Welcome back to the Crushing Podcast. It felt right to have my amazing, hardworking mother on to kick us off. In this episode, we discuss double standards in dating, focusing on how men and women are asked different questions about their dating lives and how relationship status is used as a litmus test to gauge happiness. We’re trying to figure out ways to push back against the late stage capitalist trap of social media, to lean into friction, and to continue to cultivate community. Is getting off the couch and going to the bar the answer? A long drive from the city to Montauk? Skipping the fundraiser dinner to get on the phone with an old friend?

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For the last ever episode of Crushing, Alie and Liza of Missfits surf and yours truly talk surfer boys (we love to hate ‘em), being a twin, and being an entrepreneurial badass. Our advice? FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT. Put yourself out there and get in the ring. In love, in life you create your moment. Don’t wait. Try new s**t and get after it. There’s no  limit to how you perceive what you do. Yeah, we’re all insecure and we all doubt ourselves and what other people think of us. It’s hard to figure out who you are in this big blue world. BUT do what feels good. Do it 4 u. And when you are your authentic self, people will notice. And if they don’t like u, then let them go!!!!

Crushing x Withitgirl Talkabout it Collab #2

It was a blast to sit down with Withitgirl’s Violet Reed and to learn about Violet’s zine, Bucky Fan Zine. In this episode, Violet and I chat about how social media has impacted alternative culture, and how alternative culture has been changed, yet stayed the same nonetheless. Violet’s advice to her middle school self? Keep crushing! There’s more on the horizon.

PS Its no surprise that Violet has the most epic playlist to accompany our conversation. Just press play.

@buckyfanzine on Instagram! 

Join me and Rebekah Harris from @shipwreckmontauk as we delve into the craft of jewelry making, dating, and finding yourself through trial and error. When I walked into her store looking for something to remember Montauk by I wouldn't believe I am where I am now. Rebekah and I met when I was 17, and in this episode we dish about all the good stuff four years later. 

Check out Rebekah's craft using this link. 

P.S. New Substack post coming this Monday...

Great rap with fellow UCLA student and singer-songwriter Sophia Bacino. In this episode Sophia and I discuss how she first got into music, the power of moving into your most authentic self and the challenges that come with it. We also talk about how we've matured in the past couple years and the magic that happens when you get creative and honor what feels good. This episode includes Sophia's sister songs My Old Self Could Love You and If I Dwell, both available on Spotify. Tune in to hear us discuss the creative process behind each of them. 

You can find Sophia on Instagram @sophia.jo 

This is the season premiere and the first episode of Crushing's collaboration with Withitgirl's podcast Talkaboutit. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Beth O’Rourke last week for the first episode of the collab. Beth’s crushing on the mystery of existence & I’m proud to have her take me on a journey through new discoveries in this interview. Check out my write-up on the new collaboration and the future of Crushing on the Withitgirl website. 

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Press play to hear me dish about COVID drama, the male beauty standard, being a year older than I was, the rad summer ahead, and what's in store for Crushing. 

@crushing.radio on Insta! 

This episode's playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1DHL3VhwSaSr5mDfFyxIdX?si=531f290af49e4ebc

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Getting barreled getting shacked...I got the boys (& girls) watching my back....the magical Annie Trezza on episode 12 of Crushing (recorded in the Q lol). Press play to hear me and Annie giggle about unrequited love, surfing, writing, in addition to 5 live tunes written by Annie herself. 

Annie's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/344T3cBafrAqUU337cgKFJ?si=9ooQ6ThITjy6wOdKzbrLpg

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