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Something that's become really clear to us as we've opened up these conversations about practicing vulnerability in the DHC way, is that there's no vulnerability without taking responsibility for what we want and how we're showing up.

We often think about vulnerability as the nail-biting space we're in before we pour our hearts out to someone we love, or when we reveal something about ourselves, knowing we're risking rejection, but what Bria and I have been discovering again and again since the launch of Dead Hearts Club, is that vulnerability is a deeply responsible process and practice.

When we get vulnerable, we do so first with ourselves. We begin to ask questions about our inner resources — and what inner resources another person might have available to them. What happens when we want to create connection or understanding, but the person we're trying to connect with is coming from a different place, with conflicting needs, desires, and capacity? How do we not make each other wrong for who we are and what we're capable of?

This topic is vast and deep, and we explore questions about boundaries and love within the practice of personal responsibility.

+ GLOW and how we are basically that + This Instagram post and the gift of asking before dumping + The new DHC slogan we're thinking about putting on a mug + The Holistic Psychologist + A real-time DHC moment that created a very different kind of ending

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How do you act vulnerably (and hold yourself in personal integrity) when dealing with strangers from the internet? In this episode of Dead Hearts Club, we hit record during a conversation about the murky landscape of online dating from the DHC lens. This is real talk: we're talking catfishing (and blowfish?), how to get through online dating app hellfire as a sensitive, conscious dater, ghosting and attachment styles in dating. We start playfully, but end up getting vulnerable with our personal stories and questions about what it means to "come on too strong," and we merge personal development, consciousness, and simply being human with a light-hearted approach that genuinely explores the difference between falling into ourselves and falling toward someone else when there's a possibility of connection. Lean in, we're going there!

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Every so often, the Universe seems to throw people together like some kind of magic cosmic game of Tetris — where you know right away someone you just met is going to be a big part of your story; that's what it was like for us.

In this first episode of Dead Hearts Club, Morgan and Bria introduce one another. We'll tell you about how we met and the magic synchronicities that brought us together, and how, totally unexpectedly, we stumbled upon an inner directive for living that became Dead Hearts Club — and how doing life in this way has changed basically everything about the way we live, and how we do relationships.

We also talk about vulnerability as a choice, and what it means to have the inner resources to choose this kind of heart-openness. Most importantly, we explore how it's not even really about the end result of our vulnerability, or how someone responds to us when we've been vulnerable, but how we're embodying deep trust in ourselves.

This is a really fun, warm and heart-opening conversation, and we're so grateful to have you listen in. Listen and subscibe on Apple podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher. Leave us a review or shoot us a message about the episodes that impact you. We'll share your stories and messages that kill us in a good way. DM us on Instagram @deadhearts.club, or send us a good ol' fashioned email ([email protected]).

I think we all consider ourselves conscious, emotionally intelligent humans around here, but what happens when the rubber meets the road and you and your very good friend end up interested in the same guy? And one of you already has a history with said guy?

Yikes.

If you listened to our first episode, you know that we unpacked a lot as we upturned our personal narratives and really committed to Dead Hearts Club as a way of living, but in this episode, Bria and I share an experience that asked us to dig deep.

Where is the intersection between being the ride-or-die friend we all want and deserve, and honoring your own inner directives -- even if they're hurtful to someone you love? How do you draw healthy, loving boundaries? How do you make sure you're not using "personal truth" as a spiritual bypass, and actually creating harm in your relationships? What's the difference between intention vs impact?

And what about co-dependence in friendship? We're used to talking about codependence in romantic partnerships, but does it show up in other intimate relationships, too? And how do you know you're in a childhood-trauma-induced spiral and making someone you love the 'bad guy'…?

Is it possible to recover from something that takes you so far out of your comfort zone + what you thought you could withstand together? Is it possible to stay present to conflicting truths and desires, without really knowing if you want to salvage the relationship at all?

And, most importantly: What's possible if you're willing to chuck everything you thought you knew about intimacy in friendship, and forge new pathways to connection and truth-telling? This is the super complicated landscape we explore in this episode.

AMAZINGLY we've already heard from some of you about your own incredibly vulnerable stories of heart-exploding proportion, and we're excited to share some of them on future episodes. Send us a DM on Instagram @deadhearts.club or leave us a review (and subscribing!) Apple podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher.

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Thank you! We hope you love this episode.

"The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day."

These are words from David Foster Wallace, and his speech, This is Water, which came to mind during our conversation with Jenna Guzman-Lowery, a trauma therapist and newly-appointed city council member in my city of Redlands, California.

When Dead Hearts Club was born, Bria and I knew right away that we didn't want to have a podcast about vulnerability without immediately opening up a conversation about social justice and the explosive polarization so many of us are seeing and experiencing in our current political climate — but this episode isn't about politics. This is personal — it's a conversation about liberation, and the surprising, delicate overlay of trauma and access to resources. It's about how we understand ourselves and what community and deservingness mean, in (and out of) a political and social context.

This conversation is about how we try to find common ground, especially with people we struggle to not just agree with, but find any understanding with at all, especially on topics like race and equality. Jenna is an incredibly gentle guide into profound consideration of what radical healing might actually look like.

Initially, I planned on editing out (as I usually do) the little bit of conversation that always centers us before we start, but this time, I actually think it's important that, in true DHC-fashion, you get to hear where we begin and the vulnerable nuggets of tentative, tender territory we all sort of slid into together. I also left in the short meditation we did as we began (and I got fancy and added some music for you) so that, as you listen, you, also, can ground into your body, and your heart, and practice whatever your version of love and belonging is, so that you can listen with your whole being.

We hope you love this conversation. It means a lot to us, and is one I think we all need to be having.

Welcome to the official trailer for Season 1 of Dead Hearts Club. In this brief intro, peek inside the moment that launched DHC as an inner directive for deep living between your host, Morgan Wade, and co-host, Bria Anderson.

Dead Hearts Club launches in full capacity December 1st! Follow us on Instagram @deadhearts.club where we share the behind-the-scenes of our creation process, hilarious outtakes, interviews with guests and the words and wisdom that has turned DHC into the thriving, inspiring conversations they are today.

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