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*REUPLOAD* Friends: they're there when life is going to sh*t and lost as you grow. Join us this week where we reminisce on all the highs and lows of friendships through out our lives, and reflect on how we want to go forward with these relationships in our 20s! Chat to us on Twitter and Instagram

*Trigger Warning - This episode is more graphic in it's content*

Following on from my previous episode, I discuss in more detail going to the Police and the process of getting a Non-Molestation Order through the Court system.

I would just like to thank everyone who sent messages of support and to those who shared their stories with me. Please remember, if someone close to you:

Makes threats or does things to scare you
Puts you down just to make you feel bad
Makes you feel guilty if you don’t spend time with them
Doesn't get on with your friends or family
Looks through your phone, social media or web history
Wants to know where you are all the time
Cheats on you or accuses you of cheating on them
And/or makes you have sex when you don’t want to

Please tell someone you can trust or contact:

24hr National Domestic Abuse Helpline
Freephone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours)

The Freedom Programme
Helpline: 01942 262 270
www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

Refuge
Helpline: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours)
refuge.org.uk

Please also see the websites and information below on making a Police report and going through the Court process:

https://www.ncdv.org.uk/
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/
https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Reporting-an-offence-to-the-police-a-guide-to-criminal-investigations.pdf
https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/From-charge-to-trial-a-guide-to-criminal-proceedings.pdf

To contact myself please DM:
@doingbetter.pod or email doingbetterpod@gmail,com


Take care and (please) stay safe x

*Trigger Warning*

Although we are in the midst of a pandemic, a quiet epidemic is going on in the UK behind the scenes; there has been a huge increase in domestic and intimate-partner violence which needs to be addressed. As someone who has experienced an abusive relationship and it's aftermath, I wanted to briefly share my experience and discuss the signs of abuse as well as narcissistic tendencies. This episode was incredibly hard for me to record but I hope it is insightful and can help those who need it.

(The first few minutes is just me chatting about The Crown, American Horror Story, Glee and The Fresh Prince of Bel Air so a little more light-hearted!)

Articles mentioned and support resources:

https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse
https://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMp2024046
https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/domesticabuseduringthecoronaviruscovid19pandemicenglandandwales/november2020

Victim Support Helpline
0808 168 9111
victimsupport.org.uk

Southall Black Sisters
Helpline: 0208 571 0800
southallblacksisters.org.uk

Sharan Project (South Asian Women Help & Support)
Information Line: 0844 504 3231
sharan.org.uk

National LGBT Domestic Abuse Helpline
Helpline: 0800 999 5428
galop.org.uk/domesticabuse/

Books

Living with a Dominator by Pat Craven
Why Does He Do That: Inside the minds of angry and controlling men by Lundy Bancroft
Power and Control: Why Charming Men Make Danger Lovers by Sandra Horley
Women who love too much by Robin Norwood

We're back! After a small hiatus, we wanted to get back into the swing of things by going over some pop culture moments from the past month. We discuss everything from Adele to Afronation to ASMR, with a small special guest appearance!

Join me, Sumaiyah, while I read a snippet of astrology based fan-fiction I wrote when I was a teen (so not that long ago really oop). WARNING: filled with angst and problematic behaviour, I'd truly like to apologise beforehand.

After a brief ~corona virus interlude~ we discuss our experiences studying abroad!
As we have both returned to the UK we thought it was about time we concluded this era.

From Blackface festivals to being stopped by the police, our conversation goes on many tangents... but we hope listening gives some insight into our experiences and is at the very least, entertaining!

After a brief ~corona virus interlude~ we discuss our experiences studying abroad!
As we have both returned to the UK we thought it was about time we concluded this era.

From Blackface festivals to being stopped by the police, our conversation goes on many tangents... but we hope listening gives some insight into our experiences and is at the very least, entertaining!

In this week’s episode we discuss what it means to be #Cancelled, if it’s socially acceptable to still listen to the music of Cancelled Celebs and if we agree with cancelling people in day to day life in the same way we do on Social Media…

What do you think about Cancel Culture? Let us know on our Instagram (@doing better.pod) and our Twitter (@doingbetterpod). We want to hear your thoughts!

Please see our prior episode: ‘Racism in the UK’ and our social media pages, for more information on the Black Lives Matter movement and support for anyone feeling overwhelmed during this time.

In this week’s episode we discuss what it means to be #Cancelled, if it’s socially acceptable to still listen to the music of Cancelled Celebs and if we agree with cancelling people in day to day life in the same way we do on Social Media...

What do you think about Cancel Culture? Let us know on our Instagram (@doing better.pod) and our Twitter (@doingbetterpod). We want to hear your thoughts!

Please see our prior episode: ‘Racism in the UK’ and our social media pages, for more information on the Black Lives Matter movement and support for anyone feeling overwhelmed during this time.