Dad Time

Welcome back to our 9th episode! The Dad Corp sat down with author, entrepreneur, tech exec, and dad of rhymes, Gareth Moody.

Gareth hails from South Africa, raised in Alscot, and resides in New York City. He also authored a book, Very Fine Recipes and Rhyme, which is about recipes that will satisfy your hunger and humor.

He talks about the kind of framing up language to enable kids to be their best, and how senseless raising your voice to your kids really is. He has two kids, a daughter and a son. We also get to hear him do an Ode to Dad rhyme later on the show. So expect that great segment! Sight tight and relax. Let’s all listen in.

Quotes:

“That is expressing itself in the way that you’re encouraging your son with the fear of loss, with the fear of not being so great. I wonder if we could restore the magic of that child’s interest at the very beginning by changing our language, changing our relation to that fear of the future.”

“You have to control how you respond. You mustn’t go back to your old responses and your natural responses because they will not help.”

“What was missing was an examination of my own assumptions. Because I didn’t examine my own assumptions, I was only getting half the story about the person because I was not listening to them, I was really listening to me listening to them.”

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Sean Hailey is back with us for our 8th Episode of The Dad Corp. We are also joined by two more guests, Spencer Colbert who is the Vice President of Digital Lead Generation and Ryan Jor El who founded the organization Black Fathers Rock which concerns black fatherhood.

The topic is focused on the trials and tribulations with raising a black son in America today. These gentlemen helped me understand about fatherhood so much with their rich though different kind of fatherhood.

As Ryan said it best, you can't take someone's experiences and feeling from them. It was such a powerful discussion where we shared experiences, feelings, and discussed something that could not be more important in our country. 

Especially for people who may not be familiar with The Talk... These are discussions Black Fathers and Mothers have with their sons. It is incredibly sad, but something everyone should be aware of, especially those who believe we are all on equal ground today. 

We hope you listen in, learn, and share! Most importantly, many thanks to Sean, Ryan, and Spencer for taking the time and discussing in incredible authenticity your experiences and perspectives. 

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“It’s unfortunate that it’s necessary for us to continue to have to protest and/or riot in order to get people’s attention.”   -Sean

“In order for there to be change people have to want change.”  -Sean

 “If you’re in a situation where you can’t admit to having issues, to having any type of problems, you’ll never be able to make a change in yourself.”   -Sean

“One of the things you can do is work on you. Understand that you have these biases and don’t act on them. Ask yourself before you make a decision.” -Sean

“In order to have a conversation about race or really anything that is a hot topic you must be mature enough to listen and respond not emotionally to the fact of not being disrespectful.”   -Ryan

“The things that I’ve learned from being a parent and the dialogue I’ve had with other fathers going through similar situations have helped me become the father that I am today and the man that I am today.”    -Ryan

“There’s a way, there is a path that you could take that still make an impact in the world based on those things that may seem unfortunate but they really could be the fuel to your destiny.” -Ryan

“Be present, especially with black kids, have conversations with them, talk to them constantly, talk to them often.”  -Sean

Ryan's Organization Black Father's Rock:
blkfathersrock in Instagram and blackfathersrock.com 

Book Recommendations:

The Beautiful Struggle: A Memoir

“Dude, You’re Gonna Be a Dad!” 

“Between the World and Me”

“The Price of the Ticket” 

“Fashion and Fatherhood” 

In our 7th Episode, The Dad Corp talks to Mike Griffith who is the founder of Golf In Fight. Gold In Fight is a foundation dedicated to children who are fighting cancer and their families. He shared his experiences and thoughts while being with these kids. We’ll also hear a lot of heart warming but also heartbreaking stories of the families and of course the kids themselves.

We’ll get to hear how they help and manage to survive through their hard work and help not only from friends but also from the community. He will also talk about his plans for the future in helping these kids.

Mike who retired from the Army is working with his wife of over 30 years, Liane together with friends and families of the victim, all of whom are volunteers. He has two children of his own and 4 grandkids. So this work that they do in Gold In Fight greatly affects them in their own life. Let’s listen in!

Key Quotes:

“You look at that and then you look at what they’re going through and you put that on a child. I mean you put all that in a child and for the child to sit there and smile and tell mom or dad it’s gonna be okay, I mean the children are consoling the parents. It’s crazy.”

 “I don’t have to do it but then kids do. I can walk away tomorrow saying 3 to 4 years I did a really nice thing. But then kids, man they can’t quit this. What gives me the right to quit it? I feel blessed that they let in their world. I don’t have a kid with cancer. But they accept me into this world, man. And it’s like to me I’m honored for that. I really am.”

“Sometimes I get so mad and I’m like why are we so consumed with ourselves and not what’s going on around us?”

 “You got choices in life. You can take us back where we were that’ll affect you and your children, not just you or you can take what I’ve given you and move forward and make it even better for yours.”

In our 6th episode, The Dad Corp sat down with serial entrepreneur, Kison Patel. He is an M&A expert and CEO of DealRoom, a smart system based upon Agile principles and designed for multi-party collaboration. 

Talking with Kison was incredible.  He shared his philosophies and perspectives to balance fatherhood and entrepreneurial activities. Kison's daughter, Shiloh, also makes a special guest appearance to demonstrate that her dad not only talks the talk, but also walks the walk.

Kison is a father of three and a husband. He has a great family. He is also an accomplished author and runs the M&A Science podcast, which has 14,000 listeners. We hope you enjoy! Listen in, spread the word, and take some great insights.

Key Quotes:

• “It’s those little achievements with the kids that are always the best.”
• “Sometimes we ask people to do things or ask for help, but don’t really do a good job on why we’re asking for help and that’s such an important thing I’ve learned is you got to make sure you clarify that why and it makes such a difference.”
• “You have to dedicate time for each child individually and individualize that experience.”
• “Establishing goals and then breaking things down into achievable milestones.”

Title 

0:00      Intro 

3:40      Activities to pass the time during Corona situation for Kison’s family

10:02    Starting a business or having a child, which is scarier?

12:57    Family traditions

16:53    The most embarrassing parenting story

19:50    Parents know everything even when kids don’t say anything

20:18    Best memory of being a dad

21:34    Advice on how to handle bullying in school

24:43    Sideline parenting in sports

26:40    Best advice for a dad having his first child

28:26    Book “Calm The F@#$ Down” and earmuff gifts for dads

31:16    Keep the balance going when reaching the max stress level

33:40    Proudest dad moment

33:56    Clarify when saying simple transaction words

40:56    Follow dad’s entrepreneurial career or not

45:15    Life lessons that schools don’t teach

47:18    Ray Dalio’s “Principles” book

51:35    What being a dad means and how it changes life perspective

53:26    Dedicate time to each child individually

60:27    People take punches at you, learning how to handle constructive criticism

62:22    Parallels between raising kids and being an entrepreneur

64:14    Break goals down into achievable milestones to get there

65:35    Learn how to build off of your failures as much as your successes

66:02    Shiloh giving her thoughts on how to be a good dad

66:10    “Find what you love to do and be the best in the world at it”

66:16    “Focus and work ten times harder than everybody else”

66:30    “You sometimes need a schedule to follow so they know what to do”

70:51    What would your kid remember about you as a father

72:08    Discipline is “when you get set on doing something, you get it done no matter what”

74:24    “Continuously and consistently recheck where you’re at”

77:30    M&A Science podcast with Kison Patel

79:37    Outro

In Episode 5, The Dad Corp has an opportunity to sit down with Sean Hailey, who is an International Tax Expert and Partner at a Global Consulting firm, as well as an entrepreneur who owns Comet Mixed Martial Arts gym in Fairfax, VA. 

It was a ton of fun and we talked about EVERYTHING from the mania of the Coronavirus to how polarized politics are to Facebook debates to Mixed Martial Arts and gym ownership during a pandemic to how fast kids grow up, dealing with teenagers, and Sean's views and principles he wanted to instill in his children. 

He is an exceptional father and husband, successful father and entrepreneur, and overall great man. One that we are honored to call a friend. We hope you enjoy! 

0:00 Intro
2:36 Introduction and golf 
4:00 Corona Virus
10:56 How did Corona Virus start?
18:29 Corona Virus and young people
20:41 Facebook Debates
24:37 The obsession with Dr. Fauci
27:00 Trump, Government, and Corona Virus 
28:55 Swine flu and past pandemics
31:12 Hospitals getting overrun
32:40 Corona testing scams
35:30 COVID Impact on MMA
41:38 Corona Virus medication
42:51 Dad's with boyfriends of daughters
46:00 Why is raising a teenage daugher more complex than tax code?
47:00 Daughter dates are scarier than Corona Virus
49:20 What is harder: having a daughter or a son?
52:38 How to role model your son
56:55 Most embarrassing parenting story
58:48 Best parenting memory
62:56 Telling truth to children
65:45 Favorite thing to do with kids
71:00 What does being a parent mean to you?
74:40 Teenagers spend less time with parents
78:39 Time is different when you are younger
83:20 Kisses are gone
84:00 What to implement from parenting to career
92:33 What to teach your kids
99:00 Do the things you don't like 
102:00 Yoga is hard
112:20 Building a team
117:30 Who to go to for advice to being a father?
122:25 How to balance career, hobbies and being a father?
127:30 Advice for people that just got married
128:30 How do you want kids to remember their childhood?
129:50 Finishing up 
131:41 Outro

In Episode 4, we had a chance to sit down with Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Hero and World Champion, Abraham Marte, who also is a husband, dad of two girls, and real life sensei. 

We covered everything including:

• Stoicism as a philosophy
• Jiu-jitsu and online teaching during COVID-19
• Do we really change after global crisis?
• Media, metrics, and focusing on what is important
• Where is Wuhan, China anyway?
• Podcast Recommendation: The London Real
• Becoming Mr. Miyagi and not a Cobra Cai 
• Why teaching self-defense is as important as swimming
• Why COVID-19 is an opportunity and teaching lesson to get away from materialism
• The nostalgia of "old school" teaching through tough love
• Gaining humility through learning and never stopping
• Making a good Moscow Mule
• Applying martial arts  to parenting
• Principle he wants to instill in his girls
• Legacy with his kids
• Book Recommendation - The obstacle is the way - Ryan Holiday

Abraham Marte Jiu-Jitsu  (Source: BJJ Heroes) 

Nickname: He is often called “Loco” which means crazy in Spanish. The name started due to Abraham’s obsession for Jiu-Jitsu.

Lineage: Mitsuyo Maeda > Carlos Gracie > Helio Gracie > Rickson Gracie > Marcelo Behring > Fernando Yamasaki > Abraham Tabar > Abraham Marte Messina

Main Achievements:

• 1st Place IBJJF World Masters Championship (2014**)
• 1st Place IBJJF Pan American Championship No-Gi (2015)
• 3rd Place IBJJF World Championship (2015 / 2013)
• 3rd Place CBJJ Brazilian Nationals (2013)

About Abraham:
Abraham Marte was born on June 27, 1980, in San Domingo, DR. Marte’s father was a former sports minister and through his father’s connections with the sporting world, he started practicing Judo as a youngster.

 He had his first class in 2001, when Abraham found out about this academy that was teaching Jiu-Jitsu taught by Abraham Tabar, a Judo black belt who loved newaza (the groundwork aspect of Judo) and would often travel to the United States to learn Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu from people such as Romero Cavalcanti (and later Royce Gracie and Fernando Yamasaki).

Though Abraham Marte enjoyed Jiu-Jitsu thoroughly he had to stop training in 2002 due to a serious injury to his back. At the time Abraham was employed as a DJ, working nights and leading a life of excess but with time and dedication, he left his former life behind in order to recover and come back to BJJ, which he did in 2006.

Being a natural athlete at Jiu-Jitsu he decided to start competing for fun. His first big competition was taken when he was a blue belt in Puerto Rico, even though he could only train 4x per week. 

Abraham Marte’s passion for Jiu Jitsu overflowed to his wife who also became a BJJ enthusiast and competitor.

Touf Hassoun is a dad, husband and the CEO of Case Technologies.  He came from Lebanon at the age of 16 for college.  He has degrees from Carnegie Mellon University and the University of Pittsburgh.  Touf started Case Technologies at the age of 29, and was entrepreneur of the year in 1996.  He has tested at the genius IQ level, played soccer in college, speaks three languages, enjoys traveling, golfing, cycling and fine wine. He also may be one of the best Foosball players you can come across in the business circuit.  

Most importantly, he is a wonderful father of three kids who are now in their 20s and brings a wealth of insights and experiences from balancing entrepreneurship, parenting, family, and personal goals. 

Listen to the podcast to hear Touf share his insights, experiences, and philosophies on the following areas:

•  Which is scarier, starting a business or having a child
• The importance of responsibility and micros decisions in determining the opportunities you'll have you in yours and your children's lives
• How passion can lead to success 
• The difference between being a parent and running a business
• What being a dad means and how it has impacted his life
• The parallels between entrepreneurship and parenting
• Discusses the key principles to his kids and how those principles formulate the type of decision making that creates the right responses for success 
• How he wants to be remembered as a dad

 
Links to Follow:

 Touf on Linkeldn:  

 Touf on Twitter: @toufster 

Case Technologies:

www.casetech.com

Case Technologies est. 1989 provides comprehensive technological solutions to assist the Architecture, Engineering, Construction and Operations industry in meeting significant current challenges such as the demand for environmental sustainability and the movement toward tighter integration in the delivery process. Here at Case Technologies, their goal is to provide there clients with courteous, expedient, professional service of the highest caliber. 

Case Technologies has 75+ combined years of industry knowledge along with the technological expertise to assist our customers in understanding their business challenges and in developing a comprehensive technological plan to achieve their strategic vision. There comprehensive services include consulting, strategic assessments, planning, software, hardware, training and implementation – everything needed to successfully plan and accomplish technological projects that enable there clients to transform their businesses.

Press: Pittsburgh tech froze an Italian city in time by creating a 3-D model 

Brigadier General (S) Jason Bailey is a real life Maverick and American hero who has lived an extraordinary life. 

He has more than 3,000 flying hours, including more than 600 combat hours in Iraq and Afghanistan.  Brig. Gen. Bailey received his commission through the U.S. Air Force Academy in 1995. He has served as a flight lead, instructor, and mission commander in in the F-16 and C-130. 

At the time of this interview, Brig. Gen. Bailey was a Colonel and leading a wing of more than 5,000 dedicated military and civilian personnel who maintain, deploy, and employ the F-16 Fighting Falcon fighter aircraft and $6 billion of United States Protection Level-1 assets in support of North Atlantic Treaty Organization and U.S. missions as directed by the President and Secretary of Defense. The wing supports the Supreme Allied Commander, Europe with mission-ready personnel and systems providing expeditionary air power for suppression and destruction of enemy air defenses, air interdiction, close-air support, counter-air, strategic attack, combat search and rescue, and nontraditional intelligence.

Most importantly though, Brig. Gen. Bailey is an even better family man, father, and husband that I've had an opportunity to cross paths with. We could not have selected a better guest to kick-off our podcast. 

It was an amazing discussion. We laughed, got philosophical, got serious, shed some tears, and covered everything from favorite super heroes to Brig. Gen. Bailey's deployment and homecoming return from his Afghanistan deployment. 

Words can't do this interview justice. It is a must listen and we are honored and grateful to have had to the opportunity to get these insights. 

We hope you enjoy as much as we did! Thank you Brig. Gen. Bailey for your service, being an incredible example that we can follow, and for your time. 

The Dad Corp

Episode 000 is the launch of TheDadCorp podcast. Check us out and hear about what to expect on our future shows! 

We know that you are very busy.  We’re dads too!  There are three beautiful girls out there that were the motivation behind the creation of The Dad Corp.

We don’t take your time for granted.  We want to make your interactions with our company great. Our hope is that you walk away feeling proud of the hero that you are!

The Dad Corp was founded by two childhood buddies from a small town that grew up together, went to high school together, college together, the care free 20s together, and are now on the dad adventure at the same time.  It is an epic experience that we’ve embraced from day one. 

Becoming a dad is like taking the blue pill in the Matrix. There is no going back. Your life, priorities, goals, aspirations, and who you identify as all make fundamental changes that cannot be avoided when you begin this journey. Sharing that journey with other dads who understand makes a world of difference.

Dads are best friends, role models, coaches, mentors, husbands and friends. We believe there are no substitutes for an engaged dad.  We also believe there is not enough recognition and support for dads in this world.  Dads help future generations believe in themselves and achieve their dreams which make the world a better place.  A father’s silent sacrifices are the most powerful forms of love and they deserve to be thanked and celebrated more.

That is what The Dad Corp is here to do! 

Welcome to the team. We look forward to seeing you on this incredible adventure.