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Convo #10: Jess and Lu on Coping through our years and New Year's Resolutions.
Recorded live in Bundoora, Melbourne VIC 3086 on Tuesday, 17 December 2019.
Hey hey my friends, Happy Lunar New Year if you are celebrating this occasion. If not, I hope you are having an awesome start to the week!
Meet Jess, a perfect stranger at La Trobe University that I had the chance to talk to the day before my graduation for my Master’s. I was listening to this conversation again and I realised how long it is, but it makes sense considering how this is how 2 perfect strangers got to know each other.
We started out discussing our uni lives, and coping plays into that A LOT, no matter how our journeys have been. As everyone has been a student at some point, I thought this is absolutely relatable and would help a lot of our peers out there to realise that when we are so caught up in our busy schedules juggling between studying and working, it is okay to accept whatever coping mechanism you are using. In our cases, we discussed overeating and having an unhealthy diet when coping with our busy uni lives and how taking a break really helps to re-evaluate what we have been doing and how to change our behaviour. What’s even more awesome is how Jess referred to The Glocals’ Convo #3 with Noah and discussed schemas. She gave me some more insights into how our behaviours can only be changed when things are built into our schemas. However, we agreed that sometimes we just don’t have the luxury of stopping to reflect and re-evaluate, so it is okay to change our behaviours bit by bit as we go and give empathy to ourselves and people around us. At the end of the day, we don’t know what a person is going through until we really talk to them and they openly share their stories, which is why we briefly mentioned how a person’s reality is completely different from their Instagram feed.
As this conversation happened at the end of 2019 and coping for a whole year leads to a desire for change, we also went into New Year’s Resolutions and discussed how they work for us. Even though the last day of 2019 wouldn’t be much of a difference compared to the first day of 2020, it is totally worthy to set some new goals for the new year and change things around. How do you set goals? Personally, I shared with Jess how I set goals based on Project Management’s principles, so yes, my yearly goals have got to be SMART. Well, I do understand that some intangible things cannot be measured with numbers, but there are other ways to see our improvement, say tangiblising the intangible. If you are not keeping a gratitude journal yet, perhaps it is worth it to try and record good things somewhere and see if you are happy with your day at least once a week, then go from there. Whatever comes in 2020 will only be the results of all that you have been working on in 2019, so brace yourselves for the best!
It is such a long conversation but its flow is just natural and I love it, so thank you Jess for joining me! Our senses of sarcasm are different but I really enjoyed having this conversation and I learned a lot from you.
To my listeners: if you are listening in real time and are celebrating Lunar New Year, I hope this can help you re-evaluate your 2019 and set new goals for 2020. Whatever it is that you had to cope with in 2019, I hope it is a bit easier now to cope with. Please know that whatever you have been working on will go somewhere in 2020, and this will be the best year yet, for each year is only getting better.
Cheers,
Jess and Lu
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By LuRecorded live in Bundoora, Melbourne VIC 3086 on Tuesday, 17 December 2019.
Hey hey my friends, Happy Lunar New Year if you are celebrating this occasion. If not, I hope you are having an awesome start to the week!
Meet Jess, a perfect stranger at La Trobe University that I had the chance to talk to the day before my graduation for my Master’s. I was listening to this conversation again and I realised how long it is, but it makes sense considering how this is how 2 perfect strangers got to know each other.
We started out discussing our uni lives, and coping plays into that A LOT, no matter how our journeys have been. As everyone has been a student at some point, I thought this is absolutely relatable and would help a lot of our peers out there to realise that when we are so caught up in our busy schedules juggling between studying and working, it is okay to accept whatever coping mechanism you are using. In our cases, we discussed overeating and having an unhealthy diet when coping with our busy uni lives and how taking a break really helps to re-evaluate what we have been doing and how to change our behaviour. What’s even more awesome is how Jess referred to The Glocals’ Convo #3 with Noah and discussed schemas. She gave me some more insights into how our behaviours can only be changed when things are built into our schemas. However, we agreed that sometimes we just don’t have the luxury of stopping to reflect and re-evaluate, so it is okay to change our behaviours bit by bit as we go and give empathy to ourselves and people around us. At the end of the day, we don’t know what a person is going through until we really talk to them and they openly share their stories, which is why we briefly mentioned how a person’s reality is completely different from their Instagram feed.
As this conversation happened at the end of 2019 and coping for a whole year leads to a desire for change, we also went into New Year’s Resolutions and discussed how they work for us. Even though the last day of 2019 wouldn’t be much of a difference compared to the first day of 2020, it is totally worthy to set some new goals for the new year and change things around. How do you set goals? Personally, I shared with Jess how I set goals based on Project Management’s principles, so yes, my yearly goals have got to be SMART. Well, I do understand that some intangible things cannot be measured with numbers, but there are other ways to see our improvement, say tangiblising the intangible. If you are not keeping a gratitude journal yet, perhaps it is worth it to try and record good things somewhere and see if you are happy with your day at least once a week, then go from there. Whatever comes in 2020 will only be the results of all that you have been working on in 2019, so brace yourselves for the best!
It is such a long conversation but its flow is just natural and I love it, so thank you Jess for joining me! Our senses of sarcasm are different but I really enjoyed having this conversation and I learned a lot from you.
To my listeners: if you are listening in real time and are celebrating Lunar New Year, I hope this can help you re-evaluate your 2019 and set new goals for 2020. Whatever it is that you had to cope with in 2019, I hope it is a bit easier now to cope with. Please know that whatever you have been working on will go somewhere in 2020, and this will be the best year yet, for each year is only getting better.
Cheers,
Jess and Lu