Core wounds healing + nervous system rewiring for women over 40. In this episode, JJ Flizanes joins Lesa Koski to unpack core wounds healing, the “core wound map,” and how your subconscious beliefs shape people-pleasing, abandonment fears, and everyday triggers. You’ll learn why core wounds healing isn’t just awareness—it’s rewiring, stretching past comfort zones, and building new neural pathways. JJ shares how core wounds healing can change your patterns in real time, and why choosing yourself is the pathway out of abandonment loops. Plus, a powerful look at 2026’s “Year of the Fire Horse” energy—movement, action, and expansion after a season of shedding.

If you’re navigating midlife change, divorce recovery, emotional healing, or you’re ready to stop spiraling and start choosing you, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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(00:00) Welcome + why JJ is a “big deal” and where to find her work

(02:10) Lesa’s healing journey + why the Core Wounds course mattered

(05:10) JJ explains core wounds as subconscious beliefs (and why therapy can stall)

(10:40) The “core wound map” + why people process differently (moon signs + patterns)

(16:30) Why awareness isn’t always enough: rewiring requires stretching

(20:30) The “video that made her cry” example + how the brain flags “unsafe”

(24:40) Neuroplasticity story: cats in an RV + how the brain learns “I didn’t die”

(28:40) Lesa gets real: people-pleasing, overexplaining, and tiny daily triggers

(33:10) Abandonment wound: the belief underneath it + “How do you abandon yourself?”

(38:15) “Choose you” homework: one daily small step + one bigger weekly stretch

(42:30) Healing in relationship vs healing alone + the power of mirroring

(47:10) Tribe + community: why group energy accelerates growth

(50:25) 2025 shedding → 2026 Year of the Fire Horse begins Feb 17, 2026

(55:10) How to work with JJ + her application link + closing

Key Takeaways:

1. Core wounds are subconscious beliefs that shape how you see yourself and relationships—often without you realizing it.
2. Awareness is step one, but rewiring requires action that stretches your comfort zone and builds new neural pathways.
3. People-pleasing and overexplaining can be signs of an abandonment pattern—your nervous system trying to stay “safe.”
4. Healing isn’t just emotional; it’s nervous-system and behavior change, practiced moment-to-moment and proactively.
5. Community matters: being in a tribe of people on a similar growth path keeps your “coal” warm and your progress moving.

Guest Bio:

JJ Flizanes is a personal development coach, podcast host, and creator of emotional healing programs focused on identifying and rewiring subconscious patterns. She developed the Core Wound Map, expanding on the core wound exercise from Imago therapy, and continues to teach tools for emotional resilience, nervous system awareness, and practical rewiring strategies.

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