Daddy Got Custody: Helping Good Parents Win Custody of their Kids

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, Fred Campos, custody coach, sits down with Jamie Lima, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, financial professional, and founder of Allegiant Divorce Solutions, for a practical conversation about one of the most overlooked parts of divorce: the money.

Jamie explains why financial decisions made during divorce can have consequences that last long after the court case is finished. Fred and Jamie discuss dividing assets, retirement accounts, taxes, the family home, business interests, and why two assets that appear equal on paper may have very different values once taxes and long-term financial consequences are considered.

The conversation also covers some of the financial mistakes people make when emotions are running high, why it is important to understand your complete financial picture before agreeing to a settlement, and how having the right professionals on your divorce team can help you make decisions based on facts instead of fear.

Jamie also shares how his own experience with divorce helped lead him into divorce financial planning and eventually to developing tools designed to make the complicated financial side of divorce easier to understand. For professionals working in the divorce space, Jamie discusses SecureSplit, a platform designed to help organize cases, analyze financial information, and evaluate settlement scenarios.

If you are facing divorce or custody litigation, this episode is a reminder that winning an argument today does not necessarily mean you are making the best financial decision for tomorrow.

The divorce eventually ends. The financial decisions you make during it may follow you for years.

To contact Jamie Lima:

Phone: 619-354-9477 Email: [email protected]

Individuals going through divorce can learn more at: https://allegiantds.com/

Divorce professionals and practitioners can learn more about SecureSplit at: https://securesplit.com/

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad and 27-year custody veteran, talks about one of the easiest mistakes parents make during a custody battle: turning their child into part of the case.

Fred explains why children should never become witnesses, messengers, investigators, therapists, or emotional support for either parent. He breaks down the difference between listening to your child and interrogating them, why asking "Who do you want to live with?" can create enormous pressure, and how using children to carry messages or gather information can damage both the child and your credibility.

You'll also hear practical advice on what to do when a child voluntarily shares something serious, how to respond without coaching or leading them, and why fathers should create a safe zone where kids can simply be kids instead of participants in the legal fight.

Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that the goal is not just to win a custody case. It is to protect your child from carrying adult conflict.

Your child should know they are loved — not know your litigation strategy.

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, Fred Campos, a 27-year custody veteran, explains how something as simple as a text message can either strengthen your custody case or quietly damage it.

Fred breaks down the most common texting mistakes fathers make during high-conflict custody disputes, including responding while angry, sending threats or insults, writing long emotional messages, using sarcasm, and taking the bait every time an Ex tries to provoke a reaction. He also explains what better custody communication looks like: brief, factual, polite, child-focused, and written as though a judge may someday read it.

You'll learn why text messages can become powerful evidence, how patterns of communication can affect credibility, why complete context matters when saving messages, and how co-parenting apps can sometimes help create structure in difficult situations.

Most importantly, this episode is about discipline. Stop texting your Ex like you are talking to your Ex. Start texting like you are talking to the judge.

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad and 27-year custody veteran, explains what fathers should do when their Ex refuses to follow the court order.

Fred breaks down how dads can protect themselves when parenting time is denied, exchanges are repeatedly delayed, important school or medical information is withheld, or other parts of the order are ignored. He explains why retaliation is usually a mistake, why calm communication matters, and how strong documentation can turn repeated violations into a clear pattern the court can actually understand.

You'll also learn why fathers should keep following their own part of the order, when it may be time to involve an attorney, and why enforcement should be about restoring compliance — not getting revenge.

Most importantly, this episode is about staying disciplined when the other parent is not.

Don't respond to a court-order violation by creating one of your own.

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, Fred Campos, a 27-year custody veteran, talks about one of the biggest threats to a Father's custody case: himself.

Good Dads sometimes damage otherwise strong custody cases through a series of small, preventable mistakes — angry texts, missed parenting time, arguments during exchanges, talking to the kids about the case, ignoring court orders, poor documentation, social media drama, and assuming their attorney will take care of everything.

Fred explains how one mistake may not destroy a custody case, but repeated behavior can create a pattern that opposing counsel can use to tell a damaging story about who you are as a parent.

You'll learn why every text should be written as though a judge might someday read it, why you should consistently use the parenting time you already have, why custody exchanges should be boring, and why your children should never become messengers, witnesses, investigators, or emotional support during the fight.

Most importantly, this episode is about recognizing that every decision you make during a custody battle is helping build one of two stories: a pattern of instability and conflict, or a pattern of calm, consistency, involvement, and responsible fatherhood.

If you're a Dad fighting for custody, remember one simple rule: Don't make the other side's case for them.

In this episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, I sit down with Chel Cartmill, Next Chapter Transition Specialist and author of Spider on My Neck, for an honest conversation about the emotional side of divorce, custody, grief, and rebuilding your life after everything changes.

Please contact Chel Cartmill at https://www.chelcartmill.com/ For my listeners, Chel is offering a complimentary consulting call here... https://bit.ly/469j06E

Chel explains why divorce can feel like a kind of death, how parents can continue showing up for their children while they are emotionally exhausted, and how to recognize the difference between normal grief and something deeper. We also talk about the overuse of labels like "narcissist," what emotional abuse can really look like, and why healing after divorce is not always a straight line.

In the final part of the conversation, Chel shares the story behind her new book, Spider on My Neck, and how her own experiences with divorce, loss, fear, healing, and starting over shaped the message she hopes to give others.

If you are a parent going through divorce, fighting for custody, grieving the loss of the family life you expected, or simply trying to figure out what comes next, this conversation is a reminder that the legal battle is only one part of the journey.

Custody cases may be fought in courtrooms, but a lot of the real battle happens inside your own head and heart.

After 27 years of dealing with custody battles, courtrooms, attorneys, judges, CPS, evidence, and the realities of raising kids after divorce, I've learned a few things—some of them the hard way.

In this milestone 50th episode of the Daddy Got Custody Podcast, I share the 10 most important custody lessons I've learned over the past 27 years. These aren't theories from a textbook. They come from my own custody battle, dozens of trips to court, years of raising my kids, and helping other fathers understand what it actually takes to fight for their children.

We talk about why being a good dad isn't enough—you have to be able to prove it, why documentation and preparation matter, why temporary decisions can have long-term consequences, and why controlling your emotions may be one of the most important courtroom strategies you ever learn.

Most importantly, this episode is about keeping the focus where it belongs: your kids.

If you're a father facing divorce, custody litigation, or simply trying to become a stronger and more involved dad, these are the lessons I wish someone had given me when my custody journey began.

27 years. 50 episodes. A lot of mistakes, a lot of lessons—and four kids who made every bit of it worthwhile.

Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad and 23-year custody consultant, explains why the words fathers choose in family court can have a lasting impact on their custody case. In this episode, Fred breaks down some of the most common courtroom phrases that can damage a father's credibility—even when they're true—and explains why judges listen for far more than just the facts. They are evaluating attitude, maturity, judgment, self-control, and whether a parent demonstrates a healthy co-parenting mindset.

Fred walks through the statements fathers should never make in court, including phrases like "She's crazy," "I deserve custody," "My child wants to live with me," and "I did nothing wrong." He explains why these emotional or exaggerated statements often backfire and offers stronger, child-focused alternatives that present fathers as calm, credible, and prepared. Throughout the episode, he emphasizes the importance of replacing accusations with evidence, emotion with strategy, and self-focused language with a clear commitment to the child's best interests.

If you're preparing for a custody case or simply want to avoid costly courtroom mistakes, this episode will help you understand how to communicate in a way that strengthens your credibility and keeps the focus where it belongs—on your child. More details and resources can always be found at https://DaddyGotCustody.com.

Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad and 23-year custody consultant, explains why temporary orders in a custody case can matter far more than most fathers realize. In this episode, Fred breaks down how "temporary" arrangements often create the first court-approved routine for a child, shape the judge's first impression, and can give one parent the advantage of becoming the default parent while the case is still unfolding. He also explains why dads who treat temporary orders like a warm-up round may spend the rest of the case trying to climb uphill. If you are fighting for custody, this episode will help you understand why you need to take temporary orders seriously, prepare early, and show the court a stable, child-focused plan from the very beginning. More details and resources can always be found at https://DaddyGotCustody.com

Fred Campos, @FullCustodyDad and 23-year custody consultant, shares a hard truth many fathers learn too late: being a good dad and proving it in court are not always the same thing. In this episode, Fred explains why love, sacrifice, and private fatherhood matter deeply in real life — but why family court often looks instead for documentation, patterns, credibility, and proof of daily involvement. He breaks down the gap between what a father knows he does, what his child knows he does, and what a judge can actually verify. If you are fighting for custody, this episode will help you understand how to make your fatherhood visible in a system that rewards preparation. More details and resources can always be found at https://DaddyGotCustody.com