Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek provides insights into the infamous Cookout Alliance he initiated, ultimately resulting in the show’s first Black winner. He shares intimate details about his weight loss journey, how he struggles to find acceptance in the bear community as a Black man, his plans for Bear Week in Provincetown, MA, his experiences meeting people out at gay bars and on the apps, and how he deals with the online hate that continues to come his way since his time on “Big Brother.” Derek then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who felt envious as a POC in an open relationship with a white man for the attention his ex-boyfriend would get, and wants advice about how to approach the possibility of opening up his next relationship. 

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Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what love looks like within friendships. The love chat continues when this week’s Go Ask Your Dad comes from a listener starting the process of opening his relationship, who disagrees with his partner’s belief that love and sex are intrinsically intertwined.

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Judson is self-reflective after a week of anniversaries, experiences the highs and lows of a company-wide work event, and may have met the ultimate hookup partner. Brian also experiences an incredible hookup and reaches his 5th review on TheBlowers. Judson learns a new Daddy trick from this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. After the break, they resume their friendly fire, and Brian gets emotional, sharing how the principal at his children’s school reacted to a particular component of his Pride plans for all the students. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener looking for thoughts about preparing himself for what he believes to be the inevitable end of a 10-year hookup relationship.

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Judson recuperates from an intense period at work and enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor. Brian bemoans that it has been a frustrating week on the apps. The two debate the virtues of white chocolate and whether or not liking it is at all specific to the queer community. A listener shares a Hookup of the Week story about their first Daddy experience. Judson and Brian then chat all about Pride! They share their favorite Pride memories, reflect on what Pride means to them, how they each celebrate Pride, what’s important to them about the Pride Festival and Parade, and how their experience of Pride has evolved over the years.  They end by responding to a listener’s Go Ask Your Dad question, asking how he should tell a hookup he enjoyed that he likely won’t see him again after learning new information.

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Judson visits a childhood friend’s new home in upstate New York and exchanges feedback about their lives with one another.  Brian hosts an event at his home to get fellow parents in his community thinking about how to talk about sex with their kids. Together, they enjoy a particularly daring Hookup of the Week submitted by a listener. They are then joined by multiple Tony Award-winning Broadway producer of Rent, Hamilton and more--and now the author of the new memoir Theater Kid--Jeffrey Seller. The three discuss the relatability of Jeffrey’s book, the significance of Jeffrey in Brian’s life, Jeffrey’s influence on making theatre accessible to all, some of the heartbreak he left out of his book, the importance of Hamilton at this particular moment, and Jeffrey’s three most essential qualities of a relationship.  Jeffrey also joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener concerned about his age becoming an issue as he starts a new chapter as a later-in-life undergrad.

Read Theater Kid: A Broadway Memoir by Jeffrey Seller - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Theater-Kid/Jeffrey-Seller/9781668064184

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Judson spends a glorious Memorial Day Weekend on his second annual trip to Naked Yoga Camp in Austin, this time with his husband. Brian is redeemed for the hookup gone wrong almost 18 months ago, which led to the birth of this podcast. He also explains the concept of semen to his nine-year-old daughter and receives a perfect review on TheBlowers. Judson and Brian then enjoy a listener-submitted Hookup of the Week before launching into a conversation about Playing in Public.  Judson and Brian share their favorite open-air spots and experiences, some of the opportunities gay vacation destinations provide for public sex, and the pros and cons of sex outdoors versus sex at parties. They close the episode by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who isn’t happy when his boyfriend implies he may have his own hookup with someone they’re both attracted to.

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It’s Dads and Daddies’ first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas they bring to their home lives, work lives, creative lives, sex lives, friendships, and time alone with their thoughts. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to get out of a hookup when the person doesn’t meet expectations without hurting that person’s feelings. 

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Judson reports back on the insanity taking place at work and on trying a new experience during a hookup.  Brian reflects on the passing of his family’s pet. GayVN award-winning porn actor and adult model Joel Someone then joins them in Brian’s basement. Together, the three talk about Joel’s career and how it was born from his need to get out of his native New Mexico, his path from escort to porn star, losing his virginity to a woman on camera, his parents’ discovery of his line of work, and his relationships with his “porn son” (and former Dads and Daddies guest) Jonah Wheeler and his boyfriend King Dwarf. Joel sticks around to help Judson and Brian respond to a “Go Ask Your Dad” question from a listener in his early 30s who has never felt affection from a man and is on the verge of giving up on the gay community and finding love.

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Comparing their week on the apps, Judson laments an aborted mission, and Brian comes up against ageism. Brian shares a glowing review for the Broadway play, “John Proctor is the Villain.” The two then welcome to the podcast Nathan H. Lents, author of The Sexual Evolution: How 500 million years of sex, gender, and mating shape modern relationships. Together, they discuss the difference between sexual and social monogamy, the egalitarian and sex-positive lifestyle of the lesser studied bonobo chimpanzees, how humans look to the animal kingdom to claim justifications (that aren’t there) for their conservative beliefs, how the recent diversity in gender expression is a natural part of evolution, and so much more. Nathan then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to show more affection to his boyfriend, but doesn’t know how, having been raised in a household where very little affection was shown.

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It’s Dads and Daddies’ 50th Episode! To celebrate, Judson and Brian dedicate this week’s episode to the listeners by responding to FIVE Go Ask Your Dad questions! Ranging from a listener struggling with a toxic friends-with-benefits situation to one who wants help being verbal in bed, to another who wants to ensure his partner’s first hookup outside of their relationship goes off without a hitch, to one who’s having trouble balancing the difference between his sense of adventure versus his husband’s, to a listener looking for guidance on making a hookup happen by cruising IRL, this episode’s questions open up all kinds of conversations about the lives and times of adult gay men in the here and now! But first, Judson tells Brian about his experience recording an episode of Sniffies’ podcast, Cruising Confessions, and Brian talks about his challenges understanding the expectations of a hookup where he is nothing more than the recipient of oral sex.

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