In this episode of Stronger Standards, I break down why change feels so hard—especially when part of you wants to grow and another part is scared to try again. I explain how our brains and nervous systems are wired for safety, how old coping strategies can keep us stuck, and what actually helps change become sustainable. I also share personal reflections, practical exercises, and an invitation to think differently about the year ahead.

I cover:

• Why change feels scary even when you want it
• How the brain’s need for safety keeps us stuck
• The role of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overthinking
• Why forcing change doesn’t last
• How sustainable change comes from safety, not pressure
• A reflection on how you want to feel in one year
• Practicing new beliefs with compassion, not force

Keep an eye out for more Stronger Standards episodes, focused on small, meaningful changes that support a more fulfilling life.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: overcoming the fear of change

01:24 - Understanding the brain's role in change

02:49 - Social threats and safety behaviors

03:50 - Implicit learnings and emotional regulation

04:55 - Safety strategies and their impact

07:09 - Challenges in making changes

09:14 - Building capacity for change

12:28 - Reflecting on future goals

15:22 - Practical tips for cultivating change

22:42 - Conclusion: embracing change with compassion

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here