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  • CS@C - Affirmation #21- They Do Not Have You!
    Do you find it interesting that when it all hits the fan. Some friends become enemies and some enemies become friends. Yes, but no matter what. It's not their business. We get those friends that secretly support us in everything we do. However, when everything gets to boiling I'm out. I don't pick this side or that side. All the while knowing what pain and tragedy looked like in your world as they were from a distance having your back. Bye Felicia or Felix I see how you move. I'm good and counting it all Joy! That's how we must handle people who pretend to understand, care, and so much more without coming close.
    5 min
  • CS@C - Affirmation #19 - Woman, Let Go!
    Simply put I am motivated to change everything about me that made me choose, pick, and assume that the friends that walked away were true, the love that didn't work owed me anything, the opportunity that never emerged was ever a part of my existence. 
    I'm changing because somewhere in the past my decision making helped me to excuse red flags, red lights, yellow lights and not yield from detours and one way streets.
    Sometimes we have to sit, marinate, and look at all the evidence before us. Is this good for me. Am I holding on for reasonings of guilt, lack, frustration, failure, shame, or unbelief?
    Why when I did see these flags did I not run from them. Was my self est3m so low that it continues to dictate staying?
    The answer is Yes, we hold on because we stop believing in ourselves and how we can ultimately push towards cultivating a different outcome and mindset instead of sitting within certain experiences that stunt, our growth, eliminate the power within and take away the urge to push out any birth of becoming and enhancing who we are. 
    Get up, get going, and you may not have all the pieces you need but start your life in the right direction of taking the first steps. Doing so, will create an inner willingness to mush forward that will build up not just your mind but everything. 
    It's easy to stay with someone, something, doing things out of comfortability. You are not stronger when you give in to this. You are stronger when you walk away from such.
    Living in pain, conflict, misery, and doubt will not help you be the best you can be, have the best you can be, and do the best you can do. No it will keep you trapped and screaming for more. More acceptance, understanding, appreciation, validity, peace, independence. You don't have to live within your trapped expectations. No let go.
    5 min
  • CS@C - Affirmation #18 - Let Them Assume
    If you are easily offended, we will easily lose our footing in life. You should never allow others to dictate how we feel about ourselves or them after interacting. Giving someone the responsibility of caring how we feel after they have offended, disregarded, or pushed us to the side in any way does nothing but break us down in the wrong scenarios. 
    We must never take offense to someone else's actions. When we do that we give them footing into our worlds. Life begins to take on a new meaning when we allow what others have embedded in us to rule over what we know to be true. Life is like a box of chocolates Ladies, it's always going to deliver something chewy , yummy, crunchy, and yucky that will sometimes knock you off your feet and get you to see red coming from someone who is far off or near your inner circle. 
    Everyone has an assumption, opinion and idea to make you a greater you. It's not what they say, it's how we react to it.You have the responsibility of guarding things from entering into your head mind and soul that render no substance.
    Be mindful of how you invite others into your Conversations and life experiences no matter how small. 
    Write this down, make it a journal prompt.
    It's none of our business how others come at us, for ,or to us. It's our business how we handle it and how much importance we actually give the person's assumption, interaction, or issue with us. Someone will always have a viewpoint or opinion to share. You rightfully have the responsibility to respond or not respond intelligently. 
    Keep a poised and elegant posture about you  at all times when dealing with outsiders. What they say should be heard. But you don't always have to intake it. If what they are saying has no relevance. Never give it credence. Your reaction is just what they need to get the picture. Sometimes a none reaction says more than anything. Grow tough skin that can’t be peeled off easily by others.Let them be assured and in their assumptions and thoughts. It's none of our business.
    4 min
  • CS&C - Affirmation #16 - Hold Em Don't Fold Em

    Dealing with human beings is like playing a high stakes game of poker. As people, we do one of three things. We mask up,  with our game face as if we were  attending a masquerade all the while controlling the narrative and playing  games trying to earn the advantage while having a terrible hand to play.

    We lay our hand of cards out on the table, with no caution not having a concern of losing just wanting to reveal that  I'm not the full householder.

    Then there is the one that has the full house. This person has neither vulnerability or a poker face. They are, assured, of their win. Some would chop it up to vanity and conceit based upon that persons current standing in the game.

    I can tell you from experience that if you are moving with no caution and laying all your cards on the table with everyone. You will forever lose. Your precious cargo of information should stay close to those who see your merit will and will never use your vulnerability as a way to demean or destroy you. However, you have to think and move strategically to protect yourselves from wolves. People with this personality find themselves giving over to other people's opinions and concerns and trying to change up for them.

    Ladies, if you are a constant game player. Going through life not making heavyweight decisions, just playing with others mentally, and financially you are setting yourself up to receive the law reciprocity. What you put out and act out will be returned unto you. Try a hint of vulnerability and honesty!

    But if you are the person who has the cards. Hold em until you can't. Play them at the right time and, don't let others see your hand. Protect the view but stay looking in all your blind spots to observe anyone's plus one seeking to learn of your upper hand. Stay the course. And practice never allowing others to see you sweating through a bad game.

    As always I say

    Write this down, make it a journal prompt,

    Be Real and True eliminate games and lies for personal or professional gain, be honest and vulnerable but, yet don't give away all your plays. Earn and win with integrity. Taking something that never belonged to you will bring you frustration and tragedy. Play your full house always at the right time.

    4 min
  • CS@C - Affirmation #15 - Damn Hearing No!
    Have you ever wanted a car, a dress, anything tangible so much? You dotted all your I's and crossed every T's to be told, no, you can't have that! This or that will not work for you.
    Many times we hear behind every 20 No's there is someone who's waiting to present us with a yes. 
    But when going through our seasons of doubt of ever hearing what we want to hear and uncertainty, we can't see why there was ever a no. We feel disconnected and frustrated. We may even sleep, eat, and take a shower marinating on the number of times we have experienced hearing the word No!
    However, instead of focusing and giving the No influence, we should revisit and revamp our approach. Something surrounding that No you were given, wasn't appropriately done or completed. Something was, or was not, said that was off. Research is missing. Or maybe those 20 people feel No is the right word for you.
    Our yes’s come in seasons. If Yes, came all the time we would be un-sobered spoiled adults acting like children. Hearing No builds character. Hearing No builds might, hearing No gives you a never give up attitude. We have all heard that term. Everything that glitters is not gold. So everything we want is not always for us. So we have to use our inner intuition ladies and see why that product, person, or opportunity, has been held back from us? It could just be that before we get our yes, we have to grow a thicker skin, stamina to push forward to #21  answers which could finally  be our Yes!
    As always I say write it down,
    make this a journal prompt, and remember the last no you heard won't stop the Yes, that's coming your way. Ladies, if you stay persistent. Staying at it is Key, to Hearing and Celebrating your Yes! Finally,  after being bottled down by the No's body shots in the corner of the ring of opportunity. You come out giving it all you got with an uppercut here and there, as you fight your way to the middle of the ring, towards that one if not two Yes's. No is not an option.  Your yes is very near. Don't give up. Tour yes is calling you.
    4 min

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New You New Life is a podcast that casts a net of hope and revival to women who has lost her identity through a love gone bad, loss, despair, and tragedy. NYNL inspires the broken woman to learn who she is beyond her circumstances, and both their social, and economic demographics. Our audience members will embrace every opportunity available, to reach up and reinvent herself, as she emerged through her once upon a time pain.