The basics

•  I wanna start of by saying that nobody has all their shit together all the time
  • I get invited as a key note speaker
  • Give interviews
  • Have created a successful group program with a 100% success rate
  • And still there are days when I see that I am wearing my panties inside out  😀
• Main approach when failing: “Well, that didn’t work out lol, what can I do differently next time?”
• Failing is an indicator that you “bite of more than you could chew”
  • Which means that you are hungry for the next level/ the next step
  • And only when we dare to leave our comfort zone, dream bigger, dare more: We can create a life we feel excited about waking up to every morning 
  • So failing kindaaa means that you are on the right track and only need to make some adjustments

Tip 1: Make a cross at “shitty day”

• Mentally close the chapter, go to bed and say “well, that sucked today, aye? I make a cross at “shitty day” today.
• Be disappointed, make a big cross at “shitty day”, make peace with it and shift your perspective to “What can tomorrow bring though?”

Tip 2: Normalize failing and making mistakes

• I wrote my master thesis on vulnerability: Admitting failure and communicating your mistakes can become one of the greatest boosters for success
• So, allow yourself to make mistakes. 
• When we allow ourselves to make mistakes, we can see that it’s not the end of the world when we fail.
  • Mistakes are opportunities for us to learn, grow and do better
• You don’t have to be good at everything! 
• Try to adopt this sweet beginners mindset
  • Instead of trying to be “perfect” at new things you’re learning, focus on enjoying the activity and slowly learning how to get better. 
  • Adapt this more playful attitude. In the end, you’re doing it for the run, right? 

Tip 3: Don’t identify with your failings 

• Instead of saying I am a failure, say “I failed at this test”
  • It’s a gigantic mindset shift
• Instead of guilt-tripping yourself,a simple question:
  • Did you do your best? 
  • Cut yourself some slack!
• You can’t change the past, you can only do better in the future

Tip 4: Do you want comfort or solutions

• The next time when you massively failed and you’re telling a friend about this, make it clear what you want from them
  • “Hey sunshine, I hope you’re doing fine. I just had my big presentation at work and I fucked it up big times, are you free this evening?  I would really love some comfort right now. I don’t wanna talk about it, just get comforted”

Tip 5: Game on & never game over

• Try to see it as a game
• Of course, you’re gonna have to play this one level 15 times until you’ve nailed it
• It would be the lamest thing ever if it was too easy
• Take over the birds perspective and see it objectively 
• as if you’re playing a game and want to unlock the next level
• Failing only means GAME ON and never GAME OVER
  • Try to find new angles and new strategies
  • What can you do different next time?
  • Nothing ever is a dead-end
  • You only need to find a new solution
  • You’ve got this

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