Relationships are hard. They get extra hard when there are ‘deal breaker’ scenarios. I’ve been with my significant other for just under two years. We are committed to each other and have strong feelings for each other but have a long distance relationship. We’re both career minded folks. The biggest issue besides distance (a 2hr drive, so not a huge distance but just enough to get in the way) is children. At the start of the relationship I was very much leaning against children, they were also unsure leading towards ‘No’. As things moved on, I became a firm ‘no’ a ‘hard no’ I don’t want children of my own, I don’t want to adopt children. They have flipped the script and is now a ‘hard yes’ and wants to have a baby very badly. I’m not even sure we can even manage to live together let alone raise a child, or conceive one. Even if all the stars aligned and the distance was removed, I know in my heart and rational brain that being a parent is not something I want any part of. I like other people’s children, but I do not want my own. The question at hand is, is this relationship salvageable or must I be the villain, and end the relationship?