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Only two letters separate the words victor and victim, yet vastly different outcomes result from living through one or the other. The language itself is intriguing. The basis of the word vict is Latin and means to conquer. The ending of the word…you get to choose. Victor or victim? One word ending means that you are the one doing the conquering. The other means you are the one who is conquered. How can two words so similar in origin, be so diametrically opposed in meaning?

How does it happen that we know which side of the conquering we want to be on, yet we are living completely opposite?

Are You Being Too Supportive? (Yes, There is Such a Thing)

Years ago, I had a dear friend who needed a lot of support for various reasons. She was working hard to find her way out of a dark period. She had suffered traumas and tragedies—things I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

Her life really did resemble a roller coaster ride. It was heartbreaking to watch her struggle, exciting when things would be on the upswing, and upsetting again when things would spiral downhill.

Because I had known her almost my whole life and because I loved her dearly, I tried my best to always be there when she needed me. I am someone who knows and appreciates how important it is to have supportive people around you, offering love and kindness, especially during times of struggle.

Sometimes being there for her simply meant picking up her call in the middle of the night and talking with her.

Sometimes it meant dropping what I was doing and driving to meet her to make sure she was okay.

There were talks, tears, and through that, hard truths were often revealed.

Of course, it wasn’t all dark and dreary. There were bright moments and memories too. There were movie marathons and game nights. There was laughter to the point of tears. Many a meal was shared and many a bowl of ice cream was devoured.

What I got in return wasn’t the same type of support. She was not the person I would turn to in a crisis, however minor or major. She just couldn’t handle it. But in turn, this friend showed me gratitude and genuine love.

What is the difference between actual and factual?

"Actual" is usually used in contradiction with what is believed. "He said he went to the store but he actually went to the party."

Right now we are struggling between the actual experiences of people in the versus the factual or perceived to be factual evidence of what's happening right now to many people all over the US. It's time to wake up!!!

Admit it. You have no clue whatsoever about the coronavirus. It’s the only logical conclusion I can come to after six-plus months of information, misinformation, intentional lies, and politics about this latest corona-type virus foisted upon the world by — yet AGAIN — China.

As a matter of fact, the last part of my opening statement is the only thing I’m 100 percent sure about. The rest of my thoughts are simply conjecture, looking back at history at other “outbreaks” and understanding the players in this muddled mess and how they choose to play it.

There will always be times in your life when you may need to learn how to reinvent yourself. This could come when you experience a big change, such as leaving your job, moving on from a relationship, transferring to a new home, or losing a loved one. If you are going through a major shift in your life, you may have to find new ways of thinking or doing things or risk failing to reach your full potential.

Many people who dared to leave their old unhappy lives enabled themselves to pursue their passions and find a renewed zest for living. You can also achieve the same if you take a leap of faith and make things happen for yourself.

Time to reinvent @toddsocial

According to the SBA, some manufacturing companies can have up to 1,500 employees and still be determined to be small businesses. In mining, large businesses are those that have 500 or more employees. ... The highest annual receipt size allowed for some small businesses in the service industry is $35.5 million.

But is this really Small Business? It seems like Big Business is yet again getting in the way of innovation and creation which is what small business does well.

If you want to change the way you do business or your outlook, connect with me anywhere @toddsocial

We all have doubts and many times we tend to look at everything in life with a negative attitude. I love when motivational speakers say “get the negative people away from you and you will succeed”. That statement is such nonsense, yes you want positive people and supportive people to help you use positive momentum to help you succeed, but you cannot avoid negativity. It's all around you all the time, just when you are feeling good someone has to try and knock you down. It can be your parents, your friends, a colleague, a co-worker, a sibling, an internet troll, or whoever.

But Negativity is nonsense.  Find out why.  limitless life @toddsocial

Throughout human history, our population has included a mix of different genetic skillsets for the overall survival of the tribe. In the modern era, these skills manifest from the COMT gene, with those who perform at their highest level with pressure, deadlines, and thrills, and those who thrive in low-pressure, quiet environments to work longer on complex issues.

For warriors, having deadlines and steady pressure may prove to be advantageous for their genotype to continually produce and perform at a high level. Monotonous tasks and low-pressure environments could even prove detrimental to warriors, preventing the individual’s gifts to shine.

This hypothesis was tested with pilots put through intense flight simulations. As expected, the warriors outperformed the worriers in each test. However, with more experience, the worriers started outperforming the warriors as the worrier’s stress response went down and their cognitive advantages began to show.

For worriers,  your thought process is useful in complex environments that require maximal performance in terms of memory and attention for survival. Monotonous tasks and low-pressure environments could even prove successful to worriers, elevating the individual’s gifts to shine.

The question is, which one are you?

While most of us make certain to recharge our cell phones each evening to ensure we have enough power to last an entire day, we neglect to give ourselves this same type of attention. Too often we’re running through our lives on empty, which eventually leads to mood swings, exhaustion, and overall agitation. As we continue at this high intensity, we lose touch with what we really need to bring back the balance and feel good again. And when we’re no longer attuned to our own well-being, it’s time to refuel that soul.

When I look at the word “success,” it becomes incredibly problematic. For some, the notion of success is a Trumpian world where the gleaming opulent lifestyle should somehow bleed inward, resulting in a magnificent internal world gilded by good looks.

If you're designing your day for the balance of work, love, peace, hope inspire and change, you will get closer to impact and influence.