My brain used to be in the habit of thinking a lot of should-sentences.  I should be ......, I should want to......., I shouldn't............It left me feeling horrible about myself and my life. 

Why are should-sentences thoughts so destructive?

They are destructive to us because when we think them we are being self-critical and telling ourselves that we are not good enough the way we are.

I teach you 3 steps on how to change your should sentences to more empowering thoughts.

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Worry appears to be necessary but it never changes the impact of the thing you are worrying about. Your brain will try to sell you that worry is necessary but this is a lie. When my son came out I worried. I worried a lot and about everything. I was eating worry for breakfast, lunch and dinner. You can imagine my indigestion and weight gain!I felt like in order to be a good parent worry was necessary and important. The result of all my worry was a disconnected, distracted, fearful mama. My parenting decisions were made from fear and worry, which made for a lot of parenting mistakes.My worry wasn’t solving anything and in fact it was causing more problems.

This episode I give you 3 ways on how to break-up with worry so you can feel less fear and more peace.

When I think my child is confused and not really sure that they are LGBTQ.  I think they are being influenced by their friends and social media so I am afraid to really go all in and support them.  I don't want them to commit to something that them might later think was wrong, just for them to be able to fit in to their peer group.  

Most LGBTQ children will go through a faith crisis.  When this happens how are you reacting. Are you actions coming from having a confidence in God that even though your family’s path looks differently than expected that it is still the perfect path for your family? Are you acting from a place of confidence in your child’s ability that they will find their Savior and God will stay in their story? 

In this episode I talk about 4 things to do to help you show up in faith and not fear when your child starts questioning their faith.

How do you handle the people in your life that are difficult?  I teach you how to get your power back and how to manage your brain so they have less impact on you.

When you are a parent of an LGBTQ child you will have experience some difficult moments. In this episode I teach you how to make these moments less difficult.  The learning of how to allow is a skill and a muscle that I will teach you the components of how to grow.

We all need support and sometimes when your LGBTQ child comes out your old support systems no longer are working. In this episode I tell you where you can find support and then tell you how you can connect on a deeper level when you find the right support.

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Boundaries can feel heavy.  Most people think we create them because we have toxic people in our lives but creating them from that place will make you feel more powerless.  Boundaries are part of all healthy relationships.  Knowing how to create a boundary out of love will help you feel feel powerful and create less resentment in your relationships, regardless of how others are acting.

We all fight with reality but most of the time we don't even realize it.  It’s hard not being in control. But then the realization comes that we have never really been in control. I give you 7 signs that you will tell you if you are in "fight" or "acceptance" with reality.  I also give you 7 steps how to get out of fighting so you can use your energy in more powerful ways.

Katie Byron has a series of questions that she asks herself when faced with stressful thoughts or beliefs:

• Is it true?
• Can you absolutely know that it is true?
• How do you react when you believe that thought?
• Who would you be without the thought?

Our brains tell us stories and narratives about other people.  That is how we interrupt and make sense of live.  But are the stories you are telling yourself about your LGBTQ child true?

This episode helps you examine and question the stories we are telling us and gives us the space to edit the story in a way that better serves us.
1. Are you making unfair assumptions about your child?
2. Is the story creating respect for your child?
3. Do you find yourself explaining to others why your child acts the way they do?
4. What would be the chapter headings for your past story about your child?
5. What would be the chapter headings for your future story about your child?