It’s human nature to crave attention, it can be the validation that soothes, distracts, stimulates, creates pleasure or reduces pain. Attention seeking can be a wide range of behaviours and understanding when yourself or others are seeking attention can empower you to see the cycle, know the root cause and gain clarity.

Today’s guests, Melissa & Iain Roberts, join us to share about their own relationship from long distance to newlywed, the gum ball love framework and how attention seeking has impacted their lives and relationships.

We chat

• Critically looking at yourself and unpacking your behaviours
• The 8 flavours of attention
• Avoiding attention seeking behaviours in a relationship. 

8 flavours of attention- Attention Seeking (validation seeking) v’s Connection Seeking1. Red - Arouse me (turn me on)2. Orange - Fight me (drama)3. Yellow - Entertain me (never happy - complainer)4. Green - Compete for me (envy - there is always someone else in the picture)5. Blue - Pity me (Feel sorry for me, always want a problem not a solution, people pleasers fall for Pity me)6. Purple - Idolise me (centre of attention, talks to everyone else at the party)7. Pink - Chase me (reaches out, doesn’t make plans)8. White - Convince me (Superiority, “all women are XYZ - make me think otherwise")

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them.

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Melissa and Iain Roberts

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/melissajaneroberts/ Website - www.GumballLove.comFacebook - www.facebook.com/coachMelissaLeger

If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far, go with others.

Sammi & Nathan Jaeger are the hosts of Date Forever. They’ve been together for over 15 years, are still in their thirties  and in this episode they share what they’ve learned about keeping their relationships with family, friends and their wider network fuelled up. 

We chat

• Creating and maintaining healthy relationships with friends and family
• Setting boundaries for how we allow third parties to influence our relationship
• Nurturing a strong support network of friends, family and peers to call on in times of celebration or need

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Every relationship has a set of rules, principles and boundaries. Things you agree are okay to do or say and things that aren’t okay to do or say. Sometimes these expectations arise organically, other times they are a result of conscious conversations where both people express explicit wants, needs and boundaries. These are the types of conversations that today's guest has been having in her marriage for over 30 years building an incredible foundation of trust.

Susan Dean was always destined to help others flourish. Beginning her career as a youth worker, Susan became a qualified business, relationship and life coach in 2003 and has always listened to peoples’ stories, using her tremendous empathy to empower others toward success. This has become her signature trait. Now owning and operating a publishing house Susan lives her dream every day and teaches others how sharing your story can grow your brand and business and leave a legacy.

We chat

• Having absolute trust in your partner and relationship
• Balancing feminine and masculine energies in your relationship
• Maintaining individual lives and avoiding co-dependency. 

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them.

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Susan Dean

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/deanpublishing/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/susandeanofficial/ Website - http://www.deanpublishing.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachsusandean/ Books mentioned

Free Interactive Book: Love & Coaching - Understanding Men and Women in Life, Love & Business - John Gray

Conflict within your romantic relationship is inevitable, and often a lack of conflict could be a symptom of hiding or sheltering issues that are simmering away. Conflict doesn’t need to be something we avoid, as it is actually a great opportunity to question our own beliefs and behaviours, where we can learn a lot about ourselves and our partner, and grow together through the conflict. 

Jaime Morgan is a certified life coach and a Gottman Method-trained relationship coach. Combining her academic & past personal experiences of her struggles with a failed marriage, Jaime has a huge passion for helping unfulfilled & divorced women and couples to thrive in their lives & relationships again through action-oriented coaching! Jaime is now married to the love of her life, and she lives in Canada – B.C., with her husband and two sons.

We chat

• How conflict in a relationship can pull you closer together
• The 3-C Relationship Strategy - Conflict, Communication, Connection
• The idea of a perfect relationship, is it real?

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them.

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective -https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Jaime Morgan

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thejaimemorgan/ Website - https://jaimemorgan.comFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheJaimeMorgan

Every day we face life changing moments. Sometimes we lean into brave and scary decisions and other times we turn away. These moments happen in our lives but also in our relationships, including the relationship with ourselves. Throughout life we all experience hardships and traumas that we need to heal from and often exploring those wounds takes courage.

Nadine is a Champion Fighter, Author, Courage Creator, Resilience Revolutionary, Cancer Survivor, Martial Artist, Mindset Coach & Sausage Dog Lover. She is best known for her speech & book 10 Seconds of Courage.

We chat

• Rediscovering yourself post cancer
• What this idea of “10 seconds of courage” is
• How do we build or create more courage 
• Embracing gratitude for the small and big things in life

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Nadine Champion

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nadinechampion_/ Website - www.nadinechampion.com

Love is the best thing we do.Sammi & Nathan Jaeger are the hosts of Date Forever. They’ve been together for over 15 years, are still in their thirties  and in this episode they share what they’ve learned about keeping their romantic relationship fuelled up.

We chat

• 2x2x2 date nights
• The 5 Love Languages
• Layering romantic rituals
• Using core values to guide decision making

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/fuel_collective Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fueled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

If we aren’t intentional about our relationship or life, we end up running on auto-pilot for months, sometimes even years. Without consciously designing our goals we end up out of touch from what we really want, unhappy, burnt out and exhausted. In this episode Sharon & Adam share the practices they’ve discovered over their almost 30 year relationship to create a relationship and life they are madly in love with.

Sharon Joy, a business and mindset coach and Adam Galway, a head chef, are committed to putting their relationship first. Along with their 3 children, they’ve been on some crazy adventures while completing their 50 by 50 goals list.

We chat

• Creating an intentional life by design
• How to understand and harness masculine and feminine energies
• Setting and achieving goals as individuals and as a couple
• Prioritising your relationship, even after children

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/fuel_collective Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Sharon Joy and Adam Galway

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharonjoycoaching/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/adamgalway/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/galwaysgoround/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/woopibrewingco/ Website - https://www.sharonjoycoaching.com/ Website - https://woopibrewingco.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sharonjoycoaching

Our favourite kind of relationship fuel is…… you guessed it….. Dates! We adore everything about carving out quality time to spend on your own or with your person doing something fun, enjoyable, meaningful or unique. And today’s show is all about how detrimental it can be if you stop dating your person and how you can make the whole “What should we do, where should we go?” planning part of going on a date, so much easier.

Matt and Lenise Richardson are the couple behind the newest relationship app, Shake N Date; an app that takes the ‘thinking’ out of date night planning. After going through a rough patch when they were engaged, Lenise created physical ‘date jars’ to show Matt that she was willing to put the effort into their relationship and spend more quality time together. This helped their relationship and Matt had the idea that he had to share it with everyone. This is when the idea of turning these ‘date jars’ into an interactive app.

In this episode Matt shares their story and how they discovered a better way to date.

We chat

• The struggles of a one sided relationship
• How keeping your dates fresh and exciting fuels your relationship
• How the Shake N Date app takes the fuss out of organising date nights.

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them.

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Matt Richardson and Shake N Date

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shakendate/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/coachricho/ Website - https://shakendate.com/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/shakendate

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

Sammi & Nathan first started dating in 2007 and are now in their early thirties and this year will celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary. They are passionate about how the quality of our relationships impacts the quality of our lives. They hope that by sharing relationship ideas, tools and resources, everyone can create an even better relationship.

We chat 

• The 8 Fuel Tanks to a Fuelled Up Life & Relationship
• How Sammi & Nath take care of their own “self” tanks
• What “self” Fuel looks like
• How to check the gauge on your own tanks

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuelled.up.life/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

We all think in stories, and we try to make sense of the world, share information and build relationships by telling stories. Our ability to communicate those stories with ourselves, our person, friends, family and peers drastically impacts the quality of those relationships. When we shape our perspective and storytelling, we ultimately shape our lives.

Troy & Zara are authors, speakers, transformational communication and performance coaches and multi-award-winning entertainers.

They have appeared in front of a collective audience of over 10 million with more than 10,000 live, radio and screen appearances. Sir Richard Branson once described them as “The Rockstars of conferencing” and their work has seen them getting up close and personal with big names including Chris Rock, Destiny’s Child, Heath Ledger and Toby Maguire.

They have the ability to engage and inspire any audience every time and are on a mission to create happier people, happier customers and a happier world.

We chat 

• The role of fun, play and laughter in a relationship
• How the stories we tell ourselves impact our lives
• Managing the give and take of energy in human interactions

Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them

Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger 

Website - https://www.fuelcollective.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/thefuelcollective Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/ Instagram - Date Forever - https://www.instagram.com/dateforever/ Instagram - Fuel Collective - https://www.instagram.com/fuel.collective/ Instagram - Nath - https://www.instagram.com/nathjaeger/ Instagram - Sammi - https://www.instagram.com/sammisomewhere/

Connect with Troy and Zara

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Gr8Talk/ Website - https://www.greattalk.com.au/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Gr8Talk Twitter - https://twitter.com/Gr8Talk

Resources mentioned

Zara’s TEDxMelbourne talk on “The Epidemic of Over-Seriousness”

Zara’s TEDxDocklands talk on “The Lighter Side of Death” 

What is a Nuff? - whatisanuff.com