The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/cross-dresses-lost-his-job-and-complains-about-my-cleaning/.

What a smorgasbord of problems! What they have in common is that the woman doing the search for help with these issues doesn't feel able to talk about it with her husband. We talk about some listener comments on earlier podcasts about cross-dressing, and take a detour into rants (from Bruce) about the effects of ideology and the evils of McCarthyism as manifested in cancel culture, and the need to tolerate the anxiety of complexity.

More information on the upcoming presentations of “Jewish Perspectives on Sex: Sacred Sex and Sexual Midrash” is at https://brucechalmer.com/jewish-perspectives-on-sex-sacred-sex-and-sexual-midrash/.

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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/embracing-and-healing-shame-an-interview-with-sheila-rubin-and-bret-lyon/.

We’ve all experienced shame. It’s painful! But, as our guests in this episode point out, shame is not only necessary, but it can also be helpful. How can we transform shame from a destructive force to an ally? Check out our interview and find out.

Sheila and Bret’s website is https://healingshame.com/.

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What is teshuvah? And what does it have to do with couples therapy? We recorded this podcast between the Jewish High Holidays of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, and talk about how the themes of return, repentance, and reflection, all aspects of the concept of teshuvah, are intimately related to the work of healing couples. We both get verklempt as we talk about it!

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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/teshuvah-and-couples-therapy/.

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/helping-couples-deal-with-infertility-an-interview-with-rena-gower/.

Infertility is a very common issue for couples, and dealing with the stresses, the losses, and the array of difficult choices often results in conflict for couples. Our guest in this episode, Rena Gower, is a clinical social worker who helps individuals and couples cope with a wide variety of issues related to the experience of infertility. She brings her own experiences with infertility to the work.

Rena’s website is https://renagower.com. Her book, “Infertility 101: A Quick and Concise Guide” is available on Amazon.

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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/healing-from-infidelity-through-kundalini-yoga-an-interview-with-eva-g-kane/.

Can a couple heal from infidelity? Can you forgive your partner’s cheating, move past the pain, and rebuild your relationship? Our guest in this episode, Eva G. Kane, has been through that experience. Along the way, she became an instructor of Kundalini Yoga, which she credits with saving her marriage. And she wrote a memoir of her experience, called It’s Not Too Late, Baby: A Kundalini Love Story.

Eva’s website is https://itsnottoolatebaby.com/.

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The video of this episode is at https://youtu.be/OgPf_CjFYzo.

What  are the challenges of being in a marriage, and parenting, when you’re neurodiverse yourself and have neurodiverse children? What can everyone, neurodiverse or not, learn from those experiences? Our guest in this episode, Dr. Christopher Scott Wyatt, is an autistic self-advocate who also advocates for his neurodiverse daughters. We discuss relationships, parenting, education, and more.

Dr. Wyatt’s blog is “The Autistic Me,” and he hosts the “Perspectives on Neurodiversity” podcast.

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The video of this episode is at this link.

Rev. Cheryl Kincaid is a Presbyterian minister, former foster parent, and survivor of childhood abuse. She has facilitated groups for women who have experienced violence, and has written several novels about children in foster care who have been abused, portraying her characters in all their nuanced complexity. We talk to Rev. Kincaid about her faith, life, and work.

You can find more information about Rev. Kincaid and her work at https://revcherylkincaid.com/.

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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/when-do-annoyances-become-deal-breakers/.

A few episodes back we talked about the magic key that solves all relationship problems (not too grandiose, right?), which involves the ability to tolerate annoyance from others without getting into full-blown panic. This idea (also discussed in Dr. Chalmer’s Newsletter) prompted a listener to ask us about how to tell when annoyances have risen to the level of destructive. We talk about the nuances of that question, and how our listener and others in her situation might handle that dilemma.

At around minute 52, we give a shout-out to Bat Sheva Marcus, a sex therapist we’ve had on the show twice in the past. Hi, Bat Sheva!

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The video of this episode is at https://youtu.be/5Ve2itHMQLo.

How can we age well? As the proportion of the population above 65 continues to grow, this question is occupying more and more of our minds. Our guests in this episode, Caryl and Jay Casbon, undertook an in-depth study involving extended stays with 13 different couples, interviewing them about their lives and relationships as they age. The result of this five-year effort is their book Side by Side: The Sacred Art of Couples Aging with Wisdom & Love.

More information about the book, and about Caryl and Jay, is at https://sidebysideaging.com/.

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The video of this episode is at https://youtu.be/sjNra-VO9Tc.

What is ethical nonmonogamy? What’s the difference between couples therapy and sex therapy? And how does the idea that we’re each actually a bunch of people help couples? We interview couples and sex therapist Jodie Shea about her work.

Jodie’s website is https://pillowtalktherapy.com/.

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