Dating Intelligence the Podcast

Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola dig into what actually happens in the moments that break relationships: when you're being gaslit, when a trigger hijacks you, and when a conflict starts spiraling. They cover how to recognize gaslighting while it's happening rather than three days later, why trying to fix a trigger in the heat of the moment never works, and how unhealed wounds and limiting beliefs make you an easy target. Christopher breaks down his ACDC framework (Assertive, Confident, Direct, Controlled) for staying calm and in control during conflict. Natalie shares grounding techniques, healing modalities, and what to do when your partner emotionally checks out. They also get into complacency in long-term relationships, honest check-ins, emotional availability in modern dating, and Christopher's upcoming trip to India to work with monks and the Dalai Lama.

Keywords

emotional healing, communication, gaslighting, triggers, empathy, self-awareness, relationships, mental health, healing modalities, mindfulness relationships, conflict resolution, dating tips, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, communication, relationship advice, dating strategies, mental models, personal growth

Key Topics

Gaslighting detection and response

Managing emotional triggers and triggers awareness

Healing wounds and limiting beliefs

The role of empathy in relationships

Mindfulness and grounding techniques for emotional regulation

Healing modalities including binaural beats and trauma therapy

The importance of self-awareness and self-care

Language and communication during conflicts The ACDC framework for conflict management

Recognizing and addressing red flags in dating

The impact of complacency in long-term relationships

Healing emotional wounds for healthier connections

Effective communication and asking the right questions

Understanding dissociation and emotional responses

The importance of self-care and recharging in relationships

Strategies for honest check-ins and setting boundaries

Takeaways

Stop trying to fix triggers in the heat of the moment; do the work beforehand.

Healing wounds and limiting beliefs is essential to prevent gaslighting from affecting you.

Use language that expresses feelings rather than blame to de-escalate conflicts.

Recognize physical signs of emotional escalation, like increased heart rate, to pause and breathe.

Empathy starts with self-care and self-awareness, which then extends to others. Stay calm and in control during conflicts by using the ACDC model.

Ask direct questions about phone distractions to clarify intentions.

Recognize signs of emotional dissociation and respond with compassion.

Prioritize self-care to improve relationship dynamics.

Use curiosity and kindness to navigate misunderstandings.

Sound Bites

"Stay calm and stay in control."

"Heal your emotional wounds first."

"Check in with your partner regularly."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the episode and setting the scene

03:01 The ACDC conflict management model explained

05:57 The upcoming trip to India and working with monks and the Dalai Lama

10:01 Understanding the concept of being in prison in your mind

11:59 The role of complacency in long-term relationships

14:01 Grounding techniques and mindfulness practices for anxiety

15:57 The importance of starting small and building habits

16:47 Healing emotional wounds for better connection

18:00 Sharing personal stories and the value of authenticity

20:00 Answering listener questions about gaslighting and triggers

22:11 Strategies to recognize gaslighting while it happens

22:12 Effective communication: asking questions and setting boundaries

24:03 Language and communication tips for de-escalating conflicts

26:02 The significance of self-work and healing wounds

27:08 Understanding dissociation and emotional responses

28:01 Closing thoughts and encouragement for listeners

31:55 Self-care and recharging in relationships

37:00 The importance of honesty and check-ins

42:05 Navigating modern dating and emotional availability

47:06 Practical tips for relationship growth and connection

Hashtags:

#DatingIntelligence #Gaslighting #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #ACDCFramework

Host links

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

What if jealousy isn't a red flag, but information? Christopher and Natalie sit down with Ally Iseman, ICF-Certified Relationship Coach, founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, and forthcoming author of For the Love of Jealousy, to break down one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating and relationships. They get into what jealousy is actually telling you, why most people were never taught to handle it, and how Ally helps executives, individuals, and couples design relationships that fit the lives they're living, not the ones they inherited. If you've ever confused insecurity with intuition, this one reframes everything.

Learn more about Ally: passport2pleasure.com

Sponsor:

Vinted: https://www.vinted.com/?srsltid=AU7gw4WbxiU-wHdKIbRkdEhiOMDZA_Tez40gm6--JDXZ03BSFD6Av3_c

BeWell Malibu:

https://bewellmalibu.com

Guest:

Ally Iseman:

Instagram: @allyiseman

@passport2pleasure

Host links:

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Christopher Louis and Natalie Stavola cover a wide-ranging, highly personal conversation about travel, family transitions, event hosting, and the relationship work that sits underneath it all. They also share practical dating advice, including why the right venue and the right framing can lower pressure and help people connect more naturally.This episode is part life update, part relationship coaching, and part behind-the-scenes look at how both hosts are building community through events and audience engagement.

Today's sponsor shout out goes to OtterSpirit.com and get your discounts using promo codes:

Code Christopher20 — 20% off any order

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And to Ike's Sandwich shout out go to Ikessandwich.com for more info.

Timestamps

00:00 - Opening banter and accent jokes

02:19 - Christopher's Otter Spirit crystal shoutout

04:31 - Natalie's Ike's Love and Sandwiches event shoutout

06:36 - Favorite sandwiches and what makes a great sub

08:19 - Discovering a caprese sandwich in Monte Carlo

10:08 - Dairy, lactose intolerance, and bread preferences

11:29 - Gluten-free, vegan labels, and food identity

12:11 - Natalie on stomach healing, sobriety, and dietary changes

14:53 - Dating while sober and gluten-free

15:49 - Why sushi is the safest first-date answer

17:16 - Christopher's college drop-off story begins

18:42 - The emotional airport goodbye and unexpected breakdown

20:30 - Transition into event hosting and travel updates

20:49 - Natalie on the first event, car accident recovery, and keeping going

22:34 - Co-host Alyssa's illness and still showing up

23:23 - Reframing a singles event into a social mixer

24:16 - Why "social mixer" feels lighter than "singles event"

25:17 - Sponsors, event atmosphere, and why the night worked

26:26 - Entertainment, hosting, and future F1-style events

27:08 - Daytime versus nighttime event timing in LA

28:41 - Venue geography, traffic, and why location matters

30:35 - Best start times for events and nights out

31:15 - Why some people need private downtime before going out

32:13 - Social overload, hair, makeup, and pacing energy

34:34 - How small resets restore energy at conferences

35:39 - Practical ways to stay fresh during long days

36:11 - Christopher's conference survival strategy

37:15 - Centering, grounding, and taking private pauses

38:31 - "I need three hours" and getting ready mindset

39:16 - Christopher shares he moved back into the house full time

40:39 - Rebuilding home life after three years apart

41:40 - Why healthy relationships mirror growth and insecurity

42:18 - Communication, boundaries, and shared space

43:43 - Trauma patterns, hypervigilance, and moving forward

44:12 - Men changing, accountability, and relationship repair

45:18 - Repeating patterns in career and relationships

47:38 - Procrastination as fear and subconscious protection

48:41 - Natalie's inner-child visualization work

50:30 - Why the subconscious can shut things down for safety

51:37 - Shame, self-protection, and being misread

52:11 - Why Natalie no longer tolerates draining people

53:34 - Boundaries, self-worth, and speaking from truth

54:54 - Feminine energy, silence, and why voicing yourself matters

55:59 - A friendship rupture and overcompensation

57:37 - Accountability versus dumping old pain onto new people

58:31 - How old wounds get projected onto safe people

59:24 - Whether a friendship can be repaired

61:13 - Natalie's framework for "my part, not my fault"

62:37 - How helping others can keep you from shining

63:43 - Christopher on self-reflection and course correction

64:04 - Hoping a friendship can still be repaired

65:22 - Why beliefs and triggers can become relationship dealbreakers

66:33 - Knowing people well enough to anticipate their patterns

67:16 - Political differences and dating compatibility

68:52 - Accidental dehumanization and fear-based reactions

69:57 - Natalie on trauma, sobriety, and hiding her body

71:14 - Becoming reactive after abuse and course correcting

72:31 - "Bunny with Knives" and old survival modes

73:27 - America, safety, and broader social fear

74:16 - Closing thoughts on peace and conflict

75:06 - Listener questions, audience involvement, and a new segment

76:49 - Bringing a listener on as a guest through a contest

77:48 - Where to find Natalie

78:10 - Where to find Christopher and datingmentality.com

78:46 - Goals for the show and future live content

Sponsor Links:

OtterSpirit:

Instagram: @otterspirit

TikTok: @otter_spirit

Ike's:

Instagram: @ikessandwich

Web: Ikessandwich.com

Host links:

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

DJ, model, actress, and entrepreneur Colleen Shannon has spent two decades building a career most people would call impossible to categorize — and she's not apologizing for it. Christopher and Natalie dig into what it takes to reinvent yourself in public, from playing to crowds of ten to headlining for thousands, and why Colleen sat on dozens of unreleased tracks before dropping her new single, Dance for Life — which just cracked the Apple Music Top 20.

Colleen opens up about the manifestation practices that shaped her career long before the accolades showed up, and how motherhood changed her pace. Natalie brings her own story of visibility and nervous system regulation into the mix. If you've ever felt like being good at more than one thing worked against you, this episode makes the case that your range is your edge.

Also in this episode: her shoot with Bruce Weber, her upcoming Beverly Hills event, her Goddess Noir release, and why she plants seeds instead of forcing outcomes.

Key topics:

- Colleen shares how her career spans DJing, modeling, acting, singing, and entrepreneurship, with more than 600 live shows worldwide.

- Her new track, Dance for Life, reaches number 20 on the Apple Music charts and marks a new phase in her music career.

- She explains why she held onto dozens of unreleased tracks while touring internationally and how stepping back created space to finally release music.

- The conversation explores the idea that being a multi-hyphenate is not a weakness, but a strength built through experience, range, and repetition.

- Colleen talks about building confidence in larger crowds, from early sets for 10 people to eventually performing for thousands.

- She describes her move from super clubs to festivals and names Tomorrowland, EDC, and Coachella as dream stages.

- Manifestation comes up repeatedly, including journaling, intention-setting, candles, oils, and visualizing specific outcomes.

- Colleen recalls shooting with Bruce Weber and how energy, preparation, and belief helped her stand out among taller models.

- Natalie shares her own story of visibility trauma, sobriety, and learning to regulate before stepping into bigger rooms and bigger opportunities.

- The discussion closes on collaboration, alignment, and the importance of working with people who are ready to grow.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Opening banter and life updates

03:32 - Introducing Colleen Shannon and her wide-ranging career

05:22 - Why now was the right time to release original music

06:52 - Why being multi-talented is a strength, not a flaw

08:01 - Touring the world before ever releasing a track

09:37 - From tiny rooms to massive crowds

11:22 - Festival visuals, graphics, and the future of live shows

12:16 - Dream festivals and the universal language of music

13:15 - Hearing her own track live for the first time

14:01 - Colleen's children's book and apparel line

15:02 - Why motherhood changed her pace and priorities

15:26 - Meditation, regulation, and handling visibility

17:12 - Moving to Los Angeles with turntables and big intentions

19:11 - Acting, voiceover work, and future film plans

20:13 - Natalie's acting background and healing journey

23:27 - Letting creativity come back after burnout

25:52 - Colleen's long engagement and reconnection with her partner

28:13 - Her partner's low-key life outside entertainment

29:14 - Arizona, Sedona, and life after LA

32:30 - Psycho Cybernetics, journaling, candles, and intention work

36:04 - The role of energy in modeling and creative success

37:37 - Planting seeds instead of forcing outcomes

40:47 - What to do when resistance shows up

42:25 - How Natalie's event fell apart before coming together

44:03 - Connection, collaboration, and alchemy

46:48 - Natalie's manifestation coaching and frequency work

50:04 - Frequency-based music, 432 Hz, and abundance energy

52:58 - Why doing creative work is not selfish

54:10 - Choosing collaborators who are ready for growth

55:17 - How Christopher and Natalie became co-hosts

57:17 - More on oils, candles, and manifestation rituals

58:49 - Why this story needs a part two

60:23 - Where to find Colleen and details on Goddess Noir

62:24 - Christopher and Natalie's closing info

Sponsor:

Men.tality:

https://www.datingmentality.com

Guest links:

Colleen Shannon:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/worldssexiestdj?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Weblink: https://www.djcolleenshannon.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@djcolleenshannon?_r=1&_t=ZP-98yFS7Xe2RS

Host links:

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Most men think trust is something you either have or don't. Jordan Candlish disagrees — and he'd know. After a heartbreak that put him flat on the floor, Jordan rebuilt himself from the inside out and became one of the leading voices helping men become the kind of partner people can actually rely on.

In this episode, Jordan, Christopher and Natalie break down what emotional safety actually looks like in practice — not the Instagram-therapy version, the real one. They cover why internal stability matters more than any grand romantic gesture, how to catch yourself mid-pattern before an old wound runs the show, and why most men are more comfortable being physically intimate than emotionally honest — and what that costs them long-term.

You'll also hear Jordan's take on why every man needs a tribe of other men who'll actually hold him accountable, practical tools for expressing what you're feeling without turning it into a fight, and how surrender — not control — is often the fastest path to peace in a relationship.

If you've ever wondered why some men seem to lead effortlessly in their relationships while others keep hitting the same wall, this conversation is the blueprint.

• Jordan Candless' journey from heartbreak to becoming a leading relationship coach

• The importance of internal stability for trustworthy and reliable men

• Recognizing the "rock bottom" moments that trigger profound transformation

• How men can become aware of old emotional reactions and interrupt unhealthy patterns

• The role of emotional connection over physical intimacy in long-term relationships

• Tips for guys to share vulnerabilities safely and build trust with their partners

• Strategies to find and develop a tribe of supportive men for emotional accountability

• The significance of surrendering to a higher power or God for peace and guidance

• Practical tools like journaling and nonviolent communication to express emotions effectively

• How to communicate your growth and intentions to your partner over time

00:00 - Introduction: Why men need trust and emotional safety in relationships

00:32 - Jordan Candless' background and the mission behind his work

01:23 - Personal story of heartbreak and the awakening moment

02:13 - The significance of internal stability and emotional grounding

03:30 - Common "rock bottom" moments that prompt men to seek change

04:59 - Recognizing old emotional reactions and interrupting patterns

06:20 - The power of awareness and curiosity in emotional regulation

07:45 - How vulnerability and deep self-work transform relationships

08:33 - The importance of sustained effort and showing consistent growth

09:54 - How to find trustworthy men for emotional support and accountability

11:21 - The role of emotional work in healing childhood wounds and traumas

12:47 - Jordan's own transformation through heartbreak and spiritual awakening

13:44 - The deepening of maturity and leadership in relationships over time

15:01 - Navigating avoidance, ego, and emotional expression in men

16:28 - Practical tools: journaling, reading from prepared notes, and honest communication

17:48 - Managing triggers and reactions during conflict

19:14 - The link between emotional health and physical well-being

20:10 - Leading with confidence and boundaries in partnerships

21:40 - Embracing vulnerability as a strength for both men and women

23:02 - The societal disconnect from men's emotional expression and healing

24:36 - The importance of community and brotherhood for emotional resilience

25:52 - Balancing feminine and masculine energies in relationships

27:22 - How to lean into your power while respecting your partner's independence

28:44 - The significance of clarity, purpose, and self-leadership

30:01 - Reassurance, consistency, and honest dialogue to build long-term trust

31:21 - Practical steps for integrating emotional awareness into daily life

32:53 - The power of connecting with a higher power or divine guidance

34:10 - Letting go of control and embracing surrender for peace and growth

36:00 - Tools like prayer, meditation, and gratitude to stay grounded

37:08 - The importance of honesty and prepared communication in conflicts

38:07 - Building emotional intelligence as a foundation for trust

39:24 - Jordan's closing message: the importance of community, purpose, and continuous growth

40:50 - How to connect with Jordan Candless and upcoming retreats

41:32 - Final encouragement for men to step into their power and emotional truth

Sponsor link:

Vinted: https://www.vinted.com

Guest links:

Jordan Candlish

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordancandlish01?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jordancandlish01?_r=1&_t=ZP-98ajD9k1XCw

YouTube: https://youtube.com/@jordancandlish?si=U4bQLIiKqfEQGez-

Host links

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Celebration as Christopher and Natalie hit a milestone most podcasts never reach: episode 150. In this unscripted, no-notes conversation, they pull back the curtain on what it's actually taken to keep Dating Intelligence going — the burnout, the format pivots, the moments they almost quit — and why the real work was never about dating advice, it was about doing the inner work themselves first. They talk candidly about authenticity versus performance, building community that actually sticks, and how personal transformation shows up in everything from relationships to money to how you show up on camera. Then they shift gears entirely: road trip stories, DJ Nani makes an appearance, and a reminder that even people who talk about relationships for a living are still figuring it out in real time.

Key topics

Milestone celebration and behind-the-scenes stories

The importance of authenticity and inner work in personal growth

Strategies for building community and meaningful connections

Insights on podcasting evolution and content format changes

The role of humor, energy, and authenticity in hosting and relationships Celebration of 150 episodes

Personal growth and transformation

Road trip stories and snacks

Music and self-expression

Vulnerability and evolution in life and podcasting

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Milestone Celebration

00:30 Host Appreciation and Show Evolution

01:49 Overcoming Burnout and Staying Motivated

02:47 The Power of Authenticity and Charisma

04:00 How Social Media Sparks Led to Collaboration

07:55 Podcast Format Changes and Video Integration

08:50 The Importance of Perspective in Relationships

12:01 Handling Toxic Environments and Energy Management

15:02 Personal Stories of Overcoming Challenges

19:54 Event Highlights and Community Building

24:00 The Intersection of Romance and Finance

26:59 Unblocking Mindsets for Better Opportunities

30:01 Road Trip Adventures and Personal Growth

31:06 Closing Remarks and Future Plans

32:29 Wedding in Utah and Celebrating Love

34:15 Yin and Yang in Relationships

36:03 Road Trip Snacks and Music Rituals

48:01 Memorable Road Trip Moments

54:38 Favorite Music and Playlist Tips

01:00:33 Reflections on Growth and Future Goals

Links:

Alyssa Jenkins - Genesis Wealth Partners - https://www.linkedin.com/in/alyssajenkins

Natalie Stavola - Coach and Podcast Host - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nataliestavola

Christopher Louis - Podcast Host - https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate

Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://nataliestavolacoach.com

DatingMentality.com - https://datingmentality.com

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-stavola

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola

Dating Intelligence - https://www.dating-intelligence.com

Natalie Stavola and Christopher Louis dive into what really creates attraction in today's digital world—and it's not the perfect photo or carefully curated profile. From dating app pictures and social media filters to confidence, presence, and self-worth, they explore how authenticity becomes your greatest advantage.

They share personal stories, practical strategies, and mindset shifts for building genuine confidence, overcoming self-doubt, handling rejection with resilience, and showing up as your most authentic self. You'll also learn why your energy matters, how presence changes the way others experience you, and simple techniques to instantly access greater confidence in everyday life.

Whether you're navigating dating apps, building stronger relationships, or working on personal growth, this conversation offers actionable insights to help you stop performing and start attracting from a place of authenticity.

Keywords:

dating profiles, authenticity, self-confidence, social media, photos, self-image, dating apps, inner work, self-love, digital dating confidence, energy, presence, self-worth, relationships, personal growth, mindset, authenticity, rejection, success

Key Topics

The importance of authentic photos on dating apps

How social media influences self-perception

The role of inner confidence in dating success

Tips for taking genuine and flattering photos

The impact of editing and filters on self-image

The role of self-confidence in social interactions

How energy and mindset influence attraction

Techniques to switch on confidence instantly

Handling rejection without losing self-worth

The importance of presence and authenticity in success

Takeaways

Confidence is a skill that fluctuates and can be learned.

Energy and mindset directly impact how others perceive us.

Practicing presence helps in reducing anxiety and increasing authenticity.

Reframing rejection as a growth opportunity boosts resilience.

Being true to your emotions accelerates personal and relational growth.

Sound Bites

"You look how you look like who you look like."

"iPhones distort your face."

"Confidence is a skill set."

Chapters

00:00 – Introduction and Personal Stories

01:55 – The Reality of Bathroom Selfies and Profile Photos

04:01 – The Evolution of Self-Perception and Photos

06:02 – The Skill of Taking Good Photos and Posing

09:01 – Authenticity vs. Filters and FaceTune

12:03 – The Impact of Social Media and Editing Apps

15:06 – Inner Confidence and Self-Love in Dating

17:54 – The Future of Video Profiles and Authenticity

21:07 – Rejection, Self-Worth, and Inner Work

24:01 – The Power of Self-Perception and Belief Systems

28:02 – The Fluctuation of Confidence and How to Manage It

30:08 – Techniques to Instantly Switch on Confidence

35:12 – Handling Rejection and Maintaining Self-Worth

40:42 – The Power of Presence and Authenticity

44:59 – Using Energy to Attract Success and Love

50:35 – Overcoming Childhood Programming and Limiting Beliefs

55:01 – Practical Tips for Staying Present in Daily Life

1:00:00 – The Role of Inner Work in Personal Transformation

1:05:02 – Celebrating Small Wins and Building Confidence

1:10:02 – The Importance of Self-Compassion and Forgiveness

Sponsor:

If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/dating

Hosts info:

Natalie Stavola - Instagram

Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com

Christopher Louis - Instagram

Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/

In this episode of Dating Intelligence, hosts Christopher and Natalie explore the complex landscape of love, marriage, and self-discovery. Featuring therapist Jamie Lynn, they delve into societal pressures, the evolving mindset around marriage, and how personal growth influences relationship choices. Whether you're contemplating marriage or navigating love at any age, this conversation offers clarity and fresh perspectives.

Main Topics Explored:

• Societal expectations and the role of marriage as a status symbol

• The differences in mindset about marriage for younger vs. older adults

• The impact of childhood conditioning and trauma on relationship choices

• How love differs from attachment and trauma bonds

• Practical advice on having honest conversations about marriage expectations

• The influence of cultural standards on women's perceptions of worth

• Navigating pressure from family and society to marry

• The significance of self-love and authenticity in partnership

• Benefits and challenges of marrying young vs. later in life

Timestamps:

• 00:00 - Introduction and banter between hosts

• 01:13 - Guest introduction and conversation about her background

• 02:42 - Perspective on marriage and societal conditioning

• 04:21 - The influence of childhood and societal programming

• 06:05 - The importance of authentic connection over societal approval

• 09:10 - Why many women marry for status, not love

• 11:52 - Differences in marriage mindset across life stages

• 14:21 - Risks and benefits of marrying young vs. later in life

• 16:36 - Love versus attachment—key distinctions

• 18:08 - Traditional roles in marriage and personal preferences

• 21:01 - The impact of trauma bonds and soul connection

• 23:32 - Gender differences in marriage pressure

• 27:14 - How to approach relationship conversations early

• 30:20 - The importance of alignment and shared values

• 33:23 - Feeding into societal narratives and real self-awareness

• 36:52 - Women's wiring for companionship and relationship fulfillment

• 38:45 - Self-love as a foundation for healthy partnerships

• 41:16 - Pros and cons of getting married young

• 45:17 - The significance of family lineage and cultural expectations

• 46:21 - Jamie Lynn's experience with Australian family

• 48:01 - Connecting with the guests and closing remarks

Guest links:

Jamie Lynn- Instagram

Pinkpill Therapy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pinkpilltherapy

Hosts info:

• Natalie Stavola - Instagram

• Natalie Stavola Coaching - https://natalie-stavola-coach.com

• Christopher Louis - Instagram

• Dating Intelligence - https://dating-intelligence.com/

Whether you're single, dating, or considering marriage, this episode encourages you to reflect on your worth, values, and the true indicators of a fulfilling relationship.

Dana and Daniel built a viral comedy series out of their real polyamorous relationship — and the result is funnier, messier, and more honest than most people expect. On this episode, Natalie and Christopher sit down with the duo behind The Poly Couple to talk about what actually happens when you turn your love life into content: the boundaries that hold it together, the jealousy that has to be worked through (not avoided), and the friendship that makes the whole thing possible.

This isn't a polyamory 101 lecture. It's a real conversation about communication under pressure, what ethical non-monogamy looks like day-to-day, and why authenticity — on camera and off — is the only thing that actually works.

In this episode:

• The evolution of their web series inspired by true events and their journey into filmmaking

• What polyamory truly means: loving more than one person in diverse ways

• The importance of communication, trust, and boundaries in ethical non-monogamy

• How to introduce poly concepts to a partner and navigate difficult conversations

• The role of jealousy: a natural indicator of care and trust issues

• Personal boundaries, including scheduling and respectful communication

• The humorous side of poly life: clips from their series and real-life anecdotes

• The ongoing challenges and lessons learned in maintaining multiple relationships

• How their long-term friendship and collaboration strengthen their relationship storytelling

• The significance of authenticity and emotional truth in their content creation

Timestamps:

00:00 - Welcome and episode overview: Exploring humor and honesty in polyamory

00:21 - Introducing Dana and Daniel, creators of a viral poly series

03:42 - What is polyamory? Definitions and misconceptions

05:15 - How they discovered polyamory and its inspiration from historical tour stories

07:24 - The realities and challenges of opening up a relationship

08:49 - The importance of trust and communication in navigating poly environments

11:17 - Differentiating between genuine polyamory and misused labels

13:08 - The cathartic process of writing and filming personal stories

15:40 - The emotionalDepth of the series and learning from mistakes

17:31 - Handling jealousy and red flags in relationships

20:24 - Managing insecurities and trust issues with partners

23:52 - Setting boundaries: transparency and respecting each other's space

28:22 - How they organize their busy schedules and maintain trust

31:31 - Life filming the series: balancing creativity with daily life

33:36 - How long they've been friends and collaborators

34:41 - Resources and social platforms where you can follow Dana, Daniel, and the

Series

Resources & Links:

Sponsors:

J4L

Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/uK4nXo

J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival

Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/

Poly Couple Info:

• [Dana and the Wolf - YouTube](https://youtube.com/channel/ DanaandtheWolf)

Connect with Dana and Daniel:

• @danaandthewolf (I THINK ALL OF THEIR HANDLES ARE DANA AND THE WOLF

• ELECTRICNOW - TT - @electricnow / INSTA - @electricnowtv / TWITTER - @electricnowtv

• ELECTRIC ENTERTAINMENT TT - @electricentertainment / INSTA - @electricentertainmentofficial / TWITTER - @electricEnt1

• DEAN DEVLIN - TT - @DDEVLINJR / INSTA - @officialdeandevlin/ TWITTER - @dean_devlin

• Air Date: The episode drops June 16th at 4am PST

• Follow their series for more real, raw, and hilarious insights into polyamory

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/

Special thanks to the hosts and their engaging questions. Stay connected, stay truthful, and keep exploring the complexities of modern love.

You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work — or at least you think you have. So why does the same relationship keep showing up with a different face?

In this episode, Christopher and co-host Natalie Stavola sit down with energy healer Stefanie Truino to explore what traditional self-help can't reach: the energetic and subconscious layers driving your love life from underneath. They break down how emotional blockages get lodged in the body, why cord attachments to past partners keep you energetically tethered long after the relationship ends, and how tools like Reiki, astrology, and the Akashic Records can reveal the patterns you've been too close to see.

This isn't woo. This is the part of the work most people skip — and why they stay stuck.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Current Events

02:59 Exploring Dating Dynamics and New Partnerships

05:52 Introducing Energy Healing and Its Impact

08:53 Understanding Emotional Blockages in Relationships

11:59 Skepticism and the Healing Process

14:58 Reprogramming Thought Forms for Better Relationships

18:45 Exploring Inner Child Healing

21:31 The Role of Intuition in Healing

24:18 Energy Cleansing Techniques

25:32 Understanding Cords of Attachment

30:08 Navigating Energy Drain in Social Situations

33:49 The Dynamics of Social Interactions

34:45 Astrology and Personal Validation

36:50 The Influence of Astrology on Life Decisions

39:05 Understanding Personal Patterns Through Astrology

41:01 Exploring the Akashic Records

43:22 Starting Your Healing Journey

Sponsors:

J4L Web link: - https://trk.pdt.im/click?pid=239&offer_id=15&sub1=June2 J4L festival link: https://j4l.com/dating-festival Twitter: https://x.com/ComJ4love

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFig402uwrJuhz-Ub25I60g/videos

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j4l_com_/

Christopher Louis:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christopherlouisdate?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Web: https://dating-intelligence.com/

Men.tality: https://www.datingmentality.com/

Natalie Stavola:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliestavola?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D

Web: https://www.nataliestavolacoach.com/