What does it mean to be Christ like? We hear it all the time but rarely did someone put words to it for me.

It always seemed evasive and unattainable but today I want to show you that it is very possible in the contect of your life and if you have God's grace in your life, you should be maturing as a result of it.

I listed some core values today and a few character traits (I drew a blank on this one but I promise I will share a list in a future episode!)

Join me as we discuss something that should be taking place in our lives on the daily and that is isnt as scary as it sounds!

Maturity!

This is a topic that has been on my mind for a long time because for so many years I had thought I was mature but was still operating in a parent/child dynamic with other adults in my church. I thought I was mature because I was living by their values and expectations and because I was chosing to do it I was an adult. I didn't realize how much I was living in compulsion and fear of them wrongly judging me and condemning me for not complying with them. To top it off, I was a brand new Christian when I came into their fellowship so I was all ears and more than willing to do what was expected because I wanted to grow in my relationship with God and that was my priority.

Over the years I realized how that way of living was hindering my growth and development as a person. I realized I had perspectives and experiences that were relevant and shouldn't be hidden to keep the peace. God didn't hide his desire to have a relationship with me by exposing the issues hindering it, I shouldn't be ashamed of the things he came to die for and the grace he supplied in my life through giving me a life giving perspective that has altered the trajectory of my life.

I share these different perspectives through my own life experiences with this topic as well as what I'm currently learning for that week.

I hope this inspires and encourages you to grow into the person God created you to be with no apologies.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

Today I talked about the importance of looking at what we believe about God, ourselves and other people, how those beliefs impact you currently and the blessing of being able to chage what we believe in these 3 areas so we can move forward and make progress in life producing the fruit of the spirit all the time not leaning on our circumstances, performance, others opinions but Gods spirit in us that reminds us that true freedom is in how we think and God can help us with all that!

Let's talk about Real and Ideal...

Real and Ideal (Integrating God's grace into your life).

This is something that I have only began to understand the last few years. I had no idea the amount of shame I was living under and how it was impacting my relationship with God and others.

I had lived in a place that God would abandoned me if I shared my whole self with him. Then I remembered that while I was still a sinner, Christ died for me so my sinful state didn't keep Christ from doing what was in his heart to do. All I needed to do was receive what he came to give me and allow it to impact my life: God's grace.

Their is no condemnation in Christ. He doesn't point our our wrongs and hold it against us. He gives us the grace we need to face what is causing death in us and gives us a new way of thinking to create life in us. God's grace gives us the courage we need to make transitions in life that will benefit us and advance Gods kingdom through the context of our lives.

Listen as I share real life examples in how I have and currently am implementing God's grace in hopes of you being able to do this vital task for the sake of you growing into the person God created you to be.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

Pay attention to these types of people when it comes to setting boundaries!

Listen to know what I mean.

Boundaries!

This is something that I have only began to implement into my life the last 5 years. The environment I was in growing up didn't teach me this foundational concept because they didn't have them either. We cannot teach what we don't have within ourselves first.

I had come to a point in my walk with Christ that I was burned out and struggling with what I was responsible for and what my role was. I was worrying about what was happening with others more than what was happening inside of me. For years I had been taught to deny myself and I was doing that in the most extreme and destructive ways to myself.

Boundaries changed that all for me tho!

The book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud changed my life.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is seeking to establish who they are in relationship to other people.

Let's define what a boundary is.

A boundary is a combination of what you say yes and no too; it's a combination of the choices you make that shape your life.

It's really self control in action.

This is something that is developed overtime and lots of factors need to be discussed so this can be done with confidence.

Let's jump into the episode so we can get ourselves established from the rest of the world in only a way that YOU can.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

When we can understand people, we can understand the heart of God and how he wants us to communicate the grace he has given to through the holes his grace found us in. Our shame and his grace collided and as a result we are healed: we are steadfast, strong and secure.

Today I shared with you guys the importance of understanding people, what we need if we are going to be an environment that cultivates people confessing sin to get healed and these 5 mindsets can help us impact each other in the most fulfilling way for the health of all invloved.

Bonding!

You maybe thinking, “What? Why are we talking about his on here? I can function without having to bond with people...I have made it this far...”

Is that is you?

I understand.

I didn't realize I needed people: I thought people needed me.

Because I thought like this, I would stay on my P's and Q's to not rock the boat of the image I was trying to covey to the rest of the world; “I got my Christian game tight and there is nothing you can say about that”. LOL!

That was my mentality. I was afraid to fail in the presence of my Christian Brothers and Sisters.

I had been in this mode my whole life.

I had grown up in an alcoholic family. The only time my mother would take time for me is when she was helping me with school and would tell me that I was going to be valedictorian (God I hope I spelled that right!)

Because of the issues my parents had and the belief my mother had in me,  I wanted to prove to the world my parents were not as worthless as most had judged them: I was with them and saw all that was impacting their life.

I had already been trying to help them with all their issues at a precious age of 5...

My worth was in what I gave to them. I never learned to receive love.

Can you relate?

So what is bonding exactly?

Its your ability to establish an emotional connection with another person.

How are you doing with that?

Why is this so important?

How does it impact on how we go on to present ourselves to the rest of the world?

All this will be discussed in this and future episodes!

Let's jump in and discuss this very important skill in relationships.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

God says that his people will die from lack of understanding. 

God also tells us that his people will die from our lack of knowledge.

Are you aware of the knowledge of your own life? 

Are you aware of the outcomes you have had that lead to a good outcome, bad out come or both?

Are you growing in your own understanding of the knowledge of your life,  how it's impacting you and using it as leverage for wisdom and God producing a good outcome of your life?

God can only produce good.

Humans however are not all knowing and that lack of knowledge also contributes to the evil we experience.

Today I discuss all this for the sake of us growing in the direction that will heal us and help us to bear fruit that will bless the people God puts in our life.

Maturity!

This is a topic that has been on my mind for a long time because for so many years I had thought I was mature but was still operating in a parent/child dynamic with other adults in my church. I thought I was mature because I was living by their values and expectations and because I was chosing to do it I was an adult. I didn't realize how much I was living in compulsion and fear of them wrongly judging me and condemning me for not complying with them. To top it off, I was a brand new Christian when I came into their fellowship so I was all ears and more than willing to do what was expected because I wanted to grow in my relationship with God and that was my priority.

Over the years I realized how that way of living was hindering my growth and development as a person. I realized I had perspectives and experiences that were relevant and shouldn't be hidden to keep the peace. God didn't hide his desire to have a relationship with me by exposing the issues hindering it, I shouldn't be ashamed of the things he came to die for and the grace he supplied in my life through giving me a life giving perspective that has altered the trajectory of my life.

I share these different perspectives through my own life experiences with this topic as well as what I'm currently learning for that week.

I hope this inspires and encourages you to grow into the person God created you to be with no apologies.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

Man....this hit me today and I was blessed. I hope it blesses you today too!

Real and Ideal (Integrating God's grace into your life).

This is something that I have only began to understand the last few years. I had no idea the amount of shame I was living under and how it was impacting my relationship with God and others.

I had lived in a place that God would abandoned me if I shared my whole self with him. Then I remembered that while I was still a sinner, Christ died for me so my sinful state didn't keep Christ from doing what was in his heart to do. All I needed to do was receive what he came to give me and allow it to impact my life: God's grace.

Their is no condemnation in Christ. He doesn't point our our wrongs and hold it against us. He gives us the grace we need to face what is causing death in us and gives us a new way of thinking to create life in us. God's grace gives us the courage we need to make transitions in life that will benefit us and advance Gods kingdom through the context of our lives.

Listen as I share real life examples in how I have and currently am implementing God's grace in hopes of you being able to do this vital task for the sake of you growing into the person God created you to be.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

In this episode, Im relating back to yesterdays podcast about who we bond with and today I want to talk about the impact of that.

Who we bond to will determine what good or bad we allow into ourl life.

Boundaries!

This is something that I have only began to implement into my life the last 5 years. The environment I was in growing up didn't teach me this foundational concept because they didn't have them either. We cannot teach what we don't have within ourselves first.

I had come to a point in my walk with Christ that I was burned out and struggling with what I was responsible for and what my role was. I was worrying about what was happening with others more than what was happening inside of me. For years I had been taught to deny myself and I was doing that in the most extreme and destructive ways to myself.

Boundaries changed that all for me tho!

The book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud changed my life.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is seeking to establish who they are in relationship to other people.

Let's define what a boundary is.

A boundary is a combination of what you say yes and no too; it's a combination of the choices you make that shape your life.

It's really self control in action.

This is something that is developed overtime and lots of factors need to be discussed so this can be done with confidence.

Let's jump into the episode so we can get ourselves established from the rest of the world in only a way that YOU can.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

This came from some a scripture I was reading in Isiah 1 this morning. I realized how God had been so honest with them about who he was but they had completely forsaken him and the results of that were devestating.

It got me reflecting on how the people I choose to bond with impacted my life and my confidence in my relationship with God.

How are the people you are chosing to bond with impacting you in your life? How has it impacted the decisions you make?

Listen to my story and maybe it will help you reflect on yours a little more.

Bonding!

You maybe thinking, “What? Why are we talking about his on here? I can function without having to bond with people...I have made it this far...”

Is that is you?

I understand.

I didn't realize I needed people: I thought people needed me.

Because I thought like this, I would stay on my P's and Q's to not rock the boat of the image I was trying to covey to the rest of the world; “I got my Christian game tight and there is nothing you can say about that”. LOL!

That was my mentality. I was afraid to fail in the presence of my Christian Brothers and Sisters.

I had been in this mode my whole life.

I had grown up in an alcoholic family. The only time my mother would take time for me is when she was helping me with school and would tell me that I was going to be valedictorian (God I hope I spelled that right!)

Because of the issues my parents had and the belief my mother had in me,  I wanted to prove to the world my parents were not as worthless as most had judged them: I was with them and saw all that was impacting their life.

I had already been trying to help them with all their issues at a precious age of 5...

My worth was in what I gave to them. I never learned to receive love.

Can you relate?

So what is bonding exactly?

Its your ability to establish an emotional connection with another person.

How are you doing with that?

Why is this so important?

How does it impact on how we go on to present ourselves to the rest of the world?

All this will be discussed in this and future episodes!

Let's jump in and discuss this very important skill in relationships.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

This was a thought that crossed my mind when I was debating on starting another social media account. I don't want to ever lose sight of my priorities and at the same time need to have another platform I can use to reach more people with the things the Lord has reached me with.

Today I want to talk about how the outcome of our lives is our responsibilty to evaluate if your not happy with your life. If you feel like a slave, you can acknowledge it and ask God to give you wisdom so you can mange your life in away that makes our relationship with God attractive.

This was an episode that towards the end I was honest about some judgements I see people can make that can keep people under wraps and because of these judgements...people can feel like slaves to the expectations and judgements of the others around them. This is a hot topic issue (in episode towards the end) but one I believe is also apart of the dymanic that needs to be exposed and at least talked about so it can lose its hold it can have on peoples lives.

Maturity! Its Monday!!!!!

This is a topic that has been on my mind for a long time because for so many years I had thought I was mature but was still operating in a parent/child dynamic with other adults in my church. I thought I was mature because I was living by their values and expectations and because I was chosing to do it I was an adult. I didn't realize how much I was living in compulsion and fear of them wrongly judging me and condemning me for not complying with them. To top it off, I was a brand new Christian when I came into their fellowship so I was all ears and more than willing to do what was expected because I wanted to grow in my relationship with God and that was my priority.

Over the years I realized how that way of living was hindering my growth and development as a person. I realized I had perspectives and experiences that were relevant and shouldn't be hidden to keep the peace. God didn't hide his desire to have a relationship with me by exposing the issues hindering it, I shouldn't be ashamed of the things he came to die for and the grace he supplied in my life through giving me a life giving perspective that has altered the trajectory of my life.

I share these different perspectives through my own life experiences with this topic as well as what I'm currently learning for that week.

I hope this inspires and encourages you to grow into the person God created you to be with no apologies.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4

In todays episode I talk about how God uses the parts we hide from him in out heart to bring about the birth of revelation and wisdom.

Who doesn't want that?

I also discuss the main emotions of guilt, shame, fear, anxiety and how they can be used for us and not against us like they normally are...

All this and more!!!

Real and Ideal (Integrating God's grace into your life).

This is something that I have only began to understand the last few years. I had no idea the amount of shame I was living under and how it was impacting my relationship with God and others.

I had lived in a place that God would abandoned me if I shared my whole self with him. Then I remembered that while I was still a sinner, Christ died for me so my sinful state didn't keep Christ from doing what was in his heart to do. All I needed to do was receive what he came to give me and allow it to impact my life: God's grace.

Their is no condemnation in Christ. He doesn't point our our wrongs and hold it against us. He gives us the grace we need to face what is causing death in us and gives us a new way of thinking to create life in us. God's grace gives us the courage we need to make transitions in life that will benefit us and advance Gods kingdom through the context of our lives.

Listen as I share real life examples in how I have and currently am implementing God's grace in hopes of you being able to do this vital task for the sake of you growing into the person God created you to be.

Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life.

Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching

Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church.

YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA

Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4