Daily Drive for Dads

We’re just not very impressed with people who are moderate. It’s not known as a really positive quality. People don’t celebrate walking up a nice grassy slope like they celebrate climbing mountains, right? So you tend to tackle a half hour wax and wash job on your car before checking the washer fluid. It’s because we think of starting small as mediocre.

Life is about change, and decisions have to be faced, and choices have to be made. Anytime you’re facing the voice of change, there’s a reason for it, and probably a... a really important one. But the voice of status quo is gonna knock that important reason right down. The voice of status quo is gonna come up with the most ridiculous and stupid excuses you can even imagine. Because the groove of status quo is usually comfy... and we’re by nature opposed to change, even when it excites us.

Have a sense of urgency when it matters, otherwise… Have patience and presence when you're not in a hurry. And… Have the maturity to know the difference. You know someone told me once, “Don't wear a watch, but be on time.” And I love that. Because it’s a perfect summary of living with a sense of urgency when needed, but living in peace otherwise.

Sometimes the best gifts we have in life are the really, really, really lousy ones.

Being worn out physically, but wanting more emotionally or mentally. A CEO I was talking to recently, sits in my office and says: "You know Tom, my default is just staying in bed. I'm thinking of selling everything and just moving into a one bedroom apartment." This is so common with guys. Less so with women. Guys hit this point where they've busted their butts, then when they get a chance to just BREATHE, but they're freakin’ tired. You swam out to the middle of the lake, but now you're too tired to enjoy it - you just gotta sorta half-swim back!

Because the way the game works is that there are several rounds of betting, and each time you bet, another card is flipped over and shown. So basically, you get closer and closer to making a safe bet as the rounds go on, while the first bet is really pretty risky. That’s why it’s the most important. When you’re pretty sure of something in life, you can make a pretty good decision – a bet, basically. But when it’s a real “shot in the dark”, then that decision – or bet – is much more critical. You’re either gonna win big... or lose big. It’s why you don’t make a decision to marry someone until you’ve dated them for a while. Right guys?

What we’re doing here is immediately feeling productive, NOT because we’re looking at our schedule and convincing ourselves that we can get the things on our list done… because your mind in this state won’t let you believe that, even if the schedule shows it clearly. What the Triple Stasis trick does is to reframe your life as a process of growth, not of being “done”. That is, it makes your mind focus on growing and moving toward your goals instead of feeling guilty for things left undone or incomplete. Pretty cool, huh?

Here's a daily drive for working Dads – The guys that are coming home, frazzled, tired and still need to be at the top of their game for their next job... raising kids. Know what the surveys say about work life balance? That it's the second most important workplace attribute. #1 is, yeah - Pay. Salary or wages. You know you're going to work a whole lot harder and be a whole lot happier if you can figure out the work life balance thing. So here's how this Dad of 10 does it and I wanna help you.