Dads On Tap

Most dads know a great deal about their children—their schedules, preferences, friends, strengths, and struggles. But knowing facts about our children isn’t the same as understanding the person who’s forming beneath their behavior. In this episode, Scott explores how familiarity can make us experts in our child’s history while leaving us less curious about who they’re becoming right now.

Drawing from Jesus’ encounter with the wealthy young man in Mark 10 and the Knowing section of the Dad Connection Assessment, Scott offers practical ways to notice what’s changing in our children, release the labels that may no longer fit, and create conversations where they feel safe enough to be known. 

Because our children don’t only need dads who watch what they’re doing—they need dads who see who they’re becoming.

What does your family feel when you walk into the room? Most dads understand the importance of showing up, but physical proximity isn’t always the same as emotional presence. In this episode, Scott explores how the stress, distraction, exhaustion, and pressure we carry can quietly shape the atmosphere of our homes—and how our children may experience what we haven’t taken the time to notice.

Drawing from Jesus’ encounter with Bartimaeus and the Presence section of the Dad Connection Assessment, Scott offers a simple “pause” to help dads become more available during the moments that matter: What am I carrying right now? What might my family experience from me? And what does love require from me in the next five minutes? 

Presence isn’t perfection—it’s the repeated decision to notice, return, and make room for the people we love.

Most dads spend a lot of energy thinking about what they need to do for their families—but rarely slow down long enough to notice what’s happening within them. In this episode, Scott explores how a dad’s hidden inner world—his fears, wounds, reactions, desires, and relationship with God—quietly shapes the atmosphere of his home. 

He also introduces the free Dad Connection Assessment, a practical tool designed to help fathers honestly examine how they’re doing in some important areas of connection: intentionality, conversation, repair, presence/play, and spiritual life. This isn’t about becoming a perfect dad. It’s an invitation to pay attention to the man your children are experiencing and take one meaningful step toward greater connection.

Where is God when the future we hoped for disappears? 

In this episode, Scott explores the road to Emmaus, where two discouraged disciples discover that Jesus has been walking beside them long before they recognize Him. Through their honest words—“We had hoped”—and a deeply personal reflection on disappointment, grief, and companionship, this episode offers a hopeful reminder: the absence of an explanation doesn’t mean the absence of God. 

Jesus may already be present in the questions, conversations, and ordinary moments of our lives—even when we can’t yet see Him.

We all carry hopes and dreams around with us. Sometimes we even believe they will make our lives feel more complete. But what happens when those good hopes and dreams begin to carry the weight of proving our value, securing our future, or telling us who we are? 

In this deeply personal episode, Scott shares what happened when a dream he had carried for nearly two decades suddenly seemed possible—and then disappeared through an unexpected death. It’s an honest exploration of grief, desire, and surrender, and an invitation to both trust our Heavenly Father and pursue our dreams faithfully without expecting them to carry a weight they were never designed to bear.

Most of us have made promises we don’t remember making: “I won’t need anyone,” “I won’t get my hopes up,” or “I’ll handle life on my own.” These hidden vows often begin as intelligent ways of surviving pain, disappointment, or loneliness—but over time, they can keep us from the connection, hope, and trust we genuinely desire. In this episode, Scott explores how these quiet agreements shape our relationships with others and with God. In the process he shares his own struggle with self-reliance and disappointment and considers what we can learn from a desperate man's interaction with Jesus. It’s an invitation to recognize the vow beneath our strongest reactions, honor why it formed, and allow the Father to lead us beyond survival and into freedom.

What happens when you pray, believe, and God still doesn’t give you the outcome you desperately hoped for? 

In this deeply personal episode, Scott reflects on the loss of a good friend and the painful tension of trusting God when healing doesn’t come and the story remains unresolved. Through Jesus’ prayer in Gethsemane and His grief at Lazarus’s grave, Scott explores what it means to move beyond formula faith and remain with the Father when life still hurts. 

This isn’t an attempt to explain suffering or offer an easy answer—it’s an invitation to be an example to our family by grieving honestly, refusing to grieve alone, and discovering that even when God doesn’t fix our pain, He faithfully meets us in it.

When someone close to you is struggling, your instinct is often to jump in with advice, correct the problem, or move the conversation toward a quick resolution. But sometimes the most loving thing you can do is simply stay, listen, and help the other person feel seen. 

In this episode, Scott explores what Jesus teaches us about remaining present in uncomfortable and unresolved conversations—and shares how his urge to coach, defend, or accelerate can get in the way of genuine connection with his wife and children. Because the people closest to us don’t always need us to fix them; sometimes they just need us to listen.

Most of us don’t think our possessions own us—but what does it mean when a cracked windshield, an unexpected expense, or the pressure to be successful begins to quietly control us?

In this episode, Scott shares what he learned from an interaction Jesus had with a wealthy man, a Lent experiment in buying nothing new and an embarrassing reaction to a crack in his Volvo windshield. It’s an honest look at how money, possessions, appearance, and achievement capture our attention and begin to shape our identity, often without us knowing it. 

At the end of the day, the goal isn’t for us to stop having things—it’s to stop letting things have us.

The busier Jesus became, the more He withdrew—but most of us do the opposite. When life accelerates, we work harder, react faster, and leave less room to notice what’s happening inside us. In this episode, Scott explores how the hidden places of silence and attentiveness can shape our reactions in life’s loudest moments. Through an honest story about nearly blowing up at his son, he shows how creating space between reaction and response can lead to greater maturity, stronger relationships, and a life lived with God rather than merely for Him.

You’ll discover a simple rhythm from the life of Jesus: Withdraw. Listen. Align. Return. Act. Because the quietest places often shape the loudest spaces.