Dame It All To Hell

We join the Dames today on your favorite podcast covering sexism as they enjoy wine in a can. Hold on to your britches because Kelly and Tracy get feisty with each other in this episode, and agree there are just some things they will disagree about until they’re dead.

Congresswoman Tlaib Curses
The Dames begin by talking about the statement Congresswoman Tlaib from Michigan made on Swearing-in Day that caused an uproar. She said, “We are going to impeach the motherfu@#$!.”  Kelly argues that it’s sexism - a double standard for women.  A man (Trump) has used the same language and gotten away with it. If you can’t beat him, might as well join him, right? Tracy thinks that Talib has tarnished all the achievements that came with her election to office. Get yourself some popcorn; the discussion gets heated and entertaining.

Courage to Run Back at It
Frieda Edgette joins the Dames to discuss Courage to Run, a nonpartisan 5k run/walk based in D.C., and its path for 2019. Courage to Run is growing and plans to use the political “off” year to build up support for women to live healthy and lead effectively. You can listen to the first time we spoke with Frieda here.

Elizabeth Warren and Likeability
Finally, The Button has Kelly and Tracy talking about Elizabeth Warren’s Presidential Run once again; it’s only been a week since she stepped into the presidential election and the lady shit has already hit the f#$% fan. What is the issue surrounding women candidates? If the issue isn’t likeability than is it just sexism and misogyny? Or is there more to it than that?

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Welcome to 2019! New Year, same shit. The Dames dive into a story about why women in power are called “difficult”. They discuss the double standard women in power face compared their male counterparts, and agree that women should turn the situation into a positive rather than dwelling on it. 

Ready or not, the Presidential campaign season has begun. Kelly thinks it’s epic that Elizabeth Warren is the first candidate to get her campaign rolling. Tracy may not be too fond of her, but she can’t deny the awesomeness of the first candidate being a fierce woman.

The Button is back! The Dames wish they had some wine to cheers to a peaceful protest that took place in India. Shortly, after New Years, millions of women joined together to form a chain to protest the sexism and oppression of women in their country. The Dames discuss whether the “Me Too” movement will become a global movement for women?

A Keira Knightly quote has Kelly and Tracy talking about the male anatomy. An interesting discussion ensues out of the idea that penises are convenient. It leads the Dames to pose some questions and attempt to answer them; Why is a name given to masculine girls? Why are women told what it is to be female? Is men’s sexuality more understood than women's?

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Join the Dames for their last episode of 2018! They are fully invested in the holiday season and ready to spread some holiday cheer.

Our Dames begin by discussing Stormy Daniels and Donald Trump. They speculate about whether a sitting president will go after a pornstar for money awarded to him in court. Kelly and Tracy mutually agree that at this point Donald Trump is practically bulletproof. Aaaannnnd...this is where all agreement in this episode ceases.

Harvey Weinstein’s newest move in the courts to get a sexual assault case dismissed kicks off the Dames’ disagreement. Tracy poses the question that if people f*@# up do we allow them to change and come back to function in society? Kelly is quick to suggest that their place in society should be limited to a host position at TGIF.

Things continue to get heated when they talk about the classic (misogynist?) holiday song, “Baby It’s Cold Outside.” What is the true meaning behind the song; is it about a girl just wanting to get laid or a man trying the rape her? For Tracy the answer is black and white, while for Kelly it is a very, very gray world we live in.

Tracy’s New Year’s Resolution is to care less and Kelly wants to hustle harder and love harder.  The Dames take next week off. See you next year!

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The Dames are feeling like Hollywood stars today! They’ve had full hair blowouts and have a shit-ton of make-up on for their video debut—all so the world can see a different side of them...but you’ll have to wait for that.

You know it is going to be a good show when Tracy starts by saying “this is going to be uncomfortable.”

The Dames are at odds over an article in Politico Magazine about what it’s like to be a female political consultant. Tracy argues against its anecdotal bias and “whiney” sound of the article, while Kelly’s stance is that it has to be anecdotal—it’s women’s stories, after all. Tracy gets sensitive (for a change) as the Dames discuss different aspects of the business that historically, has been primarily male-based. Is that fact based on sexism or a lack of women helping women? One thing our Dames agree on is the game needs to change!

Tying into the previous topic, Kelly introduces an article that Steph Curry wrote discussing how men and dads need to step up for women and join the fight for women’s equality. Kelly and Tracy discuss the gender roles in their households. They pose a strong question, how do we achieve diverse voices in this day and age?

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Our Dames are at it again, tasting (and chugging) some wine. Kelly could care less for Tracy’s foo-foo bottle of Cabernet and instead goes for a cheap Pinot Noir.

Tracy shares a story about dresses (in Brazil) that record groping, to expose the harassment women often face in nightclubs, which sparks a conversation about the “touch-and-grab” so many men try. The Dames hope they’ll try this project in Washington to see how different the results would be.

Next topic: Has “feminism” become a dirty word? Believe it or not, men who claim they suffer from sexism appear to have different views on this topic than Kelly and Tracy. Naturally, Kelly’s reaction to the conversation is more Pinot in her glass.

Wonderbra is in The Button! this week. Celebrating its 25th anniversary of giving women built-in boobs. Kelly tells Tracy about a game her husband and her play to guess whether people they see in public are Republicans or Democrats?

Tracy recalls the overachieving Melania Edwards as she relates a beautifully sarcastic response article that paints a much more realistic picture of the lives of working moms.

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It’s so cold in DC that Tracy almost wore a fur coat and there are toy polar bears climbing up a fake library wall in the studio building. Christmas has officially arrived in Washington.

Today the Dames are talking Bipartisan friendship. Is it something that can exist in this day and age, with the state of our politics? How can you make it work? Is it as simple as not being a douchebag?

Kelly springs a quiz on Tracy: Are they 33%, 66% or 99% close as best friends? The quiz also reveals a topic Tracy loves to talks about in explicit detail.

In The Button!, the Dames address answers to the question “Why do you need two laptops?”  Seemingly a simple question—until they reveal the asshattery behind it.

Tracy, never hesitating to make the conversation more interesting, reveals what she always makes her husband pack in his carry-on. We bet you’ll never guess.

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Women can do anything men can do, including trek across Antarctica. The Ice Maiden team, six women from the British army, did just that.

The Button! surfaced sexism by the Chicago Tribune regarding one of the five women running to be mayor of Chicago. The social media headline on a piece about Illinois Comptroller Susana Mendoza read, "If Boss Madigan and Rahm Emanuel conceived a daughter, she’d be Susana Mendoza." As Chicago Sun-Times columnist Laura Washington puts it, "To portray an accomplished, savvy woman with 20 years in politics as the Frankenstein monster love child of two men is as sexist as it gets."

This leads to a larger discussion: Even though times are changing, some men still credit women's successes to the men they've known and compare everything women do to how a man would do it. As evidence, Kelly shares the story about a progressive man who couldn't seem to speak of a colleague in anything but pronouns and asks the question, "Is a deeply internalized sexism bubbling to the surface now that overt sexism is shamed?"

Women can do anything men can do, but research shows women get far more stressed about doing anything, even when they don't have to. Luckily, there are ways for women to manage stress (besides booze and Xanax) that will improve relationships at work and at home.

Happy Thanksgiving from all of us to all of you! Thank you for listening. We have big plans for 2019, so stay tuned for more and tell your friends about Dame It All To Hell!

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Kelly is freezing this week in North Dakota while Tracy enjoys a beer (not wine? Gasp!). The Dames get along and agree when discussing Michelle Obama’s new memoir, Becoming, and they ask, “Did Michelle Obama’s fashion style pave the way for future first ladies?”

Tracy reveals that she once wore her daughter to a business conference when the Dames discuss a meteorologist who her weather report while babywearing. Babywearing for the working mama win!

In the segment now known as The Button! a Tokyo Medical University was found to be changing men and women applicants’ scores to make the admission of men higher, because women leave their jobs temporarily to birth children. How bad is the stigma surrounding woman having babies in the professional world?

Finally, Tracy and Kelly talk about what they plan to do if their husbands die before they do. As women, aging may be hard, but the Dames have a bulletproof plan to make the best of it.

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The Dames are suffering from post-election exhaustion but are really excited about the historic number of women elected to Congress, Governor, and other high-level positions all across the country. Congratulations women!

Everything isn't rosy, however, as a new report out of the UK shows that sexism in the workplace is worse than previously thought. Worse still, 28% of women considered women to be less qualified for leadership roles than men (along with 45% of men). Tracy and Kelly consider the implications of the report and what women can do to change it.

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This week the Dames jump right in and discuss a new survey about sex that shows Democrats and Republicans don't just disagree about politics, they have very different sexual fantasies. The results are not what they expected. Spoiler: Both Dems AND Repubs fantasize about sex with Bill Clinton. Waah?

Tracy treats Kelly nicely by bringing in the white wine...which isn't all that good...as they commiserate over a Chicago Cubs shirt Tracy bought her daughter that apparently offender classmates. Neither of the Dames understands that at all, especially the teacher's fail.

In this week's Google Sexism Button, a Forbes article on How To Use Sexism To Your Advantage. The conclusion: Lean The F*@k In!  Apparently, that doesn't work for women candidates, who report that they get told they don't have the right "body parts" to be elected. Still, the Dames agree that women running for office feels different now than it did in the past.

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