...and why I bother

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Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.

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Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.

She is the author of:

Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.

I shed my guilt (of cutting family ties) when I accepted my decision on its own terms, without endlessly prosecuting old grievances, without weighing his sins against mine. Without thinking of my father I learned to accept my decision for its own sake, because of me not because of him, because I needed it not because he deserved it. It was the only way I could love him. ~ Tara Westover in her memoir, Educated

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Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.

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Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.

She is the author of:

Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.

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Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.

~~~

Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.

She is the author of:

Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.

Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Victim Consciousness, by Lynne Forrest

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Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.

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Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.

She is the author of:

Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.

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~ Nayyirah Waheed, Salt

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Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.

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Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, empowerment, wisdom, and creativity.

She is the author of:

Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have.

She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline.

My name is Karen C.L. Anderson and I am an adult daughter, with the emphasis on adult. I am also the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing & Healing Toxic Generational Patterns.

In this podcast I answer questions from readers, tell stories, give advice, and share the tools and processes I’ve used to heal my relationship with my mother.

What started out as one of the most painful aspects of my life, something I saw as permanent and forever limiting, has turned into the greatest catalyst for my growth, wisdom, creativity, and joy.

I did that. I do it every day. And so can you.

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On the surface, you think it’s about your mother.

Underneath, where it counts, it’s about you and your self-respect, self-trust, self-agency, and self-expression.

Your grown-ass-womanhood.

Your power, your choice, your creativity.

When you own that (and owning it is a life-long process . . . not a one-and-done-flip-of-a-switch), you will realize that no matter what the status of relationship with her, your relationship with yourself will change in ways you can’t even imagine.