Has everything fallen in shambles in life? Does everything in your life have you side-eyeing it, searching for motives? Sometimes it's like that. But, please realize on the other side of life's crazy personality is much more of a friendlier journey. I speak of journeys, allot on this platform, because that is what this is! A sometimes blind journey of faith towards all things that make you purr like a kitten and grow lol.

So I just came to remind you. Simply you are worthy of your next level and all that's being added to you. Smile bright even when the ugly rears its head. Stand as tall and firm as you can and have faith in yourself. You can not only do it. You can beyond conquer your self-esteem giant. Don't let it tear you down. Tear it down.

Worthiness is becoming on any woman. Worthiness affirms and will have you feeling like nothing can break me, mold me, and shape me, but my honest truth. Living within worthiness, I can promise, life will look and feel so different.

 The way you and I act, and relate to any situation will never be the same. Because when it sets in that, you are worthy of whatever? This catapults your self-esteem. So while we want to chant, I reclaim my time. Loves, let us start by reclaiming our worthiness. There is nothing like it. And once you get there, there will be no-one like you or who could stop you. 

As always I say write this down,

Make this a journal prompt. Worthiness is a lifestyle, not a word. I walk with my head high, shoulders out, and attitude checked, because Worthy I am. You and I are more than worthy.

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Patience is the virtue that we all seek. We are currently in an era that has awakened an impatience for anything!  Everything has a non preparatory aspect to it. It's called pop it in the microwave and in a few minutes it's done. Life doesn’t truly happen that way. But the internet has spoiled us to think so. Another thing is that we are extremely  focused on what, and who we want. Rather than who or what we need. Our wants and cravings will send life into an out of control tailspin. Because, most not all of the time what we want is no good for us. He feels like sour yogurt is placed in our stomachs. It seemed to have a great taste while going down, but once in our systems, it was toxic.Now, why would you want to feel out of it? Life is meant to be enjoyed.

When we want something or someone, they bring us a displeasure that hardens our hearts, cripples our self-esteem, and gets us to help them devalue who we are. You don't need that eye candy if he is not showing you chivalry, appreciation, and support. But because you and I can be impatient, we cannot see past that. We don't need that Gucci tote bag right now. It doesn't matter our cravings when we do things that align us with a path not chosen for us. This is practicing impatience.

A few ways to deal with this is, 

1 Meditate, silence all the lambs and lions in your world. Turn on some environment music or just sit in total peace and quiet.

2. Unpack your goals the right way, this means to make your large task towards your goals measurable and smaller.

3. Oh boy, this is the duzzy for me. Learn to Focus on what you can control. Everything is not in my control. Every situation will not happen as I would like. So I have to take the aspect that I love to plan out the equation and just let life happen.

4. Every comment or Action doesn't deserve our reaction. Sometimes people and situations will make you want to handle them. But it's unnecessary drama added to the issue their pushing, or that happening the best to do is to respond to what's necessary and leave the rest for them to deal with. It does not matter how big the rumor is. Your reaction gives lies validity. 

5. Set specific and much-needed boundaries. Everyone can't be, nor should they be in your inner court.

6. Lastly, practice gratitude. Appreciate the underappreciated. But appreciate those assisting you on your whole woman journey. Thankfulness makes the world go round As always I say write it down, Make this a journal prompt. Having patience is beyond a virtue,  learning to accept the timing of gifts, changes, people, and blessings being presented to you in the right season. You are a woman of patience and virtue, you are a woman who patiently  waits with expectancy.

Have you ever come to a place where you’re breaking down from facing all your truths about yourself. About how you have conducted yourself life? How you once moved blindly through life as if you were on your own cloud.  Although we should forever move forward. Strive towards happiness. And breath some relieve. There comes a time when we have to cut all the fantasizing out and truly take a look at ourselves with a magnifying glass that even reveals the gunk in the crevices.  Where you and I  have dared to look when you are cracking halfway smiles and experiencing what should be joyful milestones and changes in life. Yet something is missing. We feel disconnected on every level.

There comes a time where you have to dig deep into all the natural facts and details of how we got where you are now. How did life happen the way it did for us. Who were we before all the changes? Then that's when it happens you find that you may have not been as innocent as you thought.

You might have taken actions that didn't practice the best of appreciation for yourself or others involved. You made unfocused and forced decisions and moved in life with a lack of emotional intelligence. 

To wake up and realize how quick and nonchalant it all happened, you are forced to cry out, scream, and just feel like you are not worthy of that person, person's, thing, or level of advancement.  You begin to see how you carelessly on a whim made decisions that not only alter your life but so many others. As you come to this realization, you feel defeated, hurt, like a broken heart overwhelmed by the truth of your true identity. 

You can't fake a breakthrough. We can claim it, and that's good, but it doesn't happen until we stop falsifying how our current and past collide. How we let our emotions and concern for self only interrupt our world. 

I'm walking this out now! Yesterday I realized my truth, and it made me want to give up on pursuing happiness and the level of excellence I'm heading for in business. But I can't and won't stop. For a moment, I felt without any other choice. I called my sister, best friend, and friend and poured out my heart. My realization came by way of a phone call to get a specific date. From there, a simple call became a heartache. When I told you, ladies, we are walking this journey together. I didn't lie. 

Yesterday after months of not understanding how I lost, true love, family, growth, and opportunity my truth, shot an arrow of realness to my heart. 

Now, ladies, you may want to leave that man, (not an abusive scenario) but you once elevated each other, maybe it's children that are unruly and don't listen to your wisdom, and instruction, or perhaps it's a job or opportunity that leaves you feeling lackluster and empty. Whatever the case, take a moment and put your emotional intelligence in order. Try not to just see what you want, to gain an aspect of peace understanding and accomplishment. See the big picture of how it will affect all parties. 

My breakthrough showed me how selfish and careless I was. My emotions called me to do things and make moves I would have never done had I just took a breather.

The other thing is I learned every man or woman that says they have your back do not. There's always a hidden agenda. In most cases not, all. So watch who you bring to your backyard barbeques, or fancy dinner parties metaphorically speaking. I brought guests that complained about everything from the aesthetics of my home, decor, the taste of each dish, and the food presentation itself. And because I was the host. I was responsible for anything occurring at my party.

I didn't handle it well at all. Yesterday I had to take responsibility for my actions, but I'm not staying there. I am moving forward toward my tomorrow that involves sound decisions that are profoundly respectful and encouraging to myself and others.

To those who complain at my dinner party or barbeque, I forgive you! To those who were offended by others

There many times when are voices are taken and disregarded as important. Don't give others too many chances to tell you to hush.

What's love got to do it? 

Everything! When it is not coming from within. 

When we as women seek out love and appreciation, adoration, and loyalty, yet we fail to give ourselves that very thing.

We fall for the illusions of what we are to expect from Men, Family, Friends,  Peers, and even sometimes our Children. You see love, this can occur in any type of relational environment. When we are begging, yearning, crying, screaming. Will someone please love me, cherish me, appreciate me? We are saying with our very lips. I am being lazy, I am not feeling me. Will someone else make it easier on me and do it? How dare you demand that of someone else when you are still struggling with the woman in the mirror. 

We have to love ourselves first, become our own best friend, and adore spending time with the one beauty we look in the mirror at on a daily basis.  What's wrong with popping some popcorn and pouring you a glass of Rose watching a comedy and laughing alone.  What's wrong with taking yourself on a drive to the beach,  and having dinner, what is wrong with packing some snacks and hiking the Hollywood hills, what's wrong with treating yourself to a movie or play. Not a thing. Try it! If we can not invest in being happy and joyous alone. Who are we, to ask anyone to treat us as we have not, treated ourselves.

Begging someone to pour into you when you fail to pour your own personal energies into yourself looks like a curse word to others. In most cases, not all. People treat us how we treat ourselves, so if you are seeking to connect to others and for them,  to see your value? Please, see in yourself first. When we add people into our lives, both parties should add tremendous value to the other. No-one person should ever pour themselves into a loveless, empty vessel that can't seem to invest in itself. Never should we give over and stop being ourselves to enrich someone more than we do the inner me. Remember, your value is your responsibility. Let your love inside radiate so that others can see you love on the most important lady in your life. You. Which gives others the vibes to connect and want you just as much as you can't get enough of yourself. It is only then that others will seek you out to invest in having friendships, love, and opportunities beyond with you.

As always I say write it down, 

Make it a journal prompt to love you in every way and invest in time that can grow and enhance both the inner and outer you. That's real self-care. Run a bubble bath, listen to some water waves or jazz. Enlighten yourself to what you want.. Love you first, and all the rest will follow. Woman, sprinkle yourself with your own type of awesome! Your true love comes from within. Feel the love in you

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What is your heart conversation? Is your heart, selfish, or selfless? Does it forgive or hold grudges? Have you come to a point in your life's journey where your heart keeps having critical conversations that tell you it's had enough, or is your heart at the moment saying it can't get enough of too much of one thing.

Our hearts don't stop until life has emptied us. This thing that pumps with no end has several jobs to perform. One is mechanically the other spiritually.

Our hearts helps us live, by pumping blood around our bodies, it provides oxygen, and nutrients that we are need of, and it lastly gets rid of waste. The heart is a dynamic organ that performs two jobs within one. Ladies, the portion of the heart I am speaking regarding, is connected to your soul. It is the desires and sense of fulfillment we have. Yes, this portion of the heart is operated based on our emotional intelligence and listens to the mind.

What is your heart administering to your mind at this very moment? Are you thinking about how your lives are thriving even as you are going through its rugged roads? Perhaps you are thinking that good old' lady Life owes you more than she is presenting you.  You are finally at your wits end with your membership to Life's AAA road service, and find it to be a joke. You could be doing better in your career, with a different man, less or more children, more money, better opportunities, in a fancier home, and more metropolitan city. When we provoke a negative mindset, our heart is saying it needs to be fixed. During this very time, we have one of the following conditions of the heart,  broken, fearful, angry, hardened, empty, or thirsty, and can't embrace having a whole heart because we are more fixated on what we want rather than what we have. The grass will always look greener on the opposite side of our decisions until we are there. Trust me.

We all have heard the phrase. Water, your own grass, and then you will see it turn a beautiful green. Mow it and keep it maintained, and you will be the talk of the town. Stop looking at what your neighbor might have that you think you want. And look at how you can make a life through your heart conversations, illuminate and create in your world an even more beautiful landscape of love, success, and opportunity. 

It's time to write it down and make it a journal prompt

and remember your heart and the condition of it is your business and responsibility. Check your heart, is it walking in love and all things pure, or regret, frustration, and discontentment? Your heart is awaiting the TLC, and private time it needs with you, to blossom and grow. Your heart is ready to live true! Are you ready? Ready to walk in oneness with your heart? Are you ready to show your heart love?

Reaction is what every antagonist wants. Your adversaries or whatever you care to call them. Would like to see you come out of yourself and act extra so that they can stand a lot taller in your presence. But instead of reacting breath, think, and then say nothing. Every comment is not warranted as an answer, and every action not a reaction. The best way to kill people with kindness is to not give attention to their foolishness. Take heed to what they say to you but give it no authority. Always have every  Ace in your hand ready to play and never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.

For years, I struggled seriously with the habit of upsetting my spirit for situations, things, and people, who were either wasting my time or talents. Until one day, one of my mentors pulled the bottom hem of my skirt. Rai, are you really giving that any allegiance? You are a queen, walk like one, talk like one, think like one, and never play small for anyone. I had to take a look at what she said. I had played a limited role for so long that people who knew I was a go-getter and solid winner, saw me play the role of a peasant. Playing this role that was challenging and filled with so much roleplay that I was dying inside. So here is what I did. And you can find your own ritual of bringing your kingdom ship back to life. But as for me, loves everything starts and ends with God! 

Okay,  I listened to what she said, followed by going to the one who created me. I then asked Him to restore and reconcile me into the woman He has prospered me to be. I begged him with my full being to bring her front and center again. But make me a more improved version. I had to again become a woman who walked with authority and acceptance of who God had made me. I fasted for 5 days for every area of my life. Seriously, no water, no food.  People were literally calling me baby Jesus. I just said Wow, laughed, and kept going. I placed my face in Word, verse mapped, and waited on my creator to revamp my soul that was broken and nearly dead. Listen, I was absolutely, having a can these dry bones live Lord moment? 

I then took inventory of my actions toward myself and others and all the events that occurred in my life, how I had contributed to each, I asked for forgiveness,  and amended a few broken relationships.  One of them was essential and of great importance.

 And last, but least, I separated myself from arenas of foolishness, physically and mentally. The journey is not over, although that is where it started for me. I am not quite sure how it commence for you? We are all walking our own paths to finding our truth. How will your journey begin? What will you do to get back to reclaiming your queendom status?

Well ladies it's time to

 

Write it down 

Make it a journal prompt and embrace the journey as you grow into who you are becoming. Never play small for others to shine or win. Walk in the room with your head held high being beautifully you. Continue to be gorgeously transformed from within. It is time to reclaim your royalty. The queen is in the building. All hail the queen. She's back.

Ladies, have you ever just said, I am going to look life square in the face and ask it, hey, what do you think about me? Why do you make yourself so hard? What are you trying to get me to see, do, learn, understand? Life is no joke. It sometimes feels like you are in a fistfight and, you are losing end. It seems as though she does not want for us to truly live. It would much rather play tug of war and games.

Life is what it is: a city of experiences waiting to introduce themselves to us. Sometimes Life will doll itself up and go out of her way to introduce you and me to others at the party then disappear. Bye, girl, you are on your own. No seriously, life is the plus one that gets lost after she has introduced you to one of two people you will ever meet. The person or group sent to uplift you, love you and appreciate you, and the other that is sent to rock all parts of your world apart and teach you her hardcore lessons of taking a cocktail from strangers metaphorically speaking.

Life will show you just how mature you really are when she is being presented with your emotions. Life has no feelings, she is a woman of streets with no morals, a drug dealer with no heart, a preacher without a soul. She treats everyday like its own and gives a damn about how she interacts with others. Life is boisterous, loud, and conniving, and Life, says it is her way or the highway. So, My question is, how do you put life in her place? How do you get her to act right?

You stop feeding her excuses and show her your truth, not the misaligned truth she has designed for you. You develop a master plan that works for you and her. One that aligns you with success and all those things you crave in her. Set goals and stick to them. Focus and eliminate things that say no to you. Be poignant in living the truth and putting a muzzle on life!  You got this! It is time to put life, in her place. Do not make frivolous and anxious decisions that are not targeted. Rob Schneider, who portrays one of my favorite characters from the movie Waterboy, said it best, and I'm going to repeat him to remind you that You Can Do It!

With that being said Write it down 

Make it a Journal Prompt and remember life, does not run you, you run her. She has to fall in line and watch your steer. Life likes to push us around. Keep telling her Life, Sh! I got this love. I got my life in order.

When one thinks that they are the reason everything happens and everything happening to them is based upon their own great deeds and talents. This is when the delusion of Pride starts to set in the heart. Not one of us is achieving and accomplishing on our own just as it takes a village to raise our children; it indeed takes the same for us to have successful lives.

I have experienced so many people who have allowed an arrogant outlook to rise up in their thoughts that dismissed all of the hard-working men and women who helped them get to the level of success that they have. It was not just them that got the promotions, recognitions, or received the once farfetched achievements. No, there was a force of determination set up in a posse of friends, peers, superiors, and home front advocates that have kept preaching continuous lessons or do not stop you can do it.

We have all heard behind every successful woman is a tribe of other successful women, behind every successful worker is her team of peers, behind every great boss there is a parade of front line workers, and ladies, let us not forget behind every achieving man is a woman. All these sayings make sense because where there are prolific remarkable achievements, there is a team of people that helped motivate that person to their height of success.

I  have said all of this, ladies, because it may at times feel like you are pushing yourself out and taking this journey alone. You may feel like no one, and nothing has got you out of that horrific situation but you. I am  SORRY NOTHING can be further from the truth than you realized because every person who took out time to acknowledge your pain and took out time to see you through your personal rights of passage of getting you together has helped, hold up your crown, straighten and even at times placed it back on your head when it dropped. These individuals and communities are worthy of your attention and gestures of appreciation.

When we take on the Look at me shine. I did this alone. We are telling ourselves an unscrupulous lie because not one person has gotten to the top by herself. Do not allow Pride to shorten how long you experience success in life. If you can not recognize the parade of others behind you on the staircase, you won’t be allowed even grandeur success because Pride never stands the test of time and always falls, fails, and destructs.

As always I say write it down,

Make it a journal prompt and remember not one woman can sashay herself to any level where she paramount in life. Alone. A whole woman wants all those heaving and hoeing, pushing, believing, and guiding to be blessed and recognized. Real women don’t win alone. Woman,  you will never do it alone. 

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