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Have you ever wondered about kids whose behaviors don't neatly fit into traditional attachment theory categories? Those are the "unclassifiable" children first observed by Mary Ainsworth during her "Strange Situation" tests. This video looks at how these unclassifiable reactions led researcher Mary Main to identify a new attachment style known as "disorganized attachment."

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Have you ever wondered how your child truly sees you—not just on the surface, but deep down? The way you interact with them forms their inner working model—a blueprint that shapes their future relationships, self-worth, and emotional well-being.

In this video, we break down:
✅ How early experiences shape attachment and trust
✅ The impact of secure vs. insecure attachment styles
✅ Parenting habits that foster emotional security
✅ Practical strategies to help your child build confidence and resilience

Your parenting choices today shape how your child sees the world tomorrow. Join us as we explore the power of connection and how small changes can make a big difference.

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Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/YwBdKE9cSOU

Do you ever worry about whether your child feels secure with you—or with your coparent? You're not alone. While there isn’t a simple questionnaire to measure a child's sense of security, attachment theory provides valuable insights into how children form relationships with their caregivers.

In this episode, we discuss the Strange Situation—a groundbreaking assessment developed by Mary Ainsworth to evaluate a child's attachment style. We break down what different attachment styles reveal about the parent-child relationship and their long-term effects on emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:
🔹 Secure Attachment: Indicates a responsive, emotionally available caregiver. Leads to healthy relationships and emotional regulation.
🔹 Insecure-Avoidant Attachment: Suggests emotional distance from the caregiver. Can result in difficulty with intimacy and emotional expression.
🔹 Insecure-Resistant/Ambivalent Attachment: Reflects inconsistency in caregiving, leading to anxiety and excessive clinginess.
🔹 Disorganized Attachment: Often linked to fear, neglect, or trauma, creating confusion and emotional struggles in the child.

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Attachment isn’t just about emotions—it’s a survival strategy wired into our DNA. From the moment we’re born, we rely on our caregivers to shape how we connect with the world. But how does this work? And what happens when those connections break down?

* Watch this episode on YouTube (https://youtu.be/7ecu1EYplTU?si=Qvaw4zrCHd4xYpri) 

In this episode, we discuss: 

• Why attachment is a survival mechanism, not just a bond.
  
  
• How parents shape their child’s emotional security.
  
  
• The Still Face Experiment—a powerful study on caregiver responsiveness.
  
  

Understanding attachment helps us build stronger, healthier relationships—from childhood to adulthood. It's the science of connection.

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Your baby’s brain develops at an astonishing rate during the first two years of life, and two powerful forces are at play: genetics and experiences. We discuss how these factors work together to shape your baby’s brain architecture and how toxic stress can disrupt this delicate process.

Learn the science behind brain development and find out why to protect your baby from the harmful effects of stress.

Topics Covered:

- The role of genetics and experiences in brain development
- How toxic stress affects brain growth

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This is Episode 2 in our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. 

In this episode we dig into the epigenetic effects of stressors on children during pregnancy. 

We discuss: 

• The Diathesis-Stress Model
• Epigenetics
• Prenatal Brain Development
• Prenatal Programming (aka DOHad or the Barker Hypothesis)
• Examples including the epigenetic effects of the:
  • Descendants of Holocaust survivors; and 
  • Children born to mothers who were pregnant with them during the Quebec Ice Storm of 1998

 
Check out the Youtube version of this episode for some additional visual content and links to research articles reviewed and/or relied upon for the content in this episode.

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This is Episode 1 of our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series.

In this episode we give an overview of how the emotional brain develops, based on the work of Dr. Allan Schore. Next week, we'll get into the details of how the brain develops and what brain scans of mothers and their infants interacting can teach us about attachment.

This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids.

This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.

Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)  Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore’s research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.

Watch Dr. Allan Schore's podcast with Andrew Huberman

Watch Dr. Schore give an academic lecture on this topic 

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This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. 

This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.

The series focuses on two key themes:

1. The Science of Emotional Development – We’ll explore how a child’s brain develops, from before birth through early childhood and beyond. You’ll learn how the emotional brain works and how your actions as a parent or co-parent shape their future.
2. Practical Parenting and Coparenting Strategies – We’ll discuss how to apply this knowledge in real-life parenting situations, with a special emphasis on coparenting dynamics.

The materials in this series will be drawn from the following experts, among others:  

1. Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)
   • Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore’s research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.
2. Dr. John Gottman (John & Julie Gottman - About | The Gottman Institute)
   • The renowned psychologist and author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child brings us practical tools for teaching kids emotional intelligence and managing conflict as coparents.
3. Dr. Robert E. Emery (Robert Emery | Department of Psychology)
   • As the author of Two Homes, One Childhood, Dr. Emery offers invaluable insights into managing separation and creating stability for children in shared parenting situations.
4. Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (https://www.tinabryson.com/)
   • Co-author of No-Drama Discipline, Dr. Bryson provides guidance on how to discipline in ways that nurture emotional development instead of harming it.
5. Dr. Richard C. Schwartz (Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. - The Founder of Internal Family Systems | IFS Institute)
   • The creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Schwartz helps us understand how our own emotional wounds and inner dynamics influence parenting and coparenting.

I look forward to bringing you information gathered from these experts and others to help you understand how your child's emotional brain develops and how you can help them to grow into emotionally regulated, secure adults capable of loving and lasting relationships. 

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at [email protected].  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

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This week is the last in our holiday replay series.  Next week, I'll introduce our new series on the development of children's emotional brain, attachment, and what that all means for coparents. 

The replay this week is part 2 of our conversation with Brad Baldridge.

Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies.

In this conversation, we dig into the details of what coparents should be considering in funding their child's college education, whether college is years away or started last year. Linda and I were blown away by all we didn't know about college financial planning, and this was an extremely informative conversation.

Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site.

Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/

At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at [email protected].  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

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This week we begin a replay of our two-episode conversation with Brad Baldridge.

Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies.

In this conversation, we discuss the difficult situation of college funding during and after a divorce, starting with the foundational information any parent needs to know when planning for the financial realities of their child's college education.

Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site.

Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/

At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at [email protected].  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.