In this episode of Create the Love, Mark Groves sits down with Sheleana Aiyana to dig into why we repeat relationship patterns—and how to finally break them. They unpack childhood wounds, attachment styles, and the difference between falling into love and consciously choosing it. If you've ever said, "Why do I keep dating the same person?"—this one's for you.

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationships as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One.

• Sheleana Aiyana | Instagram 
• Rising Woman | Instagram
• Rising Woman | Website
• Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself

CTL Links:

• Website: www.createthelove.com
• CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community
• Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book
• Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery

In this solo episode, I sit down with real-life couple and therapists Jon Kim and Vanessa Bennett to unpack the messy, beautiful reality of modern relationships. From rocky beginnings and one-foot-out-the-door moments to learning how to see beauty in our differences, we explore what it takes to truly do life with someone—not at or around them. We talk about avoidant tendencies, attachment triggers, and how old wounds show up in conflict, all while keeping it raw, real, and deeply human. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in partnership, this episode will have you reflecting hard and laughing a little too.

Links:

John's Instagram: www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist

Vanessa's Instagram: www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett

CTL Links:

Website: www.createthelove.com

CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community

Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book

Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery

—How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? https://markgroves.com/connectthedots

In this heart-opening episode of the Create the Love podcast, Mark Groves sits down with Bryan Reeves for a raw, no-holds-barred conversation about modern masculinity, emotional depth, and what it really takes to thrive in a relationship. They unpack the social conditioning that teaches men to suppress the very skills needed for deep connection, and explore the radical idea of choosing your partner—and yourself—every single day. From advocating for conscious endings to reframing relationships as invitations, not obligations, this episode is a soulful call to own your choices, stand in your truth, and create love with intention.

Bryan Reeves is a former U.S. Air Force Captain turned renowned relationship coach, author, and speaker who helps men and couples navigate the complexities of modern love with clarity and heart. With a masterful blend of lived experience, emotional wisdom, and grounded insight, Bryan empowers individuals to break free from outdated paradigms of masculinity and create deeply connected, conscious relationships. He’s the author of Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) and the voice behind the Men, This Way podcast, guiding thousands toward more authentic, soulful partnerships.

Bryan's Links:

Website: https://bryanreeves.com/

Book: https://bryanreeves.com/book/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryanreevesinsight/

CTL Links:

Website: www.createthelove.com

CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community

Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book

Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery

Learn How to Stop Chasing Unavailable People: https://markgroves.com/stopchasing

Mark is joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon to unpack the power of relational self-awareness and how it transforms romantic connections. They tackle the challenges of receiving feedback—especially for men—and how societal conditioning can block growth and intimacy. Instead of placing blame, they explore how understanding relational dynamics leads to deeper, more authentic bonds. The conversation closes with a powerful reminder: who we are in relationships isn’t fixed, but ever-evolving through connection.

For nearly three decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Alexandra is a licensed clinical psychologist who trained, taught, supervised, and worked at The Family Institute at Northwestern University for nearly 30 years. She is the founder of the Institute for Relational Self-Awareness (IRSA) where she maintains a clinical practice with individuals, couples, and adult family systems.

Dr. Alexandra's Links:

• Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/
• Loving Bravely Book: https://a.co/d/19AEUXR

Create The Love Links:

• Website: www.createthelove.com
• CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community
• Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book
• Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery

In this episode, Mark Groves and Sarah Baldwin dive into how attachment theory and childhood experiences shape our adult relationships. They explore why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, how early neglect wires our nervous system, and why these patterns aren’t flaws—but protective mechanisms.

Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach specializing in trauma, attachment dynamics, and nervous system health. Known for her approachable teaching style, Sarah helps individuals understand how early experiences shape adult attachment patterns, influencing emotional responses and relational behaviors.

Sarah Baldwin's Links:

• Sarah’s Instagram 
• Sarah’s Website 

Create The Love Links:

• Website: www.createthelove.com
• CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community
• Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book
• How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? Get our guide: https://markgroves.com/connectthedots

Embark on a journey of relational transformation with Mark Groves in the inaugural episode of the "Create the Love" podcast. Mark, a passionate advocate for relationship education, and founder of Relational Wellness Company, "Create The Love," introduces listeners to the profound impact that mastering the art of relating can have on overall life quality. With a focus on romantic relationships, he reveals how these connections serve as mirrors, reflecting personal growth areas and opportunities for healing. This episode sets the stage for a podcast dedicated to equipping you with the tools to enhance your relationships, regardless of your past experiences.

Welcome, to the Create The Love Podcast! We are so glad you're here.

Links:

Website: www.createthelove.com

CTL Community: www.createthelove.com/community

Mark's Book: www.markgroves.com/book

Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery