rule on Social Media: Understanding the "Rage Bucket" and reclaiming your ability to form independent opinions without online bias.

No experts, no perfection. Just real conversations about life as we're actually living it.

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