Judson revels in a moment of gratitude after reuniting with a sweater left behind at the studio. Brian reports on a frustrating afternoon on the apps and wonders if his dick pics are misleading. A unique Hookup of the Week tells its tale through text messages. The two are then joined by hosts of “The Big C*nty Couch” podcast, Mike Fails and drag queen Gina Spears! Mike and Gina reveal the bold choice that first solidified their now fifteen-year friendship before either was out of the closet, the secret sauce that has kept them so close for so long, how they each define their sexuality and what made them decide to create a podcast together.  Each also shares personal stories including the origins of the Gina Spears persona, the challenges of the past year since Mike’s husband survived a nightmarish accident, and so much more. Together, the four respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to handle hooking up with someone he likes, but whose home is a complete mess.

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Our Dad and Daddy reunite after Judson’s week in San Francisco for work and Brian’s Disney Cruise in the Caribbean with his family, and they each provide a full report on their travels, including the hookup activity that happened for one and not the other. Judson sees “Pillion” a second time and takes his husband to see it for his first. Brian suggests that listeners read John Paul Brammer’s book, “Hola Papi: How to Come Out in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons” in advance of his appearance on the podcast in the coming weeks. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who again  takes us to a public cruising spot in Australia. Judson raises some thoughts and concerns that have been on his mind about the way gay men treat women. The two end the episode responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener curious about how friendships with the people we hook up with work inside an open relationship.

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Judson looks forward to checking out the Gems and Minerals exhibit at the Natural History Museum for a Galentine’s afternoon. Brian shares his thoughts on watching both “Pillion” and “Heated Rivalry” a second time. A listener who’s a lawyer provides feedback on the advice given when a question about signing an NDA was posed during a recent Go Ask Your Dad segment. The Hookup of the Week is the story of an encounter that inspires the submitter to be more specific about the information he provides when meeting people on the apps so as to avoid medical emergencies. Brian and Judson are then joined by drag icon, RuPaul’s Drag Race alum and reigning Mr. Palm Springs Leather, Honey Davenport! Honey talks about their entree into the leather community over the last few years, bridging the drag and leather sides of their persona, why it’s important to address them as Honey, their thoughts on a return to Drag Race, their journey into adult content creation, the childhood origins of their activism and community service, and the need for mentorship in the queer community. They also tell us about the launch of their line of tights designed for the drag community, Honey’s Hose, detail how they fit into the Davenport family tree, and talk about their various relationship statuses as a polyamorous person. Honey then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a non-binary listener curious for thoughts on how to signal on the apps that Daddy and femme can co-exist early enough in a conversation to ensure expectations are set and met while keeping it sexy.

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Judson enjoys his first planned hookup of 2026 and realizes he may be becoming demisexual. Brian explores his newfound versatility and finds much personal satisfaction. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of an encounter that is both very hot and very wet, and leads to Judson teaching Brian a piece of sexual vocabulary. They are then joined by fashion designer and sometime Son to Judson’s Daddy, Timothy Westbrook. After sharing behind-the-scenes secrets of his time on the 12th season of “Project Runway,” Timothy discusses his mission to design from a place without shame and how it inspires his very special collection, TL Brooke Bridal. He provides his unique perspective on rituals and ceremonies, and talks about how he works with clients of all gender expressions to create pieces that personify and celebrate their entire being. Timothy then reveals how he found his way to Dads and Daddies through a hookup story Judson shared on the pod three months ago, and dives deep into the fulfillment he finds in blindfolding himself during sex, his talent for being a good boy, how he protects himself when hooking up with strangers and his aspirations to a porn career. He also talks about his experience living life as a sexual person with a stoma and ostomy bag after his large intestine was removed due to ulcerative colitis. In closing, Timothy joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is confused and frustrated about an abusive hookup he suffered that returns to his thoughts when he’s masturbating.

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It’s a party weekend! Judson prepares for a friend’s bachelor party in Chicago, and Brian prepares to celebrate his husband’s birthday on the Saturday, and his younger daughter’s on the Sunday. They attend screenings on consecutive nights of the new movie, Pillion, starring Alexander Skarsgård and Harry Melling, and compare notes with one another for the first time since. Together, Brian and Judson take a seat on The Big C*nty Couch with drag queen Gina Spears and her longtime friend Mike Fails. Our recent episode on Deshaming Sluttiness inspires a listener to submit a Hookup of the Week about his competition with a friend to see who can fill the pages of their little black books faster. Brian and Judson are then joined by star of stage and screen Jason Veasey, currently co-starring in the new comedy-drama, “Best Medicine,” on Fox and Hulu. Jason talks about the joy of being on the sets of both his current show and “Only Murders in the Building,” his desire to represent gay men our age on screen as sexual beings, and the need for more depictions of queer Black-on-Black love and sex in TV and film. He also gets personal and chats with Brian and Judson about sexual comfort levels, the value he places on sex in his relationship, being in a long-term relationship without living together, reclaiming his sexuality after his HIV diagnosis, sharing the news of his diagnosis with his family, and what it took for him to realize that he’s versatile in bed. Jason then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how he should conduct himself around his grade school-age niblings when the MAGA members of his husband’s extended family feel that kids shouldn’t know that gay people exist.

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Judson is reflective after a trip to visit his mom, and shares a piece of American history he’s recently realized made a huge impact on his life. Brian has a record-breaking week of sex, between hookups, a party and his husband. An exquisitely written and performed Hookup of the Week tells the tale of a top who steps out of his comfort zone and into a submissive role in a public space. Brian and Judson are then joined by Ben Zumsteg, founder of Disco Fizz, a new premium non-alcoholic drink brand focused on serving queer nightlife. Ben shares the origins of his disordered relationship with alcohol, his personal journey to an alcohol-free life, the gay bar problem he’s trying to solve, how he knew it was the right time to start his own business, and his challenge being approached as a Daddy when he still wants to be a Good Boy. Ben then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question submitted by a listener who wants help building and maintaining self-confidence.

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Brian and Judson discuss “Heated Rivalry” at long last. Judson makes a plan to meet up with a friend who he hasn’t seen or spoken with in over 15 years, and who is the last person to whom he has to make amends. Brian makes subtle changes in the bedroom that have significant payoff for his marital sex life, and offers an update to a controversial statement he made on an early episode of the podcast. The Hookup of the Week follows the adventures of two couples who meet at a Halloween party, and end up traveling together for a weekend in upstate New York that includes many tricks and treats. For the main segment, the two focus on a topic for the first time in over three months! In a discussion about Deshaming Sluttiness, Brian looks to Judson after a particularly active day of hookups to make sure it’s okay that he doesn't feel remorse about his "promiscuous" behavior.  They close by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who hooked up with a professional athlete and is now being approached by the athlete’s family asking him to stay silent for a fee.

Corrections and clarifications:

Both DayUse.com and HotelsByDay.com are sites that offer booking of hotels for day use only without overnight stays.

The other website mentioned by Judson was missing an ‘s’ at the end of its name before the “.com”.  The term he used should be plural.

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Judson celebrates his 43rd birthday. Brian shares a list of trans Girl Scouts from whom listeners can order cookies. Judson and Brian appear together on Brandon Kyle Goodman’s podcast, Tell Me Something Messy, and the conversation that ensues inspires them to consider a new business venture.The two receive an outrageously misguided pitch for a guest on the show.  Brian struggles with how to label himself on the apps. Judson extols the virtues of flipping in bed. The Hookup of the Week becomes a Go Ask Your Dad question when the listener shares a story about a regular hookup he wants more from, and also wants advice on how to start the conversation. Brian and Judson are then joined by Aidan Wharton, creator of the Substack bestseller, Gay Buffet, and host of Getting Close, a podcast that aims to revive humanity’s connection skills, which Aidan warns are being intentionally destroyed by the tech companies that control the world. Aidan shares how he found his purpose, how he knew that monogamy wasn’t for him, his exploration of open relationships through his writing, the cardinal rule of his open marriage, and how Grindr is useful for so much more than finding sex. Aidan then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has discovered that he and his husband are no longer on the same page about the status of their open relationship, after a series of changes to their work and living situations.

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Brian celebrates a number of firsts when it comes to hooking up, and encourages listeners to lean into new experiences. Judson bemoans hooking up in winter but looks forward to a trip to Steamworks in Toronto. Dads and Daddies stirs up jealous feelings that inspire a listener to try cuckold play with his partner in the Hookup of the Week. Brian and Judson are then joined by Daddy Kylex, one of New York City’s preeminent adult content creators. Kylex takes them through the origins of his career, what his Jewish mother does and does not know about his livelihood, what his sex life looks like off-camera, and what his romantic aspirations are long-term. He shares his Daddy Issue with the disparity between how people interact with him online versus in person, and helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants advice on how to speak to people at kink socials without anyone getting the wrong idea about his intentions.

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Judson prepares to celebrate his birthday. Brian attends his daughter’s first fashion show as a designer. Judson clarifies what he means when he uses the term “Duck Toast” to describe a man’s physique. Brian provides an update on the effect Lexapro is having on his sexual performance. The Hookup of the Week follows the international adventures of a listener who has opened his marriage after more than 20 years. Brian and Judson are then joined by Tony, Drama Desk, Outer Critics Circle and NY Drama Critics Circle awards-winning comedy writer for stage and screen, Robert Horn. Robert shares incredible stories from throughout his life, ranging from the time he set his home on fire as a child to the underground way in which he maintained contact with his sister after they were sent to separate orphanages, to his sexual awakening while at the orphanage, to the impact the Big Brothers Big Sisters organization made on his life. He tells them about his move to Manhattan where he made money any way he could–legal or not, his move to Los Angeles where his TV writing career took off, and his most recent chapter writing hit after hit on Broadway and the West End. Robert talks about his marriage to his true southern gentleman husband John, his thoughts on the evolution of queer culture, and the challenges of aging as a gay man. To close, Robert helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who continues to fall for straight men and wants help putting a stop to the pattern.

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