Two dads, one Boulevardier, and a disagreement they never actually settle.
Ryan brings back something a coworker in Germany told him — Sunday noise laws, no mowing, no vacuuming with the windows open. Out here, everyone and their mother is cutting grass on a Sunday. That opens Mark 2:27: the Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.
Then they split. Pete says sitting still feels like squandering a gift, and that getting the house in order and the kids settled is rest. Ryan answers with St. Augustine — our hearts are restless until they rest in you — and argues there's a spiritual rest underneath the physical one. Neither lands it cleanly, and Pete tells Ryan to his face that he just restated Pete's position in different words so he wouldn't have to be wrong.
On faith at home: it isn't a program you teach, it's ambient. Your kids are copying what you do, not what you say — which is why performing it in front of them does the most damage. And Pete on what being a godparent actually means: tethering your soul to another, and standing at the gates to make sure she gets in.
Then, where work ends. 87% of new professional job postings are fully on-site. 36% of US employers added required on-site days this year. The debate stopped being about butts in seats and became about boundaries — and the wall that used to separate work from home is gone and isn't coming back. So who draws the line, your employer or you? Pete tells the handshake story from a $6M deal in the thick of the pandemic.
Nobody has it figured out. That's the show.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Cold open — Sunday noise laws
00:20 DadTails — EP 4
00:25 Welcome in
01:33 The pour — The Boulevardier
04:45 Faith — rest vs. sloth (Mark 2:27)
16:51 Family — faith in the home
28:14 Pay the bills — Grüns
29:31 Business — where work ends
50:59 Next week on DadTails
THE POUR
The Boulevardier — bourbon, Campari, sweet vermouth. Named for the "man about town," credited to American expat Erskine Gwynne in 1920s Paris. The original is equal parts; we build it whiskey-forward at an ounce and a half. The bar kit we actually use: https://dadtails.com/gear
MENTIONED
Mark 2:27 · St. Augustine, Confessions · Grüns · Scott O'Neil, "Be Where Your Feet Are" — Ryan doesn't name the book on the show, but that's it, and the title is the phrase we keep coming back to.
THE FIELD NOTES
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Music from #Uppbeat — "Groove Sauce" by Stan Town
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