A man is at his best when he is on a quest with a purpose. He is focused, resourceful, dependable, tenacious and grows from challenges and setback. A joy arises from dedicating his life to that purpose and many of the things in society we focus on (money, women, status, popularity, etc.) can even be natural byproducts of being on purpose. However, chasing those things in and of itself does not put a man on his purpose.
It's uncommon for me to meet a man on his purpose nowadays. We all connect to something that lights us up......I just don't feel most men have an awareness of what that purpose is, and they are definitely not living it.
There are many things in our society that I feel are distracting men from their purpose. One of the most devastating ones is porn and masturbation. According to a survey conducted by Tenga, 92% of US men masturbate, and there is some level of addiction in a high percentage of them. There are countless youtube videos, articles, TED talks, etc. on the harmful effects of porn/masturbation and also on the noticeable benefits of stopping so I'm not going to belabor them here.
If I had to give some unsolicited advice to most men on how to be more attractive to women, I'd chellenge them to connect to a purpose that's worth valuing their seed for:
- Notice your motivation to work out and the results from working out after you stop (higher testerone level after 7 days)
- Notice how the built up sexual tension can be transmuted to a drive to get shit done
- Notice how the lingering guilt in the back of your mind has been replaced with confidence and self pride that you are in control
- Notice how you can enjoy having sexual urges without needing to release. How do you think women feel about non-needy men?
Cutting out porn/masturbation will not solve all your problems. But......it sure would be nice to live your life without an invisible deadweight dragging you down wouldn't it?
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