In this episode of Married Not Married, Julius and Jamell explore how the arrival of kids can flip the script on a marriage. What was once date nights and quiet mornings becomes diaper duty and sleepless nights—and not every couple is prepared for the shift.

Jamell doesn’t hold back as he shares his frustration with how some men react under parenting pressure, while also dropping some priceless wisdom his therapist gave him that helped reshape his approach to marriage and fatherhood.

This one’s for the parents, the soon-to-bes, and the couples navigating love in the middle of Lego land.