CREWcial Conversations

This episode had the ladies somewhat divided on their views of the effects of social media. Listen is as they discuss

Social media's influence on relationships (3:31)

Scroll addiction (10:34)

Say no if you're insecure (13:04)

Faux "relationship goals" (15:29)

Be present in the moment (20:25)

Excessive partner posts (22:31)

Would you unfollow for love? (27:19)

Snooping (32:21)

SM love letters (36:15)

Side chick superpower (38:06)

When is it ok to post your new boo? (40:20)

Don't post your personal biz (44:41)

To follow or not to follow an ex (46:02)

Joint SM accounts??(52:50)

In this week's Food for Thought (F4T), Kay talks about how the Internet is rewiring our brains as it promotes multitasking and cursory reading which affects our ability to focus and think linearly (55:31).

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0393339750/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_glt_fabc_PSX4V7R2DTTEHQM8657F

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6502424/

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Money talks but sometimes it talks its way right out of our hands. Listen in as the ladies discuss two terms that seem to go hand in hand, consumerism & materialism.

(4:30) What makes a person materialistic?

(18:09) Fake it til you make it

(23:35) Black buying power/support minority businesses

(29:09) Haves & the have nots

(32:01) Prioritize your needs & your wants

(35:46) The power of marketing

(45:34) Are women the cause of men's frivolous purchases?

(47:16) Let me upgrade you

(50:38) Looking good on a budget

(54:09) Designer talk

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses why knowing history matters and uses the American occupation of Afghanistan as a prime example giving a historical account of the Soviet invasion, the emergence of the Taliban,  and America's foreign policy in Afghanistan. (59:27)

"Those who don't learn from history are doomed to repeat it" - George Santayana

https://www.npr.org/2021/08/19/1028472005/afghanistan-conflict-timeline

https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2021/08/20/afghanistan-war-key-numbers/

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The Crew invited a +1 to take a deeper dive into this week's CREWcial Conversation on gender/sexual double standards that plague our society.

Joining us for this episode is the one & only Torae "The Tor Guide" to share his perspective & to shed light on a few societal standards we need to rectify.

Listen is as we discuss:

(1:40) Multiple baby mothers vs fathers

(8:42) Men get Sexual Abused,Assaulted, & Harrassed too

(26:12) Dear Judge, Women Ain't Always Right

(35:06) Domestic Disputes

(42:10) Polygamy & Polyamory

(53:12) Cheating Forgiveness

(1:04:08) "He's Emotional"...& that's ok

(1:06:57) Gender Neutral Toys, Attire, Pronouns

(1:12:15) BBW

(1:21:30) Boss Women

(1:28:22) Gender Wars

(1:32:44) In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses how the pandemic caused learning loss and widened the education achievement gap for children after over a year of virtual learning and a history of underfunded schools in vulnerable communities.

https://detroit.chalkbeat.org/2021/1/11/22225798/more-fs-michigan-school-leaders-rethink-grading-during-pandemic

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/07/how-covid-taught-america-about-inequity-in-education/

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Join the Crew's discussion on male fashion trends. The ladies are in rare form as they debate on:

Power Suits vs Easter Suits (4:55)

Male hairstyles (6:02)

Jean cut (10:00)

Shoe game (16:54)

Murses/Male bags (17:50)

Bargain shoppers (19:33)

Male fashionistas (24:37)

Collegiate looks (30:41)

Body hair or nawh? (32:51)

Short men pressures (33:53)

How to address a bad fit (37:02)

Furs (42:45)

#Beardgang (44:20)

Piercings (48:22)

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses unemployment, work conditions, and why we have a current labor shortage (50:33).

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/09/24/economic-fallout-from-covid-19-continues-to-hit-lower-income-americans-the-hardest/

https://www.npr.org/2020/07/27/895674685/-600-a-week-poverty-remedy-or-job-slayer

Tune in as The Crew unlocks girl code. Hear the different perspectives on the following codes:

(1:42) If I ever dated him, he's off limits.

(6:10) Friend informants

(7:54) Keep that shit anonymous

(11:20) Support the relationship regardless of your thoughts

(12:19) Friends shouldn't have to compete with your man

(13:12) Secrets have no expiration date

(14:48) Keep it 💯

(17:02) Sibling boundaries

(19:26) Loose lips sink ships

(26:49)If I don't like her...we don't like her

(30:51)Platonic friendships with your ex

(38:41) Violations

(39:57) Is girl code extinct?

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses the Supreme Court's assault on our voting rights and our democracy with their recent rulings to uphold voter restriction laws in Arizona and paving the way for the rich to buy elections in secret (45:06).

https://www.change.org/p/sign-on-as-a-community-co-sponsor-and-tell-your-us-senators-to-vote-yes-for-s-1-h-r-1-the-for-the-people-act-clean-elections-end-the-filibuster-if-necessary?original_footer_petition_id=&grid_position=&pt=

https://www.cnn.com/2021/07/01/politics/supreme-court-6-3-conservative-liberal/index.html

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2021/07/01/opinion/supreme-court-rulings-arizona-california.amp.html

https://www.democracynow.org/2021/7/2/scotus_democracy_rulings_ben_jealous

Listen in to this Crewcial Conversation regarding the epidemic of bitter men. The ladies give tell tell signs of a bitter man (0:55). Who is to blame & the ring leader (10:02)? Men, our equality is not your oppression (13:12). Is there a cure for bitteritis (20:06)? If we are discussing bitter, we must discuss Kevin Samuels (23:02). What are the long-term affects of bitter men for our community (26:04)? Can you be bitter & an alpha male (27:07)?

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay defines Critical Race Theory and describes the controversy around it (32:50).

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/06/26/opinion/critical-race-theory-schools-history.html

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/237264125_Critical_Race_Theory_The_Key_Writings_that_Formed_the_Movement

This week The Crew talk whether or not cross-sex relationships are realistic without crossing boundaries.

Does attractiveness matter (3:13)? Is it more challenging for men to have friends of the opposite sex (7:09)? Let's not be hypocrits & have double standards (9:05). Your friends are my friends (14:55)! Sleepover anyone (23:23)? Would you end your friendship at your partners request (29:04)? Can you be friends with someone you've been intimate with (32:54)? NO NEW FRIENDS (38:54)! Friends that want to be more than friends (40:27).

In this week's Food for Thought,  Kay discusses the debate on reparations for American slavery and gives examples of other instances where America paid reparations for other atrocities (44:53).

https://www.hrw.org/ReparationsNow

https://www.history.com/news/reparations-slavery-native-americans-japanese-internment

https://www.vox.com/2014/5/23/5741352/six-times-victims-have-received-reparations-including-four-in-the-us

https://www.cnbc.com/2020/08/12/slavery-reparations-cost-us-government-10-to-12-trillion.html

That's your "type" or your unconscious bias? The Crew shares a few of there preferences and discuss

✔women's love for dark skinned men (7:42)

✔weight requirements (11:50)

✔preference double standards (13:28)

✔height requirements (18:43)

✔opposites attract (26:43)

✔pretty brown eyes (33:30)

✔light skinned stereotypes (42:10)

✔unrealistic expectations (44:44)

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses the history of black hair discrimination, how hair discrimination is a form of racial discrimination,  and the Crown Act which would protect afros and protective styles in the workplace and public schools (54:52).

https://www.thecrownact.com/

https://campaigns.organizefor.org/petitions/help-make-hair-discrimination-illegal

https://www.fuqua.duke.edu/duke-fuqua-insights/ashleigh-rosette-research-suggests-bias-against-natural-hair-limits-job

This week's episode is so important as society seems to have lost sight of the importance of our men & their role as fathers. Get to know our guest, Mario Reyes aka Papi Picasso who is known for being a dope poet and an author based out of the ATL (2:09). In our discussion we touched on the following topics:

- Accountability (4:27)

- Minority men vs. "The System" (13:49)

- Male trauma & lack of support agencies (17:34)

- Shift in our culture (20:09)

- When if ever a father should be kept from his child (22:28)

- Coparenting (25:27)

- Lessons a father is better equipped to teach (31:50)

- Advice for single moms with sons (41:03)

- Parent vs friend..over compensating(45:14)

and so much more!!

In this week's Food for Thought, Kay discusses how our broken foster care system fails children and families and may even cause more trauma (1:19:29).

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B291mw_hLAJsV1NUVGRVUmdyb28/view

https://www.cnn.com/2021/05/06/us/makhia-bryant-foster-care/index.html

https://datacenter.kidscount.org/updates/show/264-us-foster-care-population-by-race-and-ethnicity

You can find our guest on IG @iampapipicasso. If are interested in purchasing his book, visit https://linktr.ee/papipicasso

There's nothing like good friends that will call you on your BS...this episode, we are those friends. This episode, The Crew discusses many areas of improvement for us ladies:

Bitter Baby Mommas/Child Support Misuse (1:24)

Independent Women wanting to be kept (13:58)

Why he gotta pay for the next man's mistakes? (15:30)

Unrealistic expectations...you a 6 looking for a 10 (16:43)

Black women are our own worst enemy (22:06)

Do those veneers come in a smaller size? (26:12)

You are in a situationship..not a relationship (27:49)

Quality plastic surgery (30:38)

Dismissal of the nice guy (33:17)

You need therapy (35:55)

In this week's Food for Thought,  Kay discusses discrimination and inequities in America's jury selection process and how it leads to more erroneous convictions of black and brown people (38:38).

https://www.vox.com/videos/2018/10/12/17968090/how-racism-shapes-jury-selection