What's love got to do it? 

Everything! When it is not coming from within. 

When we as women seek out love and appreciation, adoration, and loyalty, yet we fail to give ourselves that very thing.

We fall for the illusions of what we are to expect from Men, Family, Friends,  Peers, and even sometimes our Children. You see love, this can occur in any type of relational environment. When we are begging, yearning, crying, screaming. Will someone please love me, cherish me, appreciate me? We are saying with our very lips. I am being lazy, I am not feeling me. Will someone else make it easier on me and do it? How dare you demand that of someone else when you are still struggling with the woman in the mirror. 

We have to love ourselves first, become our own best friend, and adore spending time with the one beauty we look in the mirror at on a daily basis.  What's wrong with popping some popcorn and pouring you a glass of Rose watching a comedy and laughing alone.  What's wrong with taking yourself on a drive to the beach,  and having dinner, what is wrong with packing some snacks and hiking the Hollywood hills, what's wrong with treating yourself to a movie or play. Not a thing. Try it! If we can not invest in being happy and joyous alone. Who are we, to ask anyone to treat us as we have not, treated ourselves.

Begging someone to pour into you when you fail to pour your own personal energies into yourself looks like a curse word to others. In most cases, not all. People treat us how we treat ourselves, so if you are seeking to connect to others and for them,  to see your value? Please, see in yourself first. When we add people into our lives, both parties should add tremendous value to the other. No-one person should ever pour themselves into a loveless, empty vessel that can't seem to invest in itself. Never should we give over and stop being ourselves to enrich someone more than we do the inner me. Remember, your value is your responsibility. Let your love inside radiate so that others can see you love on the most important lady in your life. You. Which gives others the vibes to connect and want you just as much as you can't get enough of yourself. It is only then that others will seek you out to invest in having friendships, love, and opportunities beyond with you.

As always I say write it down, 

Make it a journal prompt to love you in every way and invest in time that can grow and enhance both the inner and outer you. That's real self-care. Run a bubble bath, listen to some water waves or jazz. Enlighten yourself to what you want.. Love you first, and all the rest will follow. Woman, sprinkle yourself with your own type of awesome! Your true love comes from within. Feel the love in you