Understanding the difference between chemistry and compatibility can help us understand that just because it feels good, doesn’t mean it will be good. We confuse chemistry with compatibility, intensity with intimacy and attention with intention, without every talking about the foundations of what compatibility actually means.  Louise & therapist Dr. Tari Mack cover some game changing advice:
The concepts of chemistry vs. compatibility
Why love isn’t enough
6 signs of toxic chemistry (trauma bonding, breadcrumbing, toxic chemistry, rollercoaster dating, inconsistency, the anxious-avoidant cycle)
Why you can’t sustain a relationship on just chemistry
What compatibility is
The 12 signs of chemistry that you need to establish to really see if you are a good match. 
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This episode is for when you're obsessed. We're talking like really, really obsessed. You know, thinking about them 24x7, imagining you see them everywhere you go - hoping for a chance encounter? Basically, mad fantasy bonding. And this episode? It's to help you understand that you're not alone and you’re not going crazy- you're actually probably experiencing something called limerence.  Limerence is an intense, all-consuming longing for someone, even if they don't feel the same way or you barely know them. And guess what? It's deeply biological. That's the part no one talks about.Today, in one of our most requested episodes, Louise chats with Biology of Trauma and Nervous System Expert Sarah Murphy as the pair gets into:
The cocktail of hormones fueling our obsessive thoughts and tendencies.
What’s happening in our bodies when we fantasize about that special someone.
Why we feel lovesick and chase chemistry?
The link between low self esteem and fantasy bonding.
The root cause of a dysregulated nervous system. 
Why life feels boring without a chaotic relationship.
Louise’s daily routine for a regulated nervous system. 
The magic of somatic healing practices.
They also tell you HOW to navigate and alleviate this state and how to help your biology from obsessing over that one person you just can't stop thinking about.  
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160 - DATING - When you're really really obsessed with them: Exploring Limerence

This TikTok trend is blowing UP. Have you heard about it? The concept that ‘you always meet them twice?’ It’s not wildly different to the ‘invisible string theory’. This week, jump into a solo episode with Louise where she shares her personal stories of serendipitous second time encounters and how everything in life is either a lesson or a blessing. From romantic relationships to chance meetings with friends, Louise jams on the importance of exploring how these seemingly coincidental moments are often orchestrated by a higher power to guide us towards growth and self-discovery. She also jumps into:
How she met her current partner and her ex
How both were connected to the ‘you always meet them twice’ theory
The concept of divine timing
How everything in life is always a lesson or a blessing
How every relationship is going to teach you something 
And one day, how things will make total sense about why those things happened at the time they did
Cute meet stories? Message me on IG, I wanna hear them and share them (anonymously) with the community! ----- Ready to learn how to level up your life via your nervous system and subconscious mind in just 9 weeks? ⭐Join the There She Glows Waitlist⭐: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/how-to-rewire-your-subconscious-mind  
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159 - DATING - “You Always Meet Them Twice” (The Invisible String Theory)

The perpetual bachelor. We’ve all known one. Probably all dated one too. Probably been heart broken by one as well. You know what we’re talking about: the hyper-charismatic, sells you a dream, gets you excited for the future then never pulls through kinda guy or gal. Maybe everything is perfect at the beginning but as time goes on you see they don’t turn up to plans on time, they don’t lead and they end up being well… just disappointing. Constantly scrolling on their phone, not making plans, always on the sofa, always drunk or always hungover.  Today, join Louise and Stephanie Therapy as they jump into uncovering all things Peter Pan Syndrome and how some men might grow up, but might never really want to accept responsibility for their life.  The pair jump into?
The concept of commitment 
The deep seated fears and insecurities that often drive men away from being ‘the one’ for you
How societal expectations and gender norms further contribute to the reluctance of some men to embrace long-term relationships
The concept of Peter Pan Syndrome
How to work out if you are being his ‘Wendy’?
And how to work out if it’s the avoidant attachment style or Peter Pan Syndrome.
Louise and Stephanie Therapy share actionable tips and strategies for understanding and navigating relationships with commitment-phobic men and also help you understand why YOU might be interested and engaging in these types of relationships. ----- Ready to learn how to level up your life via your nervous system and subconscious mind in just 9 weeks? ⭐Join the There She Glows Waitlist⭐: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/how-to-rewire-your-subconscious-mind  
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158 - DATING - Peter Pan Syndrome - why won't they grow up & take the lead? ft. Stephanie Therapy

Celibacy gets a bad rap, are we right? This week, Louise jumps into the Bumble controversy to reverse ANY sort of shame you might be feeling about your own dating and celibacy decisions after that tone deaf ad. Because, you know what, sometimes a man ban is actually the PERFECT answer. And us women? We’ve had enough of being told what to do for as long as we can remember. And if you don’t wanna date, hook up, sleep with anyone? You do you honey boo! Don’t let a billboard shame you.  After a hot take intro where you get Louise all to yourself, Louise revives a past episode with Jordan Jeppe, shadow work guide and celibacy expert. Join Louise & Jordan for a real-talk girl episode as they:
Share their personal journeys with celibacy- one intentional, the other with a side of naughtiness. 
Debunk common misconceptions about celibacy (yes, you can still date!).
Explore how our shadow influences dating patterns.
Discuss the game-changing impact of setting boundaries and intentions in the dating stage.
Give us all the juicy details on navigating celibacy even while dating.
Unpack the concept of a 'sexual pause'. 

The pair’s raw, honest conversation will demystify the assumptions around celibacy and help you see it as a path to self-discovery, empowerment, and the best sex of your life! ----- Ready to learn how to level up your life via your nervous system and subconscious mind in just 9 weeks? ⭐Join the There She Glows Waitlist⭐: https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/how-to-rewire-your-subconscious-mind  
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157 - DATING - Sometimes a man ban actually *is* the answer, Bumble

Crying over Biebs? You’re not alone. There Louise was. Standing in a cute little organic supermarket when it happened. Justin and Hailey Bieber announced that they were having a BABY! Her reaction? Silence and a weird smidge of… something? Had that feeling too? You’re not alone. That’s the story of how this episode was born. Pun intended! From dreaming of running into your favorite star on the street to feeling personally offended when they're criticized, the allure of celebrity culture can be downright intoxicating. But why do we feel this intense connection to people we've never even met? And how does it affect us on a deeper level? AND HOW CAN WE REALLY BE UPSET WHEN SOMEONE WE HAVE NEVER MET ANNOUNCES THEY ARE HAVING A BABY WITH A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOU? In today’s episode, Louise sits down to investigate the psychological and emotional aspects of celebrity worship and parasocial relationships. In this episode, Louise dives into:
The slightly odd but hilarious reactions she and her friends had to the Beiber pregnancy announcement.
The psychology behind celebrity worship and the three levels of parasocial relationships.
Why the Selena v. Hailey/ Damon v. Stefan debates get us in a chokehold.
Why criticism of our favorite fandoms and idols evokes visceral reactions (looking at you, Swifties).
The delulu belief that we can "fix" or help celebrities like Justin Bieber.
Maladaptive daydreaming and escapism associated with celebrity fascination.
Themes of the sheer relentlessness of life, self-worth, and attachment styles.

 And more! 
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 Join OPENHOUSE PREMIUM now at: https://openhouse.supercast.com/ Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball Follow Louise (The Therapy Girl) on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__ Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast 
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