Beneath the Surface

I just got back from a week-long mastermind on the Camino de Santiago in Spain with a group of remarkable business owners — authors, TED speakers, retreat leaders — all gathered to get clear on the next 90 days of our businesses. In this episode, I'm sharing what I actually walked away with, including why knowing your strategy isn't your real problem, and what I finally gave myself permission to believe.

💬 Ready to start building the strengths you need to make you and your business stronger? Submit a coaching inquiry via this link 🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 - Why I joined an in-person business mastermind

00:55 - How the mastermind worked

02:20 - Why I love not being the expert

03:05 - Getting clarity on my next big project

03:25 - Finding a business community

5:30 - What my hotseat revealed about me

08:40 - Questioning my approach to creating content

10:20 - The feedback from the group I finally let myself receive

12:10 - What changes when you build relationships with people who've done the inner work

16:50 - Getting my drive back but from a place of compassion instead of fear

18:05 - Takeaways for you and your business approach

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

Are you removing triggers or actually building strength? In this episode I'm unpacking experiential avoidance: why we avoid uncomfortable emotions and experiences, why it feels so justified in the moment, and why it quietly keeps us stuck in the long run.

Key takeaway: Avoidance offers short-term relief but long-term stagnation. Every time you approach something you've been avoiding, you prove to yourself that you have the capacity to handle it and that is how self-assurance is actually built.

💬 Ready to start building the strengths you need to approach what you've been avoiding? Submit a coaching inquiry via this link 🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 - What is experiential avoidance?

00:55 - Why removing a trigger isn't the same as building a strength

02:30 - When removing triggers is actually okay, and the compassionate motive that makes the difference

03:45 - Why losing weight to build confidence is fragile

04:15 - The benefits we unknowingly give up when we avoid certain triggers

06:50 - How experiential avoidance showed up in my own life

07:55 - The risk log: a weekly practice from functional analytic psychotherapy that changed things for me

09:00 - Why things might get harder before they get easier when you start being more assertive

09:40 - How approaching what you've been avoiding actually builds self-assurance over time

10:00 - A question to sit with this week

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More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

If you're someone who loves to understand the why behind everything — the science, the patterns, the theory — this episode is for you. Intellectualizing can be a genuine strength, but it can also become the very thing that keeps you stuck. I'm unpacking how to spot when you're explaining instead of feeling, and what to do about it.

Key takeaway: Understanding is the beginning of the process, not the destination. At some point, the work stops being about learning more and starts being about being willing to feel more. If you've learned a lot and still feel stuck, you're not doing it wrong, you're simply ready for the next level.

💬 If you're ready to start integrating what you know and building up those lagging emotional muscle groups, I'd love to support you. Submit a coaching inquiry via this link 🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 - What is intellectualisation?

02:20 - Why intellectualising develops in the first place

03:15 - The crucial difference between understanding something and actually doing something

04:00 - Where in your life are you explaining instead of feeling?

05:00 - The social dimension: why our culture prizes intellect over emotion

05:50 - What it actually looks like to interrupt the pattern

06:30 - Three questions to catch intellectualizing in the moment

07:30 - A practical body-based practice: describing sensations instead of explaining feelings

08:30 - Compassionate colour and other tools for sitting with discomfort rather than thinking your way out of it

10:40 - Putting these techniques into practice

11:15 - The shift from knowing more to being willing to feel more

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• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

When your coaching business isn't where you want it to be, it's tempting to overhaul your website, revisit your ideal client, or build out new resources. But what if those urges are being driven by emotion rather than evidence? In this episode, I'm breaking down emotional reasoning in business — what it is, how to spot it, and how to make clearer, steadier decisions that actually move things forward.

Key takeaway: When business feels stuck, the instinct is to fix something visible. But often what needs addressing first is what's happening underneath. Data gives you an objective reference point; emotional awareness stops you wasting time solving the wrong problem.

💬 Want support working through the emotions that are getting in the way of running your business with clarity? Submit a coaching inquiry via this link 🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Why emotional reasoning is one of the biggest things holding coaches back

01:10 – What emotional reasoning is, and how it shows up in business

02:50 – The confidence myth in coaching — why doubt is normal, and what to address instead

03:00 – Helpful vs. fear-driven motives

04:00 – Trigger #1: Comparison

05:10 – Trigger #2: Making decisions from a place of uncertainty

07:20 – Trigger #3: Endlessly refining

08:15 – How to use data as an objective anchor when emotions are driving your decisions

09:20 – The one question to ask first when your coaching isn't selling

10:00 – Separating the emotional work from the practical next steps

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More Resources:

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If you've tried breathing techniques, journaling, or urge surfing and the emotions just keep coming back — this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the difference between managing emotions in the moment and actually changing how you feel long-term, and why that distinction could be the missing piece in your progress.

Key takeaway: Emotion regulation helps you cope in the moment. Emotion integration is what actually changes your emotional landscape over time, and it works by finding and building tolerance for the emotion you've been avoiding, not the one that's loudest.

💬 Ready to go beyond the in-the-moment tools and work on the deeper patterns? Submit a coaching inquiry through the link below, I'd love to support you through this process.

🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Why your go-to coping tools might only be scratching the surface

00:55 – How I define emotion regulation

02:00 – When emotion regulation *is* useful

02:50 – What emotion integration actually means

03:45 – A deep dive example: social anxiety, and the hidden emotion that's actually driving it

05:20 – Why blocked anger can show up as anxiety — and what healthy anger is really there to do

06:30 – What this looks like in practice

07:45 – My personal experience getting in touch with my own anger, and why it changed everything

08:40 – The Steady Mind: why we build this first before turning towards difficult emotions

09:20 – Two questions to get you started on your own emotion integration journey

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More Resources:

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• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

Have you ever caught yourself thinking "I should be able to do this, why can't I just get it together?" In this episode, I'm unpacking self-blame: where it comes from, why we developed it, and how to take responsibility for our lives without turning on ourselves.

💬 If you'd like deeper, more long-term support working through these patterns I'd love to hear from you. Submit a coaching inquiry via the link below.

🔗 Coaching

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Timestamps:

00:00 – The inner critic's greatest hits — and why they're keeping you stuck

01:15 – What self-blame actually is, and when it can be constructive vs. destructive

02:30 – Why self-blame developed as a learned safety strategy

04:20 – How blaming yourself protects you from anger, sadness, and feelings of helplessness

06:00 – My real-life illustration of self-blame vs. responsibility in action

08:45 – The crucial difference between fault and responsibility — and why it changes everything

09:50 – Practical steps to begin noticing your self-blame patterns

10:40 – The fear beneath the pattern and why that's where your compassion needs to go

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More Resources:

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In this episode of Beneath the Surface I challenge the common coaching assumption that struggling to follow through automatically means “resistance” and I introduce a clearer framework of blocks, resistance, and fears. 

With rest (or lack of it) as an example, I unpack how understanding the root cause of our limitations can help us to shift our mentality and be more compassionate towards ourselves.

Timestamps: 

00:25 – Why “resistance” is oversimplified

01:30 – Blocks: external limits on rest

03:20 - Resistance: not seeing the benefit of rest

04:55 - Fears: knowing it helps but still can’t rest

07:55 - Compassion, courage, and origins of overworking/rest guilt

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

I’m kicking off the self-sabotage series of Beneath the Surface with a real-time example of how I worked through performance anxiety before running my first ever half marathon.

In this episode, I walk through the exact tools I used, including an approach from Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT), reframing perfectionist thinking, and the self-talk that helped me stay focused during the race.

If you’ve ever felt pressure around a goal you really care about, this episode will help you hold high standards without letting anxiety sabotage you.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Performance anxiety before my first half marathon

02:30 – The hidden belief driving the pressure

04:15 – Reframing goals: preference vs demand

06:00 – Perfectionism, social pressure, and self-compassion

08:30 – Returning to the why

10:00 – Self-talk and mindset during the race

12:15 – A question to reflect on for your own goals

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

Welcome to season 3 of my newly renamed podcast Beneath the Surface.

In this episode I explore safety strategies — the hidden drivers behind behaviours like emotional eating, procrastination, overworking, doom scrolling, and people-pleasing. I explain the science behind these behaviours, and why, when our threat system is activated it is harder to access logical thinking and choose differently.

I also introduce the soothe system and the idea of developing a “steady self” — an observing part of the mind that helps you respond to these patterns with awareness rather than being driven by them.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Season 3 introduction

00:38 – What safety strategies are

01:45 – Why all behaviors serve a function

02:35 – The brain’s threat system

03:45 – Amygdala, stress hormones & reactivity

05:20 – Why change feels hard in the moment

06:10 – The soothe system

07:10 – Why soothing can feel difficult

08:00 – Developing the “steady self”

09:00 – Understanding emotional parts

09:40 – Reflecting on your safety patterns

10:27 – Wrap up

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here