Dare To Listen, the podcast

Vasu Hancock joins the podcast again for another conversation on how our wounding impacts and distorts how we see the world and experience intimate (including sexual) relationships. Today's conversation pivots around the Mystified Child Wound, how we can move from the mystified to the mystical. Vasu outlines various mystified aspects -- hopeful, expectation, hopeless, mistrust, controlling; which are wound adaptations.

Vasu first joined Dare to Listen to share about the Abandonment Wound. Vasu and Nameh explore..

• the characteristics of communal versus individual focusing cultures
• how the shift to industrialization shifted us
• how our mystical self is our true nature
• how we can get lost in the suffering
• how the journey into our pain can bring us to wholeness
• how parents, when in their mystified adult self, unknowingly imprint their wounding to their children
• grieving what needs have not been met
• defining psychic space
• clarifying how we project parts of ourselves onto others

Vasu shares her love of working in groups; specifically when groups come together there's a building of support and intimate depth that offers another way to know ourselves. 

Show Resources: Vasu Hancock website David Richo's 5 A's via How to be an Adult in Relationships (see article)  John Welwood, the mood of grievance article Osho spiritual teacher Show audio: My Reflections by Adigold + Mind Voyage by AGsountrax 

Kristin Haluch is the Founder of Total Evolution Coaching, which she launched to support women-identified people to break through corporate politics & limiting beliefs to have successful and powerful careers. Kristin encourages us to consider that when we come to work we engage all of who we are. Kristin's a fierce mama bear with over 15 years of experience as a healthcare leader, with a passion for mentoring first time leaders. The conversation ranges from how to honor the trust that can come between leaders and their team, the importance of shifting from a scarcity to an abundance mindset, anchoring into the knowing that we have all that we need to be our best selves within us, and knowing our core values to help inform our choices.   resources: Kristin Haluch, Total Evolution Coaching  Total Evolution on Facebook Total Evolution on Instagram Path of Love   audio: Beautiful Earth by Clean Mind Sounds  

This episode has the groundedly, fierce Avery Kalapa (yoga practitioner, community weaver, and wellness organizer). This conversation was recorded days after Adam Toledo and Daunte Wright's murders and among harmful transphobic information & legislation continue to endanger those we love. Self-discernment (or viveka which is the Sanskrit for discernment) is a running theme as we talked about the dynamics of white supremacy, disrupting habits & systems of harm, sustaining action within activism, permission for our mystic selves to express our art.    Hear Avery explore how developing spiritual and/or movement practice(s) can support our discernment especially while navigating social locations. We talk about Resma Menakem's book, My Grandmother's Hands and Resma's discernment invitation relating the fight, flight, freeze and annihilate responses within our nervous systems, which could also be acting from our samskaras. Bonus, Dorothy (Nameh's neighbor donkey) makes her presence known during the conversation too.  ___ Avery is a community weaver, wellness organizer, and a Certified Iyengar Yoga Teacher, eRYT500, YACEP, BFA, with 20 years experience in yoga. Avery's approach is rooted in anti oppression: yoga for inner healing towards collective liberation. They love creating healing spaces that that don't require assimilation for queer & trans folks, outsiders and changmekers to often left out of mainstream yoga. Celebrated for their enthusiasm, accessibility, and depth of technique, their teaching reflects a deep gratitude for the Iyengar Lineage.     Avery is involved in various yoga equity projects, such as ABQ Queer Trans Community Yoga. They're also a gardener, and parent. Avery is a white, queer, nonbinary settler grateful to live on unceded Tiwa land, in Albuquerque NM.   Show Resources:  Avery's contacts -

• website
• newsletter
• instagram
• facebook 
• recent IGTV live hosted @susannabarkataki with Susanna Barkataki + many trans yoga enthusiasts

Honor Native Land Tax  Albuquerque SURJ  White Supremacy Culture by Tema Okun My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Menakem  White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo  Ursula Le Guin, author quoted Lilla Watson, visual artist quoted  Details of the 80+ Anti-Trans bills  Audio by AGSoundtrax, Don't Look Back

In this episode Nameh explores how honest can we be in our conversations. Exploring: what stops you from being honest? do you (and your relationships) have the foundational skills needed for tough convos? do you find you're lonely in your relationship(s)?  A dynamic that can appear in our relationships is what Nameh's calling the 'Helper Continuum'. Within the continuum there's the 'fixer', the 'helper', the 'cheerleader', and the 'space holder'. At the heart of the various help continuum roles is the loving want to be a supportive presence. Supporting another with the various helper continuum energies has beautiful gifts, especially when consent is established.   The upcoming online course, Speaking Your Truth (begins March 28th), offers clarity + communication tools to build solid foundations within our relationships. We'll look at the language we use, watching for verbal bullets that can feel sharp or like a slap. These bullets might actually be our unconscious way of wanting to name a boundary or talk about need.    Resources:  Speaking Your Truth online course - sign up by March 25th!  Audio - Ambient Warmth by PhilLarson.net

Speaking Your Truth is the next online course, which begins March 28th.  Join Nameh and others as we dive in to gain more clarity as we speak what's true. Explore and practice speaking your truth while staying in your heart and grounded in your integrity. We'll use the 4 N's blue print (Notice. Name. Navigate. Nourish).

Relationships are a prime space for self-learning and inner growth. Each person we engage with can be fertile educational ground.  

The following questions point to what we'll explore in this 4-part online course.

• Do you want more authenticity in your relationships?
• Do you want to deepen your skills of naming + clearing when there are bumps along the way? 
• Do you want to understand why you feel lonely within relationships? 
• Do you want to expand your decision making abilities? 
• Do you want to better understand how you use your power? 
• Do you want to understand why asking, receiving or giving help can be hard? 

Hear full logistics (March 28, April 11, April 25 and May 9th. 10a-1230p mdt) in this episode and via this link (https://bit.ly/3bR9qZQ).

Resources:  Speaking Your Truth online course details - https://www.namehmarsin.com/speaktruth

Audio: Romantic Guitar by Cinematic Alex

Our relationship with food and to our bodies can be a layered topic. For some navigating this relationship can lead to many ups and downs on and off the scale.  Today's conversation with Shayla Nygaard explores Bright Line Eating, an eating plan both she and Nameh have found great 'success' with. Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson designed Bright Line Eating and offers deeply personal, intellectually satisfying and a comprehensive plan to shift our relationship with food. 

This conversation touches on food addiction, unpacked elements behind why one might over eat and the felt difference when one's food relationship is more balanced.

The movie, To the Bone (2017) addresses individuals navigating eating disorders. Nameh found the movie deeply raw, intense and clarifying.  

Resources: Bright Line Eating (eating plan) - https://brightlineeating.com/ Path of Love (spiritual retreat) - https://pathretreats.com/ The Gift (spiritual retreat) - http://shematrix.com/the-gift/ To the Bone (movie) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5541240/

Audio: Inspiring Acoustic Guitar by Victory Audio Pitter Patter Goes the Rain by Christy Nockels - https://bit.ly/2Kskbbg

Nameh offers a glimpse into the upcoming 4-part online workshop series, Unpacking Our Thoughts. Hear what participants will experience and logistics for the series. Meeting dates are Jan 24, Feb 7, Feb 21 and March 7, 2021 - US/mdt 10a-12p plus in between session offerings. Answering questions such as, do you want more clarity? Do you want to explore and understand why situations bring the thoughts they do? 

The workshop series uses the 4 N's, Noticing, Naming, Nourishing, and Navigating to support our expanded clarity which can lead to making different choices. 

Registration is live -- https://bit.ly/2JEMdjp Full details -- http://affirminghumanity.com/ Audio -- Ambient Background by StudioKomomna

Nameh returns to an earlier Dare to Listen episode focusing on giving ourselves a Good Ending among life's changes. Given all that's been within 2020, life has drastically changed for so many of us. 

As we each experience life and the often unanswered questions, perhaps in saying goodbye to a loved one who passed and/or left abruptly, a relationship change or a pandemic causing our lives to upend moving into what we notice and feel can be a way to bring ourselves a 'good ending.'

This episode is with Nameh's dear friend Sahar. Nameh was unaware of the potent death of Sahar's childhood friend. Sahar vulnerably shares what was present for him. How numbing was a resource in navigating grief. 

The 5Rhythms community introduced Nameh to the concept 'good ending,' as in how can we give ourselves a good ending. This episode includes questions that might assist in knowing what elements could support a Good Ending. Resources:  Chloe Goodwin - 5Rhythms teacher (https://bit.ly/3pf1yGu) Finding our Answers through the Body with Chloe Goodwin - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/2WJPW28) Family Constellations, part 1 - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/3roZkWN) Family Constellations, part 2 - Dare to Listen episode (https://apple.co/3aCzoRH)

Nameh's upcoming workshop series - namehmarsin.com (join mailing list to see how to register) Songs:  Upsana - by Mose & Sam Garrett (https://bit.ly/2KsJeuS) inspiring Ukulele - by URMENLC

Land acknowledgements can be a way to speak the names and honor the known and unknown Being's experiences connected to a living place. Áine McCarthy, a non-profit founder, chaplin, and yoga instructor offers a Touching the Earth land acknowledgement practice that weaves in a Thich Nhat Hanh Buddhist teaching.   The conversation centers around the layers of information we each can access to better understand and heal known and unknown traumas. Teachers such as Thich Nhat Hanh, Dr. Vandana Shiva, Sobonfu Somé, Harriet Tubman, and John O'Donohue are among those named and referred to in this conversation.   Other topics such as past lives, family constellations, blood lineage, anti-racism, cultural appropriations, and the impacts of colonialism are among the threads woven within this conversation.    Resources: Chrysalis - Chrysalis instagram Áine McCarthy's yoga offerings Embodying Anti-Racism workshop The Five Earth Touchings from Thich Nhat Hanh Practices of the Zen Peacemakers Women Ancestors Document Church of Harriet Tubman Spring Washam visionary dream grew into the Church of Harriet 2020 Regenerate Conference keynote Dr. Vandana Shiva  Joanna Macy Dialogue with Dr. Vandana Shiva & Joanna Macy via Naropa University  Sobonfu Somé John Odonohue   Richard Rohr Grief and Gratitude with Rae Wynn-Grant - audio or written Audio:  theme song by Electronica by ENRIZE between segments - My Reflections by AGsoundtrax ending song - Beautiful Earth by ClearMindSounds  

This conversation explores bridging one's lived experience among many binary realities. Léon began bridging binary worlds growing up in Oaxaca, Mexico and visiting their white father in Texas. Léon now lives in Albuquerque, New Mexico which is where Léon transitioned and came to embrace their non-binary gender-self, Léon.    Léon shares their contemplative perspective around conflicts such as "land ownership," money and value, emotional labor and abundance. Léon shares such depth of wisdom on their process of moving with shame, humility, languages, race, fear, spiritual life, capitalism, vulnerability, gender, physical reality, and powerlessness to step into their true self. Léon embodies how consciousness grows through expanding one's consciousness. Léon names how as humans we have individually and collectively created our experiences.   Perhaps in engaging in this conversation listeners will find empowering threads to shift and move with your lived experiences. Invitation: are you able to make a donation to say an organization that supports the transgender community?    Resources:  Léon Mitchell Powell Brené Brown - Fitting in vs Belonging  Unlocking Us, Ask me Anything Episode    Kimberlé Crenshaw - originally defined Intersectionality    Podcast episode 'Roots of Healing' which explores psychedelic therapies and explores another perspective on identities. How we can get caught in our stories of who we are.    Want to share your financial abundance, consider contributing to Transgender Resource Center of New Mexico.   Music:  Happy Family by Yuarmusic